Asian Indian adpting parents adopting white or mexican kid?

Question

We are from India and are willing to adopt in US. We are in a dillemma about adopting white,mexican or latino kids since the same may be uncomfortable for the kid in future and may affect his/her emotionally.

Answer 1

Many people just want a baby no matter what the child may have to face. It's great that you are even considering how it will affect you babe.

There are going to be issues when you have a trans-racial match. Even when it comes to bio-families. My mom was hisp. and my dad cauc. and I didn't fit in that well on either side. My hispanic side saw my dad and his fam. as "The Man" and the caucasion side saw my being half hispanic something I should "overcome" .

You might be able to accept the child, but he/she need to be accepted by your peers and family. I adopted a caucasion boy and we haven't had any issues, my hisp. fam. had grown up and love him the same.

I honestly have never met a family who adopted an Indian (from India) child. Hum I think I may research that a little.

good luck and God bless

Answer 2

Thank you for considering how the adoptee will feel.  There are lots of blogs on the internet from transracial adoptees and how they felt growing up

Also the Book 'Outsiders Within' by transracial adoptees might give some insight.  I know there are some postings under this heading on youtube also

Answer 3

Transracial adoption is difficult no matter what races the child and family are from.  However, if you're loving, and handle it correctly, it should not be a barrier.  The important thing to realize is that the child will have TWO cultures to master - yours, and the culture they were born in.  When race is often so obvious (being available on the surface) it is important that the child understand all the things he/she would be expected to know as a member of that race/culture.  If they do not, it will be very hard for them to interact in society.  

Conversely, in order to feel like he/she is truly part of your family, he/she will need to belong to your culture as well.  In cases like this, you need to consider how your family/church/neighborhood/friends will react to a child with a different skin tone and bone structure.  It is important to NOT make the child feel like the outsider, and to do this, everyone involved with the child must feel able to give them the complete cultural embrace.  

All that being said, a home is better than not having one for children in foster care.  Do the best you can.  Use all available resources.  If you are committed and loving enough, you can be a blessing that some child may not have found otherwise.  Just remember, when you adopt, you're adopting a person - and people are much more than just their skin and names.

Answer 4

I feel as long as your well qualified to be a parent.  The kid should be happy hes going to a caring and supportive family.

Answer 5

I have an uncle an aunt who had difficulty conceiving a child for over 20 years, and opted to adopt a child.  They are both Indian, but were raised in Canada since they were children.  They flirted with the idea of adopting a white child or black child since they are the majority of children who need to be adopted here in Canada.  However, as people have already mentioned, it presents more difficulty for the child as they grow up.

So they went to India two years ago and adopted a baby boy from Maharashtra (my uncle and aunt are Punjabi).  Two years later, he is fit right in with the family, and speaks Punjabi and English.  When he grows up, he will be raised in an Indian culture, even though it it is not Marathi but Punjabi.

I know the process to adopt a child in India is difficult, but there are many children in orphanages there who need parents.  Being Indian yourselves, why not adopt one of these children instead of raising a child of another race.  It will be easier on the child when they grow up knowing that they are Indian and so are their parents, and easier for you folks to raise him/her because you don't have to accommodate his/her needs to preserve or maintain his/her culture.