At one stage of our lives have we all experienced depression and suicidal thoughts?

Question

Have you experienced something you didn't really have the answers for? Something out of the norm? Age? What happened. For me there was a reason for my behavior and thoughts. Cause and effect.

Answer 1

There is a reason for everything. Depression and Suicidal thoughts are only there because we don't know how to cope with or to change what  is happening in our life. Having faith and wanting to find a way to cope and to change is what brings us out of it. The choice is ours. Remember to put your problems into proper perspective and know there is always someone out there that would value and love to live the life that you are living that you think is so bad, like the children in countries that are starving to death at this moment or people in war torn countries ect.  When compared to lives like this our problems seem trivial. There is always a way to change and to cope. Find your inner strength to find a way.There is this incredible love and power inside each and every one of us, no matter who you are and just because you don't know how to use it yet to change your life, doesn't mean that is a good reason to give up..... Trust and know that there is a way and a way will be shown to you.

Answer 2

I started wanting to kill myself at the age of 12.  I had caring, overprotective parents and a good house, and I wasn't fat or ugly.  My desire to kill myself stemmed from a pain inside that hurt so badly but didn't kill me, and I couldn't get rid of it.

Yes, I tried a few antidepressants.  I couldn't o****m very easily and they didn't stop me from wanting to kill myself.  I absolutely HATE therapists.

It has been 10 years that I've wanted to kill myself, while I went through the normal notions of middle and high school, and then I graduated college with a math degree and a GPA of 3.65, had a few boyfriends, and I've never had any problems with the law, and I'm not in debt.

Suicidal thoughts can stem from circumstances that we have no way out from.  I never had a way out from myself.  Occasional suicidal thoughts are part of my genetic makeup, and I'm done trying to deny them.  I just let them flow through me and they do pass.  Suicidal thoughts are natural sometimes, and it's American society that has told us we're supposed to always be happy and optimistic, and if we're not, then we have an "illness."

Answer 3

Many people do experience such thoughts, and for a variety of reasons.

You mention that there was 'a reason' for your behaviour, but this is actually true of everyone ~ there is always a reason, just not always one that everyone might understand.

There is, however, help and support available for people who are feeling the effects of depression and suicidal thoughts.

The people at the link below are there to help, not judge. The service is free and confidential. If you wish to, you can call and remain anonymous.

Best wishes :-)

Answer 4

Yes I have been suicidal a lot of times. after my dad died in June and I found out how much my mom hated him. and how much she really hurt him. and this week my daughter was sick and stayed overnight in the hospital. that was when if any thing happens to her i could not go on and i really got suicidal.

But I talked to God and He helped me see that everything will be OK. He is helping me with my depression. and I know He will NEVER leave me or forsake me.. God Bless

50/50. I will keep you in my prayers. I am sorry to hear this. you Take Care of yourself and God Bless you.

Answer 5

Yes, I've been depressed. I guess there was a number of factors. I hated my environment. I lived in the 'projects', so I was low class, my house was disgusting and filthy, filled w/ fleas, freezing in the winter, didn't have much food, the food I did get was usually cheap takeout, sewage always came in the cellar, and I had to be stuck in that house all day. I was very socially awkward, so I had no friends, was a loner, you know, the kid who sits alone at lunch. When I was younger, I used to go to school smelling like cat pee, because the cats would pee everywhere, but I tried to change that. Obviously I had cheap clothes, and not much variety. I was really self conscious about my appearance, and I'd cover my face so I wouldn't have to show people. I guess I was depressed because I'd sleep in the day just to avoid everyone, and I hated being awake while I knew everyone else was out doing something. I was awake at night until morning everyday. I even started drinking alcohol, but I stopped because the amount I was consuming didn't have much of an effect, and if I took more, people in my house would know.

I've had suicidal thoughts, but it's not because of all those reasons I guess. I just figure life itself is pretty pointless. We exist, and then we die, so why put myself through all this when I can just get the inevitable over with sooner? I realized though, that I might as well just live and try to make the best of life while I'm here. I just have to be patient, and I'll eventually die. I also figured that I'm hopeless, and I'll never get social skills so I'll always be a loser.

Sorry for making this long, and self-pityish. I KNOW there's others worse off than I was.

Answer 6

I have been depress but never had suicidal thoughts, it happened to me last year and lasted till March this years and the cause there was to much stress at work, my husband was having and still has heart problems and I was keeping everything for myself but then I looked for help and I came out of it.

Answer 7

Anyone who says they have never been depressed or even had thoughts of suicide is lying.  (Yes, you too who gave the thumbs-down)...

Depression or suicidal thoughts can happen to people of most ages, young and old.  The reasons vary from being harrassed at school, personal traumas,  a breakup or losing a loved one or a job.  It is often a collection of things bothering someone that sets it off.  Sometimes drugs or medications are to blame.

My friend, Kathy had been dumped by the great love of her life, then she went back to drinking and lost her job.  Kathy put a rope around her neck and was found hanging in her closet.  She was 32 when she died, and her ex joined her six years later due to a terminal illness.

"Blahh" - You're not a loser.  I would have been your friend in school. ☺

Answer 8

It started when I was at high school; about 15 years old. I had some things happen and I couldn't cope. I also didn't have many friends because I was "the nerd."

Mum sent me to see a doctor and he put me on Zanax and SSRI's. I struggled for years to 'cure' myself. Been on and off medications and been to countless professionals. I am 21 now and I still have hard times; it does get easier, but for me it never really went away. I'd rather not say what happened to me and what started my spiral in front of everyone.

If you wanna talk, email me. I know how you feel and I know how lonely it can be sometimes.

Answer 9

When I was much younger (in my teens) I had many horrific thoughts as you alluded to but am glad I got through those difficult times.

One thing I learned as I got older is that, for men, the frontal lobe of our brain doesn't fully develop until age 25 and that's the part used for things like long term judgment and future planning (among other things).  For women I've read that part of their brain develops between ages 19-21.

I'm not sure how much that bit of knowledge answers anything but I do believe it to be a piece of the puzzle.

Answer 10

I have been both. I have done almost a 180 since my suicide attempt. The only thing I still do is nicotine products. All of the illegal drugs and depressed moods are gone. In a weird way, my suicide attempt is the greatest thing that has ever happened to me. I learned the value of life and learned things and experienced things that I am not going to go into.

Answer 11

i think we have all had those thoughts,

i am 16 now,

and had suicdal thoguht during spring/summer last year.

we do it because our mind makes us think we are to blame for something going wrong in our lives, and so we harm or self,

pychologically and mentally.

i was suffering with depression due to my nans death,

and nothing seemed to be going right for me.

i also used to self harm. self harm is a way where you feel in control, unlike how you feel when you face the real world.

when you have this power over yourself it gives you relif as you can take out your sorrows and punish yourself. if you can't get rid of your selfabusing thoguht ands actions it leads to a higher level of stress which causes these suicidal thoguhts.

for a 16 year old, i know what i am talking about.

any other questions message me (:

Answer 12

More than 20% of all people have experienced depression at one time or another, and for a variety of reasons.

There are so many medications for depression, anyone experiencing that can consult their family doctor who will prescribe something for it.

No one should suffer with depression or suicidal thoughts.  They should seek help.

Answer 13

lol. im still going through this. both suicidal thoughts and depression.

1. my parents divorced when i was 6, and i cried every night from the time i was 9-11

2. i lisp and people laugh at me for that

3. im overweight and acne-prone and get jibes about it all the time

4. my mum's an overbearing disciplinarian

5. my hearing is bad

6. i dont know what to do abt my dad, i always think too much

i could go on.. lol.

basically, i can say i'v been through alot, so i think im an egg now.

(heard this story about the egg, carrot and coffee bean? when put in hot water, the soft egg becomes hardboiled and hard, the hard carrot becomes soggy and the coffee bean makes the water around it aromatic and nice.. the hotwater actually signifies hardships in life..well, you get the moral of the story)

Answer 14

I was a sophomore in highschool. It was during volleyball season and my best friend since the age of 2 got a boyfriend and basically forgot all about me and my other two cousin-friends acted like I was just a tag-along. I was so lonely so depression set in and I cried myself to sleep every night. No one knew about it, not even my family. One day after practice, I was alone at home. I held a knife up to my chest and pressed it against me. I was so close to shoving it into myself, but then I thought of my family and how they would feel if they found me dead in the kitchen stabbed. I quickly put the knife back in the drawer and cried. Volleyball ended and I began to become friends with my future sister in law. My depression just slowly faded away. I think that reading the Bible and praying is really what got me through my loneliness. At that moment that I almost took my own life, I know it was God who put those thoughts into my head. He knew it wasn't my time to go....I am so greatful for my life now!

Answer 15

During the past 7 months I have experienced plenty of setbacks, causing periods of depression and hopelessness. I graduated college in December, have been on interviews and applied for all kinds of jobs (that are in my field or related) and no luck. It has been very, very frustrating and I could not have foresaw myself going through this until it happened. But I have done my best to look at the positives and remember that I am a good person who is intelligent, and hard-working if only I could get my chance. Keep looking, there's always something positive going on within you, but you can't lose focus when everything looks bleak. If I hadn't been without a job for so long, and accepted some cushy job with little challenge, I might not have realized that I wanted a career as an officer in the Navy. Now I'm trying to go that route and things are looking better. I've also realized that depression is useless and the more you feel sorry for yourself, the less you'll be able to change your situation, so remember that and keep your head up! :)

Answer 16

Yes, both, unfortunately.

I suffer from several mental illnesses (which run in my family: anxiety, depression, OCD) and am also transsexual, which does extreme damage to the psyche. I can honestly not remember a single time in my life where I was truly happy. During the onset of puberty these depressed feelings reached its peak and I know, that if it wasn't for inconveniences, I WOULD have killed myself, several times in fact I felt like that and sometimes I still do. I felt terrible every day and never felt convinced I had a reason to live. I honestly still don't know why I should be alive, I just don't seem convinced and nothing seems worth it. I still believe it would have been lots better if I never existed.

But I digress. I would like to look at myself as a pro-active person, what drives me to somehow end up in a better situation is probably my dad, who still suffers from his depression and OCD and it's horrible to watch, but I don't pity him any more for it. He just sits on his *** and gets drunk and pities himself and I don't want to be like that, cause my dad is a total jerk that screwed himself over.

Currently I'm seeing a therapist and taking meds. I don't think things have gotten any better really, and they won't until I am allowed to be myself: not a female as society expects me to be, but for the first time in my life, ME, just an average boy that wants to get by somehow.

I came out to my mom as trans recently, she's still in the shock/denial phase which is sort of agitating and it's very hard to be patient. My dad will kill me when he knows.

Eh, what can I say, life is a battle field for everyone against themselves. We've all got problems, we all feel down sometimes.

Answer 17

Five years ago I got dumped by a girl that I was really crazy about. Despite the fact that she told me she had strong feelings for me, when I was ready to settle down, she wasn't. My first reaction was deep sadness. I felt abandoned. Then I became very angry. The anger lasted a long time. I became very arrogant and fell into a group of people who shared my outlook on life and relationships. For a couple of years we partied all the time. I'd go out four nights a week. I drank myself silly and slept around a lot...strangely enough, it was at this time that I picked up the most experience as to how to talk to girls. It was when I felt that I'd never let myself get close enough to a girl to be hurt again, that I could talk as if I had nothing to lose. Experiences and how we reacted to them shape who we are today. I'm a different person right now, but I've learned a lot from my past. Although I'm no longer out to hook up with people for kicks, I still find it difficult to get too close to women. I don't open up very easily.

50/50 : I'm really sorry to hear that. All that I can say is I hope the best for you. My friend beat it, I hope you do too.

Answer 18

surprisingly yes i have. it was during my wonderful time of the month and i got really, really depressed. i was so out of the normal, i did have suicidal thoughts. it scared me how depressed i was. then when my time of the month was finished, i just got happy. but ever since then, every menstral (spelling?) cycle, i get depressed. it started when i was about 15-16.

Answer 19

Yes I have but I have experienced a deep seated melancholy since I was a little girl but I believe childhood isolation triggered it (my parents were overprotective of their girl, letting their sons rampage the streets) and when I fell into that space as a little girl , it became indelibly marked in my head and became a pattern for my life, coupled with sexual molestation from my brother and father, mental and psychological abuse by brothers, my father and mother and a general sense of being sidelined and invisible a good portion of my life, the black sheep of my family, then friends picking up on my low self esteem as a young girl and using it as a reason to treat me as inferior and to bully me, now I have problems with social anxiety and depression everyday

Answer 20

i've gone through severe mood changes, I spent a long time in a hospital because of suicidal thoughts, I was plagued by depression, I didn't know where or who to turn to, I was exposed to very grousome things and scenes, I couldn't trust anyone, Everyone told me I wasn't normal, and now My mind is filled with horrible images of death, suffering and abuse.

The truth is, I'm  a nice person, I like being polite, I adore animals and I detest animal cruelty and abuse, I'm open to learning new things, but I'm still feeling depressed..

I think that everyone gets confused at a time in their life, sometimes for no cause at all, sometimes there's a reason for it. I think people don't know how to see themselves and other people, maybe its psycholoical, maybe its of some hidden reason :/

& I'm so sorry to hear that..

take care of yourself hun:)

Answer 21

Just like everyone else I'll share my story.

I've been to 14 funerals and no weddings. However, I've never been suicidal because if all your life you have bad things happen to you then you truly appreciate the good in the world.

I've been depressed sure but thats because there's not enough electric pulses in one part of the brain, there's medicine to cure that.

I don't believe anything could be so horrible that you'd want to commit suicide.

Answer 22

The first time I ever thought of suicide was in college when I found out that several of my classmates talked our teacher around to raising their D's all the way up to B's, just so they can graduate with our school's proper diploma+degree, instead of a generic Department of Education degree.  I'm talking about *university*, and a quite prestigious one.  Well, I just felt like flinging myself from the top of the physics building, feeling a dupe with my own hard-earned B thus cheapened.

My life is so full of this kind of c**p, I've recently begun to feel that nothing is worth striving for anymore.  I think I have real, real, need-to-be-medicated depression (15+ years already), yet no one will believe me (not even doctors) because I can sit in front of them and discuss things logically.  What do I need to do to convince them I need help?  Start slitting my wrists?  No, not wrists, maybe my neck -- easier to hide the scars with a fashionable scarf.  See what I mean?  Too logical.  :-(

Answer 23

Probably, yes. Depression is just depressed (sad, negative) mood, and many people consider suicide whilst also knowing they never intend to do it.

However, that is different from having a depressive *disorder* (often refered to as depression, as well) or being truely suicidal. These are not as common, are more extreme, and do not happen to everyone.

Answer 24

I guess I would have to say that yes, I have had boughts of serious depression.  But instead of suicidal thoughts, I just WISHED I was dead.  When I was just about to turn 17 my fiance broke up with me and I just lost it.  I did some very unsafe things to myself over the next 2 years but managed to come out of it somehow.  Now my biggest battle is that I am peri menopausal and I feel down so much, I can't seem to get up.  I am gaining weight and that is bothering me a lot, have physical issues that are not fixable and just feel plain useless.  But I always tell myself that I have made it out of the hole before, I can do it again.  Just try to stay positive.  I also came from an abusive household so it wasn't like I hadn't already been through a buncha c**p before either.

Answer 25

Everybody goes through these stages, some more and less severe than others. Everyone goes through the "black" stage around the time they hit puberty. You know when mother nature decides to torture you and it only foreshadows the angst that is being a teenager. And then inevitably you realize that the world isn't such a good place as you thought it was, then you realize you will have to work the rest of your life to survive. Then comes the drinking stage of our lives, where we learn that drinking makes it a little better every now and then. Then, everything sinks in and you either decide to make the best of it, or be depressed and cynical about it for the rest of your life. I've been through all stages by now, and have come to learn to LOVE life. Every miserable moment!

Answer 26

Depression runs in my family and I have experienced it, even though I'm pretty young, but it's in my past now-- if I start to feel depressed I force myself to go hang out with friends or do some activity, even if I'm not in the mood for it, to help myself get over it.

I was circumstantially suicidal in junior high. It wasn't a result of depression, but I was trapped in a foreign country where seemingly everyone hated me, and there was no one I could relate to. My friends in the US had slowly stopped responding to my emails. I was constantly harassed about my looks-- called ugly virtually every day-- by the boys in my class and my confidence had been almost completely destroyed. I had frequent thoughts of hurling myself out my 3rd-story window, but refrained from doing so because 1) it might not kill me and 2) If I could wait it out, I would eventually return to the US.

It would take a lot more to get me to think seriously about suicide at this point in my life. But at that point in development (roughly 10-13) I think that the opinion of others and friendship are the most important things in most people's lives. A part of me wants to go back in time and slap myself for getting so hung up over all that, but it definitely shaped who I am today.

My depression lasted my first two years of high school and was largely a result of my low self-esteem [which I'd developed overseas]. I lost motivation to make plans with friends, went for long periods without eating, and spent most of my free time on the internet.

That probably seems like a dumb reason, but it was much more biological than caused, I think.

Answer 27

Gosh, Nikki, I think that everyone at one point or another in their lives has considered "ending it all". This is completely normal. If, however, these thoughts and feelings persist, I would seek professional help. I am certainly not qualified.

I hope you're not feeling so unhappy and lonely that this is a choice right now? If you are, know that at this very moment that GOD loves you ... completely and utterly. So much so, that He sent his only begotten son to die on a wooden cross so that we may live eternally with Him NO MATTER WHAT YOU'VE DONE. He still loves you, Nikki. Just read the Bible, trust in Him, get out of the house and enjoy life, exercise,  things will feel good again.

I had thoughts like you described once. It was when my mother-in-law, her son (my husband's brother), the brother's wife, and their only daughter just dumped me publically and big time from the family. And I had loved them so completely. I was even helping them financially (and we are not rich) because I loved them so much. I was so embarressed by what happened. This hurt so desperately that I almost put a gun to my head and I'm not an emotional person at all. But, instead, I let myself cry for a loooong time and I prayed and eventually the pain subsided. I still hurts when I think about it but it's a far away kinda hurt that I leave with Jesus whenever it tries to come back.

Sorry to be so lengthy but I just want you to know you are loved. Hope this helps dear.

Best wishes. ♥ ∞

Answer 28

Yeah I feel like that right now.

I'm a 28 year old guy and I can't seem to get my life in order no matter how hard I try or work at it. I was born poor to a schizophrenic single mother and have spent my life struggling to take care of my mother while dealing with my own health problems and trying to make something of myself with pretty much no support, financial, emotional, moral or otherwise and I am reaching a point where I realize I've been busting my *** since I was in my early teens and seemingly gotten not very far for the amount of effort it has taken.

I am studying surrounded by people younger than me while struggling to pay rent in a tiny craphole which I hate, my mother is doing a little better but looks unlikely to ever be fully able to take care of her affairs. I have no car, no girlfriend, people look at me like I am a lazy bum without realizing the fact I was born so far deep in the hole of c**p that it has taken me twice as much work to get half the way up to the same level these people were born at. I get no respect, no love, no nothing. All I got is my brain and my strength, and my brain is getting worse as my misery constantly distracts me from focusing on my goals.

I thought about suicide before, but that was always an emotional response however now I am looking at it as a viable opt out option. I've decided to give myself until the end of this year, if I can't improve at least one area of my life significantly then I am going to blow my brains out as this **** really isn't worth it anymore.

Answer 29

I think there's a difference between 'feeling a bit depressed' and clinical depression. I think deperssion is when nothing is that bad in your life, you haven't had someone die or a relationship break up but you feel that intense feeling even though there's nothing wrong with your life.

Unfortauntely last year I suffered from a very bad virus which gave me a 'brain fever'. 3 weeks of lying in bed with the mental torture of bizarre images and hallucinations from the illness teamed with the pain and sickness naturally had a very bad effect. The illness was so bad that I kind of cursed the fact that I had a loving family and animals that depended on me, as believing that death isn't something to be feared it would have been tempting to take the easy way out.

But I firmly believe that what doesn't kill us makes us stronger. I've been through h**l and I fear nothing anymore.

Answer 30

Depression, yes.  Suicidal, no.  Nothing is ever that bad.  I think most everyone has been depressed at one point in their lives.  It's nothing original.

Cause and Effect?  Not reaching a goal at the time I thought I was going to reach it was the cause.  The effect is depression, then awareness, and then finally you start to reach for that goal again.

Answer 31

I think a lot of people are depressed at times and may have had suicidal thoughts at one time or another, especially during the teen years.  Whenever I have been depressed though, it doesn't usually last more than a day or two, and suicidal thoughts may pass through, but I would never seriously consider committing suicide.

Anyway, I think some people are just more emotional and moodier than others.  Unless it lasts long term or you actually think you might act on your thoughts, then I don't think it is anything to worry about.  Some people unnecessarily freak out about these things which can make it worse.  Just remember when you are feeling down that life will get better.  I've learned to embrace crappy times.  It makes life more interesting, and who doesn't love a good drama.