My son has a full blood sister that is a year younger than him. We learned of her birth thru his bio grandparents but were not able to find her in the foster care system (who had removed her from the home). We were not given the opportunity to try to foster or adopt her - or more importantly, my son was not given the opportunity to live with his sister. I've tried finding out info - especially because of my son's genetic disorder (to insure that the sister's new family is aware of the life-threatening issues associated with it). But I keep being told that due to privacy acts, we cannot know anything.
My question is this....I read all the comments by adoptees and worry that my son will resent me for not trying "harder" to find his sister or fighting for her, on his behalf. What would you do as an adoptive parent in this situation?
Thanks in advance for your "respectful" answers.
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