At any point in the wedding planning did you ever just want to say...?

Question

F*CK IT!!! I feel like that so bad right now! I want to jump on a plane and go Vegas! I don't know why I thought I could do this...or even wanted to do this! I guess sometimes you do weddings for others...not yourself and your future spouse. Ahhh!! I'm so frusterated!! What do I do??!?!

Answer 1

I've thought that a bunch of times, but then i remember how long I've been waiting for the day I get married and how disapointed My parents would be if they didn't get to share it with me. I would prolly regret it within a year if i didn't have a big wedding. If you have enought time, take a week off of wedding planning and talk. You'll feel much better at the end of the week.

Answer 2

I think you should go get a tranquilizer to use temporarily from your doctor.  I had a very small family gathering wedding with a reception for more people a few weeks later but the planning and all was alot and there was tension and pressure, luckily my sister helped with alot of it and I made it through okay.

Answer 3

Absolutely! But, don't give up. It will be SO worth it in the end. You'll be able to experience the wedding of your dreams and have the memories to last a lifetime!

The wedding is so your family can be included in your day, but it is mostly for you. That's why everyone says 'do what you want, it's your day!'. So don't get too offended when people try to argue with you or whatever because in the end, only what you and your FI want matter. Just relax and try to do some stuff that has nothing to do with the wedding now and then. It helps relieve stress! Good luck!

Answer 4

yes yes yes! i'm there!

in theory weddings are for the couple but if that is the case then why are we having to spend thousands on a party that we dont want for everyone else? my fiance and i wanted something super small but then our parents were worried about hurting people's feelings so we ended up having to go a lot bigger.  

so finally we said s***w it and have given in to the bigger wedding (with the same budget as the small) but i am making it exactly how i want it, picking and choosing the traditions i want to follow and i'm going to have a good time no matter what and if people don't like it they don't have to come

just do exactly what you want to do, if someone has a comment then let them know that it is what you want since it is in fact your wedding

it's made me a more well adjusted human being

Answer 5

Pay attention to how you work together to plan and trouble shoot for the wedding because it gives you a first look at how you will tackle future challenges.

To be honest I never felt like giving up and just going to Vegas but I felt that we learned how to work together to make important decisions. I worry about the weddings where the groom just choses his tux and shows up to the wedding without helping choose the specifics. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Yup and it got so bad over one particular weekend that on the monday morning I cancelled all the original plans and rearranged it for friday, it was a great day in the end and such a relief to just do it rather than all the stress of planning it.

just to prove I wasnt over reacting by doing this, my sister saw how stressed i was and how horrid family members had been to me that she decided to go to jamaica to get married!

Answer 7

Ha. I am getting to that point and guess what, I am getting married in Las Vegas! We are having a classy wedding in Las Vegas, though, and not necessarily a "vegas" wedding.

I think you just keep plugging, get done what needs to be done, and make sure to make time for exercise and relaxation.

Good luck!

Answer 8

Yep but then I think about how awesome my dress is and I want everyone to see it!

Answer 9

Yes I did... 3 days after I started planning! I got ticked that I had to do it myself so I told my fiance I really just wanted to go to the courthouse. It made him step up and take more responsibilities in the wedding planning.

Answer 10

I went through that almost every day.  I didn't think I really wanted the whole wedding and too many problems crop up and people get offended or expect things and ... well I'm sure you understand since you're going through it right now.

But in the end, it was completely worth it.  After all my worrying and bad days - the actual wedding day was perfect.  And we have nice pics and great memories.  Hang in there.  Make sure you take some 'non-wedding' time to yourself and have 'non-wedding' dates with your fiance.  Have fun without talking about the wedding - after all it's only one day.