At a nightclub and some person plowing through the crowd hits you in the face (accidentally)? What do you do?

Question

This happened to me. I was dancing and some really tall guy gets me in the face with his arm as he passes by. I know it's impossible to avoid hitting people sometimes in a really crowded place but I always apologize if I'm the one that hit someone. I don't think it was on purpose but he never looked back and kept on walking. In the moment I just dismissed it, but now that I'm thinking about it, I wonder if I should have said something to him. My boyfriend wanted to say something too and I told him not to because it was just an accident.

Should either of us have approached him about it? I'd say the hit was with medium force...it didn't really hurt but it was hard.

Thanx everyone.

Answer 1

your boyfreind should of knocked the **** out of him  

Answer 2

Yeah, emulate the self-confessed "violent guy"; that's the All-American approach to any sort of problem. If it ever happens again, run to the bar, grab a bottle, smash it and go for the guy's throat. That'll make you feel better and you won't have to ever worry about someone bumping into you in that club again. It's even possible you'll never again be concerned about things like housing and living expenses since the State will be taking care of you for the rest of your life.

Honestly, the intelligence demonstrated by some responses in this forum is truly breathtaking.

I'm not too sure what the fact that it was a fairly tall guy who bumped into you has to do with the question. I'm quite tall (6' 4"), but it's not like it takes a few minutes for nerve impulses to travel from my arm to my brain, so I'm never too certain if I've bumped into someone or something.

Maybe the Tall Guy is also a generally rude guy or maybe he was so intently focused on some cute girl on the other side of the room that he never even felt his arm hit you.

Whatever the case, if the blow didn't hurt, then doesn't it seem unlikely it was intentional?

It seems to me that crowded dance floors are not the place to be if you want to make sure of avoiding all unwanted bodily contact. My experience is that there's often at least a few ungainly, half-drunk, poorly coordinated bad dancers out there trying to show off and flailing around in a semi-controlled manner. Add in people trying to move across the floor, trying to avoid the reasonable dancers and the mad ones, and it's certain that - as you say - people are going to get bumped and jostled.

My advice is to try to assume the best possible intention and believe that it was a mistake, that he didn't realise he'd hit you in the face and therefore didn't think there was a need to stop and apologise.

Answer 3

Those who tell you to  ignore those who hit you are a bunch of cowards who got bullied during school and they deserve it for not taking action. I, on the other hand, am quite a violent guy and whenever I'm in a club I look out for fights and sometimes I end up beaten up really bad. So you must keep a balance in every thing. You shouldn't take any body's **** but don't start pointless fights either, nor encourage your boyfriend to do so. However maybe you should have let your boyfriend have a chat with the tall guy and make him apologize to you.

Answer 4

I think you guys did the right thing by not confronting the tall guy. I am 99% sure that he was unaware that he hit you on your face. Perhaps he felt it that he bumped into something but that happens in a crowd, and maybe he said sorry but he did not look back to see if you guys heard it. Sorry. This kind of things happens often it is really annoying, but most people don't mean to cause you harm. If you would have been hurt that would have been a different case because than you might have had to ask him to cover your medical expenses.

Answer 5

Let it slide.