As a parent, what is the hardest thing you have seen your child go through?

Question

As a parent, what is the hardest thing you have seen your child go through?

Answer 1

puberty not good for a dad{i have a daughter}

Answer 2

My son has a stammer.  Along with the taunting and jibing, he has also made some lifelong friends along the way.  As every parent does, come school plays etc, I was there watching him  perform (always in the choir) and clapping and cheering like mad, just the same as I did for my two elder daughters who usually got a talking part - for obvious reasons, my son didn't speak in the plays.

On his last day of junior school, they did a 'big brother' scene.  It showed the small village school leavers throughout the years they had been there, how they had changed growing up (showing pics on a large projector screen) and various children spoke of their memories.

The next scene was an alternative Cinderella story.  It got to the part when the prince was trying to find his princess with the shoe and suddenly a voice, a really lovely singing voice just started  and sang that the shoe actually fitted 'their' foot and Prince Charming went white!

An 'ugly sister' came in with orange wooley hair and it was my son!!!  He had, for the first time in his LIFE had his voice heard in a school play!  The parents and teachers all knew this was going to happen of course, and video'ed it for me.... (and of me crying!!) but my son wanted it to be a surprise!

At the end of the leaving assembly, my son stood up and said he had wanted to do that for years - and I cried my heart out!

This may not sound very heart wrenching - but I was so proud, and watching your child struggle with simple communication EVERY day has been hard.

I know children go through much much worse, but this was my hardest time, although full of pride!

:o)

Answer 3

my husband travels for work really often so its hard on our kids that their dad is gone so much. especially on my 4 yr old. he adores his dad! breaks my heart...

Answer 4

Having their father reject them three times while they were in foster care because he told the state he did not want kids.

Answer 5

We are waiting for an assesment for our 2 and a half yr old son as they suspect he has autism. Every day is hard as we can't control his environment enough to stop him getting upset. He seems locked in his own little world and I just want to go there too so I can help him.

Answer 6

It has to be the doctors in the hospital trying yo get blood out of them. My two sons were in hospital, one was 16mths and the other 8mths.The docs had to try 3 different parts of there body. they screamed the place down.

Answer 7

Thankfully nothing major!!

The hardest thing had to be when I promised my daughter that she wouldn't need stitches but she had to go to A&E.  

She came home with stitches :((((

Answer 8

My daughter had gastro at 4 months old and was nearly hospitalised (she was put on a drip for 4 hours) watching her having the drip catheter put in was horrific.

My son so far has only had two bouts of tonsillitis and had a 41 degree fever and didn't eat for a week.

Both my kids have had it pretty easy, some of these other answers bought tears to my eyes.

My kid sister (she is 6) has had to have 4 operations on her hips (legs broken and full cast from high waist to ankle) the most recent was 2 months ago. And she chose not to have pain relief......what a trouper!!!

Answer 9

Both my children are dyslexic and the hardest thing so far for them is not being able to understand why they get different school work from everyone else and how it's so hard for them to try and read or write a simple sentence but on the other hand they are both great at maths and are really good artists and both have loving natures ,but as i always tell them not everyone is the same and no one is perfect

Answer 10

so far teething he's 15 months do i've got loads more to go through

Answer 11

When my child watched her father smothering me on the couch from 3 feet away.  When he let me up and stormed away she came over and wiped my tears away with her blankie.  She NEVER should have had to see that, EVER.

My middle daughter, when she had to get an invasive physical exam after being molested at her daycare.  Another thing no child should EVER have to go through.

Answer 12

When all 3 of mine were involved in a serious road traffic accident.

They werent with me, but I was told and got to the hospital in time to see them being taken off the ambulance.

I couldnt be in 3 places in once and having to watch them go through investigations, treatments and  tests after tests was hard for me, they all recovered thankfully, although my son spent his first birthday in hospital.

actually, it was much harder for me than them. Kids can deal with anything with a supportive family around.

Answer 13

im a parent using my sons account

the hrdest thing i saw my 14 year old son  go through is becoming one of the wrong crowd an ending up adicted to stealin and drugs

he got over  it though with lots of help

and now regrets it

Answer 14

Going through treatment for cancer-NHL- he is a survivor though the memories of what he went through are fresh in my mind

Answer 15

For my son it was his bilateral ear infection that lasted a month.  He was nine months old.  He couldn't lift his head, he ran a fever for weeks and he lost two pounds in that month because he was so sick he didn't want to eat.  The doctor had to re-hydrate him several times and he spent almost a week in the hospital.

For my daughter it's been her getting her first set of immunization shots.  She screamed and cried so much it made me cry too!

Answer 16

Hi there, I've just sold my daughters pony which she'd had since she was 9 years old, she's 15 now and that was the most upsetting thing I've ever seen her go through.  I feel so guilty now and wish I could have kept her pony forever but times are hard for most of us and he had to go but it's not a nice thing to have had to put my daughter through.  (Loz's partner Caz)

Answer 17

I'm the child, but my mom and I talked about this recently, so I'll answer anyway.

Either my constant illness (I was in the ER for Christmas Freshman year) or my Tourette's/OCD. She says that there are times when she'll forget that I have it until she'll see me tic. She feels guilty after, but I tell her not to.

Funnily enough, the thing that was hardest for my mother to see me go through was far from what was hardest for me. Losing my grandfather was the hardest thing I ever went through (not to mention my cousin, aunt, uncle, etc., but I was really close to my Grampa).

Everyone goes through hard times, and hopefully it makes us better people. After reading some of the other things people have written, it's impossible not to feel that I've lived a pretty easy life. I'm impressed by the things people have survived.

I have an aunt whose son was born three months premature. He only weighed 1 lb 3 oz., and the doctor's were positive he wouldn't survive. I still don't know how she made it through that, but her son is now eleven, and absolutely brilliant.

Answer 18

Being bullied for 2yrs and feeling an absolute failure that it took so long to sort it out.

I refused to send him to school fought with the head daily for that 2yrs until finally I flipped and nearly hit the child and the head!!

Thankfully it stopped there, but about 12 months later my Son paid him back for the h**l he put him through

Answer 19

Being bullied by other kids.  It breaks my heart!  I've tried so hard to teach my kids how to love and be loved and then wham, some little mean kid makes them feel awful.  So frustrating!

Answer 20

Watching my eldest son after he arrived. He came from a horrible background, but seeing improve daily is pure gold.

My next son William had 2 operations early this year, to repair his ear. He is allergic to anaesthesia, so you can only imagine. It was terrible after the first op, but thankfully I had a brilliant team of Doctors and nurses there with him.

My middle son Tobias, was knocked out cold, and stopped breathing in our yard, by a play mate. He had CPR preformed on him at the time, while the ambulance came. It was terrible, and send me into early labour. Thankfully again for the hospital staff, and Hubby.

Then my babies. Ryan & Cody were born early and slowly had to fight for their life. They are 4.5 months and doing fine now.

Cody (the youngest) had a nasty bout of colic, but also has some bowel problems. He has more things put into his bum and mouth than I have ever had in my life. The doctors are still trying to find the problem. And at 4 months old, you just hope it's going to be ok.

So all 5 at one stage or another, have sent me grey. I am thankful although they have problems, nothing has been life threatening so far. And they are still beautiful little boys.

Even as a parent, some times we are helpless to stop their pain.

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Answer 21

My son having surgery to remove a tumor from his neck and head when he was only 3 months old.  Or when he had an MRSA infection when he was 8 months old.  Maybe when he had another operation when he was 12 months old to have rods put in his tibia and fibula along with a bone graph from his hip and him in a body cast.

Keep us in your prayers

Good Luck

Answer 22

Him being bullied in elementary school. Don't worry, I fixed things!

Answer 23

surgery to save her life from bleeding in the brain when she was a baby and  watching her fall into bad depressing quiet a few times and she only 18

Answer 24

My son is only 2 so not much has happened yet, but last year we were running down a hill together and he tripped so I pulled him up by his arm and he screamed! Straight away I thought that I had dislocated his shoulder so I took him to A&E. We were sat up there for an hour and a half before he was taken into triage where his arm was put in a sling. He screamed and screamed and kept trying to get his arm out so in the end I let him pull it out. When we went in to see the doctor, he realised that it wasn't his shoulder but his elbow! They asked me to take his top off and in doing so I popped the bone back in!

I felt terrible, I tried to stop him from falling and hurting himself and in doing so I hurt him more. What was worse was that there was nothing I could do for him to ease the pain. The doctor did reassure me though that that injury (known as a pulled elbow) was one of the most common toddler injuries, along with a banged head!