As adoptee parents whats your biggest fears with birth parents???

Question

whether legal adoption or not.,,, :::

Answer 1

The adopted parents may not tell the child until late, child get angry. Child walkout to find birth parents bibi child

Answer 2

Hi Dave,

I remember your past questions so i understand why you are asking this question.  With an open adoption i think my situation is a little different.  My number one fear is that when my daughters grow up they will want nothing to do with me.  i think its an irrational fear but its still there.

As an aparent in your situation, i would fear if my child found out he was adopted he would search for his first family or choose them over me.  ok maybe not so different.  But for your wife's son's adoptive family it is more of a rational fear because of their lies and secrets.

Best of luck.

Answer 3

Mine is that my child will want to have contact with them and that they will reject my child.  Or that the will have contact for a time and then will just decide to go away.  I would hate my child to be hurt in that way.

Answer 4

My daughters are internationally adopted, and were abandoned by their birth parents in their native country.  I am sure that all three girls would love to be able to contact their birth families, and I would do everything I could to help them, but it just isn't possible because of the political and social environment in their native country.  So I guess my biggest fear about my daughter's birth parents is that we'll never be able to find them.  I hope this changes as time goes by!

Answer 5

Why would you ask such a silly question ?

Its pretty obvious dont you think ?

That their greatest fear would be that they the relinquishing parent would want their FLESH AND BLOOD back....

I am not sure WHAT you mean by adding the "by legal adoption or not" part - what are you trying to actually prove here ?

Answer 6

Wow, I agree. What in the world do you mean by legal or not?

My oldest son is adopted out on open adoption. Our biggest fear (the adopted parents, mine and his mother's) is that we

really don't know when the best time to tell him that he is adopted. We all talked and even if this wasn't an open adoption then the adopted parents would still feel that way. Oh, and after five years in any part of the US, biological parents that want there babies back have the right to do so and that is the other fear we hear about. But, our son is now 16 so, no worries.

Answer 7

...that their biological parents would take back their baby.

Answer 8

i wuz adopted and my foster mas worst fear wuz of taking me bak..tho she neverdid but thats okay cuz its her loss and to this day she regrets it..she made sum bad decisons in life....but she never ever fought for me bak..thats a good thing cuz i wouldnt have been taken care of.......i met my burth ma b4.....i look like her..but i dont forgive her for wut she did.....shes still in myheart but i dont have ne good memorys or feelings of her or for her.........