At my school all the teachers teach us respect but they don't respect us?

Question

At my school the teachers teach us respect in a way that makes us get on with each other and stops bullying. But not one teacher treats us pupils like were human. They are just downright rude, but it's worse than that. if you ever dared to tell a teacher what you thought about them you would get into so much trouble and probably get excluded. It is amazing that one of the only schools in the country that can almost entirly prevent pupils from fighting, bullying, arguing with teachers etc. Dosn't have any teachers that get it right! The whole school would not fall apart if 1 teacher decided to be polite to pupils! I just don't get it! Is there any other school in the world like mine??!!??

Answer 1

" It is amazing that one of the only schools in the country that can almost entirly prevent pupils from fighting, bullying, arguing with teachers etc. Doesn't have any teachers that get it right! "

Wonder if there is a correlation here?

Maybe the other schools have it wrong by letting kids do anything, such as answering back and being rude.

Answer 2

i think the majority are the same as yours sadly

my son has been brought up to speak his mind if he doesnt agree with something or doesnt understand-he has had an awful time with some of the teachers in his school, they just say he has an atttitude problem

but its actually the teachers themselves-they dont like being questioned because they think they are always right

Answer 3

I'm a teacher and have been teaching for the last 14 years. I'm 35 years old and not a dinosaur as most students seem to think teachers are old and decrepit and  I have always treated my students with respect. I have worked in several schools in Ireland, England, France and Spain and  I give them an opportunity to discuss norms in my class and why they( the students are there specifically  in my class) and what they hope to achieve when they leave in June. (The pros and cons of the norms  to help our learning process.)

  I never raise my voice, I talk to them and explain that all actions will have a consequence and they will ultimately be responsible for their own actions in or outside of school. I show them respect and expect the same from them not only towards me but to their fellow classmates.

  As a teacher I can tell you that in my school we treat the kids better than some of their parents do, we listen to them, we sort out their problems. We look out for them and we are there for them much more than their own parents. Respect starts at home and shouldn't be something schools have to impart like English, Geography or Spanish.

  I have to teach my students  about the dangers of smoking because every single one of their parents smokes. What sort of role models do they have?

  I also think you are confusing the fact that your teachers are just that, your teachers, not your parents or your intimate friends.

   A teacher has professional guidelines that they must follow and must act in a correct manner like all professional jobs. You don't walk into a doctors surgery and ask her / him about their private life. Or ask the girl / guy at the checkout in the supermarket how old she/ he is or that you think their new haircut is awful, to their face!!

   Yet, these things happen to teachers on a daily basis and students don't see the problem with crossing such boundries and if a teacher doesn't  divulge the total contents of their personal life they are rude or "out to get you excluded".  

   Teachers can't be your " buddy" and your best friend in one. If you want to question or express an opinion to a teacher you

need to do so within reason. Think about how you have treated/ spoken to some of your teachers. They are human too.

Answer 4

In my experience, when students try to tell teachers what they think about something, they don't do it in such a way that would make the teacher want to listen to what they have to say. I invite my students to 'plead their case' and then I make my decision. Sometimes I go along with them and sometimes I don't. It is not a democracy. I don't have to do what they suggest. I am the one in charge. Sometimes students get mad if I don't agree with them. I think that they need to learn now that you cannot get your way in everything that you do.

Answer 5

I believe strongly in politeness, but given your statement about telling teachers what you think of them, I have to wonder how you are defining respect.  It would be extremely disrespectful to tell your teachers what you thought of them (I can assume from the way you wrote that that it would be a stream of criticisms), since they are, in fact, your teachers.  On the other hand, their jobs involve helping you learn, and for that, they HAVE to give you feedback on your performance.  The student-teacher relationship cannot be one of equals, and that doesn't mean that they are being disrespectful.  Their jobs involve being critical, getting your attention, getting you to do certain things.  You say they have prevented fighting, arguing, and bullying with teachers (who does that?), so it sounds to me like they have been pretty successful with their methods.

Answer 6

Here, here. Respect has to be earned, it can't be demanded and it is a two way street. I went to a school like that and almost all the teachers hated me because I just refused to take disrespect, I was respectful to them but when they were rude or unfair I would call them up on it. I did have like two teachers who were really good though and they fought my corner for me. Then I moved to a school big on mutual respect, we called the teachers by their first names and everything, it was great. It really allows you to grow up and mature. Like when you're seventeen/eighteen it's just ridiculous to have someone telling you to straighten you collar, you just stay stuck in resentful teenager mode til you go to college.

Answer 7

Respect is earned.  You are there for an education not to express your displeasure with the system.  If you are polite people around you tend to return the favor.  Perhaps when you grow up a bit you will understand.

Answer 8

I am a teacher and I believe that respect is a two way thing if you give respect you receive respect. If a teacher needs to correct a pupil it can be done with respect.

Answer 9

You have to EARN respect, it`s not just given out !!