Ask 4 help or just take when it's offered?

Question

do you think asking my mother in law to take the kids once a week intead of once every other week is too much?or shuold i only take help when it's offered.(my kids r driving me nuts, i'm at the end of my chain! my hus can't help...he's at boot camp.)i've got two h**l-raising kids...1.5 and 2.5.

Answer 1

That's a tough call depending on how well you get along with your mother-in-law! If the answer is not that well or just kind of, you might not like it when everyone is hearing about how she HAS to help you! Then it might be better to hire a sitter just for a few hours and take a break!

But if she has the time and likes having them over, she may be sympathic to your situation!

Good luck!

Answer 2

you had your children so you should be able to cope with them!

And i dont care if i get the thumbs down but im stuggling also recently with a new baby 7 weeks old and a 4 year old and all houework as well as looking after house and my brother but i had these kids ill look after them dont get me wrong i get my breaks when 4 year old at school and newborn is napping and then once a month when me and partner go for a night out but im sorry take charge of the situation,,

this is no means is ment to sound nasty but im sorry there your kids you need to structure them into good human beings please be strong and prove to yourself your kids and everyone else that you can do this

Answer 3

Never be reluctant to ask for help. This is what your family is for and you need them right now. Use the time away to calm down and take better care of yourself. This will enable you to be more patient with your kids when you are with them. Perhaps your in-laws have some techniques to straighten out your "h**l raisers". Remember, they raised the man you fell in love with.

Answer 4

Talk to your mother in law and friends. See what you can work out.  But remember you have to reciprocate in some way.  Nothing is free in this life.

Answer 5

Once every week might be too much for your mother-in-law, but you can always ask her if she'd be willing to do that.  Let her know that you're going crazing and ask if she has any suggestions or if she'd be willing to just come down and sit with you and both of you can keep an eye on the kids while you two talk or whatever.  Do you know anyone else who could babysit while you get out of the house?  Good luck!

Answer 6

Depends on your mother in law and the relationship you have with her.  I would never ever ever ask my mother in law for help, but thats just because of some things she has done in the past.  but, if  you are close with her, go for it.  good luck!

Answer 7

I think you should ask her for help! Asking her to take them once a week, just so you have time to regenerate yourself,is not out of the question! you don't want to get burnt out or start being overwhelmed so I say YES! Ask her!!! All she can say is Yes or No!

Answer 8

Instead of asking your mother in law to take them more frequently, which may be too much on her, have you thought about enlisting the help of some of your friends?? Some of them may be willing to take 1 of the kiddos for a night or even a week-end, and you would be surprised how much difference having just 1 with you for a while lessens the load!! Or, if you have any of your family(sisters, cousins, ect. around, they might be able to help, too). But don't be afraid to ask and let people you know and trust help you!!

Good luck!!

Answer 9

They are at "that age". Is there something on base where the wives get together? Ask mother in law over for a while (wink wink). You'll do it you've got smarts.

Answer 10

asking for help from family is never bad but don't be upset if they can't thats their right as well I would think that with their son away they would be really understanding and want to help you out. I think thats what healthy good families do each member contributes a little more than whats needed and in the long run it makes things better.

best of luck

Answer 11

Your mother in law is not your built in babysitter.  YOU had those children not her.  Small children require a lot of attention and get into everything.  If you need a break then I suggest putting them into day care a couple times a week or hiring a "mother's helper" or a babysitter while you take your break.