At what age do you consider "acceptable" to be a wife and mom?

Question

what age is too young and what age is young but still acceptable and what age is perfect

i am 20 wodnering where "society" sees me..be brutally honest and please i too feel that there is no certain age it matters because everyone is different just asking what people in society see as acceptable so no idk answers but numbers

thanks so much

Answer 1

23-25 to start out. This way, you are done with college if you went right after high school. School is very important, but I started late with school and became a wife and mother at 26. It is hard to be a student, wife and mother. If you plan on staying at home, I think it's too young to be stuck at home. When I was 20 I was in the military having a great time. I couldn't imagine settling down that young. Just my opinion; it is your life and if you are happy-good for you. Don't worry about what society thinks-they aren't always right.

Answer 2

27

Answer 3

I'm 20 and a mom.  I was engaged, and gonna be a wife when I was 22.  

I think 24 is usually what is the "norm" for stuff.

But just do what you want, anyone who tells you differently just thinks they know what's best for you.  Only you do.

Answer 4

I don't think age has anything to do with it.  It is all about love and companionship.  

That having been said.  I think you should be atleast 16 before you are married in this country.

Answer 5

Twenty is a fine age to be a mom and a wife.  I was a mom at your age and now my daughter is grown with one daughter and a baby boy on the way and I'm now a young grandma.  It's great.  If you're happy who gives a hoot about how others see you.  

How you behave as a wife and mom should be your concern...if your child is cared for and your home is happy then you're doing great.

Answer 6

Whatever works for you. There is no set age because it's a personal decision. It's all in when you're ready.  

I'll be 26 in a few days and I am neither a wife nor a mother. Not ready to being anyone's wife or mom either. For me, I would like to be there around age 30 or so. But that's me. I've spent a good chunk of my 20s going to school, trying to get my finances together, and being independent. That does not work for everyone though.

If you feel good about your decision, then don't worry about what others think. I only look down on some ignorant, young teen girls who have babies and are not emotionally or financially ready for them. They don't know how to be proper parents. These are the same kind of girls who will toss the baby to their parents while they run the streets and act grown. (No disrespect to teen moms who are good at parenting)

So if you are happy, then that's what matters. Good Luck!

EDIT- In some cultures, 20 and younger is perfect to be married with kids.  Anyway, some old-school, Latino cultures are like that. Especially when there is no American influence.

Answer 7

I was eighteen when I got married.  It was the summer after I graduated high school.  It think it depends on the area your are in.  I was really scoffed at in the area I grew up in for marrying so young.  The average age there would probably be 22, after graduating college.  The area my husband is from and where we live now, it is not uncommon to be married at even 17.  I guess the traditional thinking is if a woman gets married before college, she won't complete college.  That was not true for me, however.

Answer 8

Well I couldn't exactly put a number on it. Back in the day, there were exact ages when people were supposed to marry like when my grandmother got married at 18. (which btw they are still together) but now a days, I think it is a little more tricky. I think the socially acceptable range is between 25 and 30 now, as people are older and their lives are more set when they get married these days. But I say go for whatever makes you happy. I think age is just a number anyway.  

Answer 9

I'm not married or anything.  But a wife and mother should be at least 23-25 at the very least.  Preferrably 25+ to be mature enough for the children.  Good luck in your future endeavors.

Answer 10

Too young- Anything below 16.

Young but acceptable- 16 & over.

In my view, there really is no "too young" except for just starting puberty. I say 16 and over is "young but acceptable" because in certain states that can be a legal adult (while others have 18). However one shouldn't become a mother until they are mentally capable of the stress a child can bring.

Answer 11

I don't believe the age itself matters so much as the ''inner maturity'' of the person, the ability to take proper care of a child.. there are a lot of responsibilities... and also the financial situation has to be stable.. a child should not be brought into the world when there is not enough money to provide for it's needs, there has to be health coverage for the family  and enough income to pay rent and all the bills and for food.Some become mothers at age 21 and age good mothers. I know that age 16 is too young. My aunt was pregnant at age 15 she got married and had my cousin. She had no education, she just had left school and the marriage only lasted for 2 years then they got divorced. So I would say ''Society would look down on those who are under 20'' but it's not up to society at all, it's up to the mom to be and the wife to be and how well she knows her future husband. Do they really get along well in everything that matters? Do they have mutual respect for each other and love and trust each other and are honest toward each other? That matters for being a married couple and she should have an education.. finish shool and earn some money. Then she could go to work when the child is older or the children are older if they have more than one. She won't be dependant on her husband because he has learned a skill. So I would say from 21 onward to age 30 is a good age.. Anywhere inbetween is acceptable. Some opt for a career first and get married later or some couples live together and want to see what married life is like without the extra stress (also joy) but a lot of stress, to have children.. It would be better if the couple had some time alone before having a family. Then they grow more together as husband and wife, otherwise the child will have to be given priority always and the husbands don't like that too much. It depends on their financial situation.. on how mature both are, on how deeply they love each other..then according to that inbetween age 21 and age 30 is the right age for a woman to become a wife and mom I think

Answer 12

I think 20 is just fine to be a wife and mother.  I think 18-19 is too young.  However, I do recognize that I don't agree with society on a lot of things--I think moms should stay home and take care of their kids and not go off to work unless absolutely necessary to avoid financial ruin.  I'm in the minority, not the majority.

Answer 13

I think around 26 is a really good age to get married and have kids.  Before that you are still trying to find yourself and need to have fun.  A few may be mature enough to handle both before that age, but at 20 you have so much more to go through and need to live a little before being tied down to so many responsibilities.  Very few marriages work at that age and it's not good for the kids.  I would wait.  

Answer 14

Society today is quite a bit different from the society of my youth.  I was married at 18.  My daughter was born when I was 19, my son when I was 20.  Looking back, I would not change a thing.  My mother was a young grandmother -- able to play with and enjoy her grandchildren.  I am also a young grandmother, although not as young as my mother.  My daughter married at 21 and gave us two wonderful grandsons when she was 26 and 28 -- so I guess this is the "acceptable" age to be a mom.

I remember while in the hospital after having my daughter, my roommate was 14 years old.  She was so precious, and it broke my heart to see her become a mother at such a young age.  But she did it, and she adored her baby girl.  Who can really say or judge?  Why should we rely on what is considered the "norm"?

Many people will tell you, just like they told me, that you are too young to marry and start a family.  What society considers acceptable is not applicable -- what matters most is if you are emotionally secure, your spouse is emotionally secure, you love each other so much that you can't imagine having a family with anybody else, you are committed to each other enough to trust your yourself through the difficult times (because there  will be difficult times!), and you are ready for the pure exhaustion of years upon years of sleepless nights, changing poopy diapers, living with a totally messy house for the next 20 years, and enjoying every minute of it because you have the most wonderful children in the entire world.

THAT's more acceptable in my book.

Answer 15

personally, i believe that 25 is a good age...once you are out of college and have a stable job :)