As an adult how do you feel/ What action do you take?

Question

As an adult when you are in any type of line waiting and another adult cuts in front of you or other people, How does it make you feel and what do you do in the situation?

Do you feel its so Kindergarten and just ignore it because you feel like a child tattling on someone " Cutting in line"

Or

Do you feel regardless what age you are some people even adults need to be re-taught politeness and manners so you do something about it?

Answer 1

I would politely say something like "excuse me, the line is back there..." or something.  If I get ignored, I let it go because it's not worth it, but most times people look embarrassed (either they didn't realize where the line was or they are embarrassed that they got called on cutting) and go to the back of the line.

On a side note, a couple of weeks ago I was at a drug store and there were about 10 people in line.  A cashier came up to open a second register and said "I can help the next person in line!"  The guy right in front of me darted over to get in front of the "next person in line" and the cashier kicked him out of her line and said she asked for the NEXT person, but would be happy to help him when it was his turn.  I was thrilled.  

Answer 2

dont just ignore it because the people at the back will be mad to the person allowing that.

Answer 3

I say, "Excuse me, the back of the queue is over here."

Some people have an arrogance that is never supported by looks, personality or intelligence.  

Answer 4

It depends on the person and on my day.  If someone is looks frazzled, like maybe this is their worst day ever, or is in such a desperate hurry (like a man who's clutching a package of infant pampers and a bottle of advil and looks like he hasn't slept in a week) I will usually let it go.  I know that someday I will be the mindless, sleep deprived parent of a newborn or having my worst day ever, and if people in the world could be kind enough to give me a wide berth I would really appreciate that.  You have to have some room for other people's humanity.

Ditto to someone who is elderly or seems to be impaired in some way.  I just let them go on their way, and silently wish them all the best.

If an adult is fit, not in a hurry, just seems to be being rude on purpose or perhaps unconciously, that is when I will say something.  I will model good manners in that context and say something to the effect of "Excuse me sir, but I think you missed the back of the line, which is behind the lady in the yellow t-shirt."  I say it with no rancor, just easy breezy.  Usually people are embarrassed and apologize and then I am glad I said it nicely because they are just ordinary people who made a goof.  Every once in a while I get a jerk who doesn't care or did it on purpose, and if they can't behave civilly I just say to myself "There, but for the grace of god goes I!" and let it go.

Answer 5

Definitely something should be said.  It is not childish to tell someone that they are lacking in etiquette; sometimes people need a little embarrassment in their lives to snap them back into reality.

Answer 6

My personality is assertive. I would and have mentioned politely in a calm voice to offenders, the line is behind me, or excuse me you have just stepped in front of me. Regardless of who it is, and dependent upon their reaction I may allow them to stay put.. However, I will most definitely bring it to their attention. They know what they have done, however it has probably been working for them their entire lives because especially females we are socialized to simply be quiet and not speak up.  

Answer 7

I personally do not feel threathened--it might be they had a person on line holding a spot---or they are just ignorant crass and stupid--certainly NOT worth starting anything over--it is only a line---it is NOT worth ruining my day or evening. The rest of the line standing people may take care of it--and I will ignore that also. You are always a better person to be the ADULT and avoid confrontations. There is NO cure for stupid !!...Have a happy day

Answer 8

Whenever this has happened to me I politely remind the person cutting where the line begins.

Answer 9

yep, i'd call them out on it.

it just goes to show that the world is a bad place, but not everyone has to follow that path.

satan shows everyday, through people whom do bad.... i believe it. i wouldn't let something so little ruin my day, i'd just take it w/ a grain of salt and know better next time.

i would say that adults do need to be corrected on their manners... "but, normie's mom lets him do it!"

Answer 10

It is a lack of courtesy that needs to be dealt with.  I call them on it.

Answer 11

i'd probably smile and say that the line's way over there...but if she/he doesn't move...i'll probably smile and do a bit of a lecture about propriety and manners :)

Answer 12

I usually just say, "Excuse me, I was in line." Sometimes people don't realize that you are in the line, and if they do, this is a way of calling them on it without being rude.  

Answer 13

"There are only two races of people in the world. The decent, and the indecent. To which race do you belong?"

- Dennis Prager, talk show host

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dennis_Prag...

The import of how we treat others can be discovered at funerals and the final judgement.

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Answer 14

ignore it...

Answer 15

I tell the m**o where the end of the line is.

Answer 16

sad to say but there are really uncourteous people despite their being"adult"..i owuld feel bad of course,but the best way to deal with it is to tell that person nicely that the line is on the back.that would be effective i think,to avoid "increasing the heat of argument"

Answer 17

I say "excuse me, the back of the line is right there"

Answer 18

it shows a lack of respect and depending on the person, I usally say that  the line forms behind me... not in front of me.

Answer 19

Even though i am not quite an adult... i am mature(i think) I would say "Excuse, would you mind going to the back of the line, please. Others have been waiting in line for a long time." Of course if a pregnant lady or mother came i would let her cut me anyway...  

Answer 20

I have said excuse me but there is a line you know. I have said that and some people say sorry and go to the back of the line and other just shrug there shoulders and still stand there. No one cares. Everyone is out for themselves.

Still it makes me mad. I would never cut the line.

Answer 21

i say sorry the lines behind that person over there and smile

Answer 22

I think most adults need to be taught manners.  If we saw children behaving the way most adults do, we would definitely say something to them.

When someone cuts in front of me, I usually say something like, "I'm sorry to bother you, but the end of line is behind me."  I try to be really polite, but sometimes the ignorance of others is greater than my manners.  

If they won't move, I will take out my cell phone, call my husband, and tell him I am going to be a little longer than I thought as there are people around me who don't know where the end of the line is.  We will then proceed to discuss the importance of manners and respect in today's society.  

If they don't move after that, then I usually turn to the person who is behind me and apologize for talking on the phone in public, as I know it can be considered rude.  Usually that person then comments on the rudeness of the line cutter and it makes it a little better as it isn't just me feeling upset.

Answer 23

I have had this happen quite a few times and I do say something and I'm not a sissy about saying something but unbelievably the person does not make a move to go to the end of the line.  I am awestruck by their audacity.