At what age should a kid move out of his/her parents house?

Question

I am 19, and my family is giving my mom alot of grief about me not moving out. Now first I want to let you know i'm no bum. I work part time and go to community college which i'm majoring in journalism. I want to have my own radio show someday but thats not important. What is important is that because I am working, going to school, and have a girlfriend, I have no time to even think about moving out. I bairly make enough money to pay for gas, my bills (cell, half the electric, half the cable) and eat (I buy my own food). I am causing my mom no problems and she doesn't mind me here. But I doubt I can move out in any less than 2-3 years. I have no money saved up, and have no major job's calling me. I mean, in my opinion I think i'm doing the right thing. It's not like i'm laying back, drinking coffie, watching maury all day! So what age do you think a kid should move out?

Answer 1

After 18 when you are financially stable and able to afford your own place, if not with roommates, etc.

Since you are single, meaning you are not married and your girlfriend is not living with you, I don't see it as a problem considering you are in College and working part time. At least you are doing something and not sitting at home doing nothing. Your family shouldn't give you so much grief considering the fact that you and your mom is fine with this living arrangements. It's working for the both of you for the time being and it's not like you plan to stay there forever.

I left when I was 19, but I end up with my in-laws for a few years, then back with my family a few more.... Didn't have my own place until I was 24. It took that long for us to be fully financially stable to afford our own place, soon after we were able to buy our first house, etc. Living with family during your early adult years isn't such a bad idea, especially when you are saving for a better future for your family, kids, etc.

Answer 2

Kids should be able to move out when they are ready, especially if they are studying, if a student is forced out of home they have to work more and have less time to focus on their studies. Yes you are doing the right thing and you are only 19. I moved out when I was 20 and I had been working full time since 18, the only reason I moved out is because I got pregnant. My bro-in-law lived at home until he finished uni, worked for a year and then got married, he lived with mummy and daddy til 25 years old. And sorry if that sounded like I was taking the p**s out of him, I think it's funny when 25 year olds still live with mum and dad and sleep in a single bed lol

Answer 3

Many people now, particularly men, dont move out of their parental home until they are around 27!  So i really wouldnt worry about it.  If you are your mom are happy with the situation then who cares what everyone else thinks.  Much more sensible to stay at home until you can afford to support yourself than to move out now just because some narrow minded people think that you should and end up struggling and making a mess of it!  

Answer 4

when his/her priories are straight. That doesn't mean when your 25. But once your college is straight, you graduated there shouldn't be that problem.  

Answer 5

if you are working and going to college i would see no problem with it, thing is, it's no one elses business to say whether you can still live with your mom or not. I mean if it's an agreement between you and your parents that you stay there while attending school and you are actually contributing towards the house then what's the problem? But again that is between you and your parents alone, no one else has the right to say anything. Talk with your mom and make sure things are actually going smoothly, if she says yes, then don't stress it. Good luck in school.

Answer 6

I think you should stay there with your mom. The only reason I moved out of my parents house was because i don't get along with them. Since you have a good relationship with your mom I say- Take advantage of it!

But if you do decide to move...make sure it's an affordable place- you don't want to lose sight of your studies because you need to make that rent!

  Good luck to you!

Answer 7

i say at 18 but i guess when ever your parents make you

Answer 8

There is no such thing as "should move out" if they are part of the family. It's a bit odd to be 30 and living with your parents without having a spouse but it's not if you live with your parents before being around 25-30. You should move out if you find a spouse and your house is not big enough for you, your spouse and your future children.

Answer 9

You don't say what your mum's opinion is? If your mum is happy with you living at home and you are a good kid/adult then all the other interfering people should mind their own business! Maybe they are jealous that you are doing the right thing and your mum is happy with the living arrangements.  

Answer 10

I think so long as your mum is happy no one else matters ...I think so long as you pay your way and help out around the house there is no right age ...it is harder now than 20 years ago ...stay unless your mother wants you out ,if she is like me that will be a long time ...

Answer 11

when they are ready.

they should be ready somewhere around age 21

Answer 12

In my opinion, i think that you should move out whenever YOU are ready to, and when you feel comfortable with it. Some children don't move out till they get married! Some still live with their parents after marriage, and they don't mind! So why the rush? (:

Answer 13

Those people should seriously STFU, it's you & your mom's decision.

Since you're in college you can count as a dependent for your mom which is an OK bit of change towards rent.

But it doesn't really matter, even if you where a total leech, your family, your biz.

If you're in college, I'd say up through 24 (the last year you count as a dependent), which is 6 years to complete college, which is more than enough.

If you're not in school, the kid should be making his own moves and should be out & about years before that.

This isn't the animal kingdom either. (At least for most of us.) When a kid grows to a certain age there's not some sudden loss of love and they're a rival at a 6am WalMart buying special. Stuff happens in life, so if it's temporary (pref very temp) they can come back.

Of course if they act stupid, they are now an adult  and will be dropped on their head and be sent on their way.

Answer 14

Hey!

Ignore those people! You & your mum should make this decision.

It is for the best that you save as much money as you can before leaving.

I was asked to chose whether to live with my family, or live with my boyfriend as they were moving away, I was 5 weeks pregnant and 18 years old. I needed to be with my new family now.

I was lucky, my partner had a good few thousand pounds so we didnt really struggle at all. But I know I would have done!

Good luck and dont move out till you are ready. I know someone who is 32 with a brother of 29 living at home... But that is a bit lame.  

Answer 15

I'm 19 and still live at home. I am in college full time working on my degree. My parents actually encouraged me to stay at home, just because it would be a lot less stressful and help me save money. I think a kid should be out by at least 22-24. Most of my friends are 19 going on 20 and still living at home and going to school. I think once they can afford to live on their own, then they should..it's a great experience.

Answer 16

on one hand, i know a guy hwo moved out at 16, on the other, i know a person who still lives with his single mom at 23.

it is relative to the person. if you can afford to move out of home, you should go rent your own place (or buy if you can afford it).

your folks sound like they want you gone, but if you're not causing any inconvenience, and it sounds very much like you're not, staying until you are more financially secure is probably a good idea.

good luck with your degree, and your radio show

Answer 17

Myself, I practically ran out of home less than a month after I turned 18 to live with my 23 yo boyfriend. It's been a year now and I've never looked back.

But, you go when you're ready, not because they're telling you to.

Answer 18

if things are o.k. stay there.

Answer 19

Hey you and your Mom know what is going on in your house, those others are only outsiders looking in - the h**l with them.  If this works for you and your Mom, then, no one else's opinion matters.    God Bless.

Answer 20

After attaining majority. I do not know from which place you are? If in India, it is 21 for boys and 18 for girls. They can move out.

But in your case, till you stand on your legs by getting a lucrative and capable of leading independent life on your own, you should be obedient to your parents without creating problems to them. You have no right, at the same time, to spoil their peace of mind. Life is an adjustment and compromise. Wherever you go, this applies to one and all. Why your mother is behaving like this? You did not give details about her. How can there be one way action. Action and reaction are equal and opposite. You have to mend your behaviour till you become independent. You can not mend the behaviours of old aged people, whether they are parents or somebody. Who are other family members. Be helpful to your Mum, If you have done something wrong make an outright apology. Help her. What about your Father? Sisters and brothers. In your question many details are lacking. It is difficult to answer.  

Answer 21

Asian culture?

Mostly after they get married.

With in-law problems.

With self lack of knowledge too.

With "I believe I can fly" off the coop.

When wings get clipped.

They walk back home.

"Mum Dad I'm home with the little ones too."

Luke 6.39-40,41-45,46-49

What do you think?

Answer 22

I'm going to be 26 and I still live with my dad.  There's nothing wrong with still living at home at 19.  Like you said there would be something wrong if you were a complete bum.  But as long as you're working and/or going to school, and contribute to the household bills to the best of your ability (if you were only in school and between jobs, u should offer to do extra chores or whatnot) I don't see anything wrong w/ living at home.

Like I said I'll be 26.  I'm not currently in school as i took several years off after getting my associates (partly cause I honestly wasn't sure where I was heading in life, and didn't want to waste my time only to switch majors, partly financial reasons, and also up to a year ago I had enough stress at home until after we moved away from my mom, so there's a few reasons), but I'm thinking of going back.  I have a slightly above minimum wage job, and don't make much to put aside.  Everything goes to gas, food, bills etc.  Though I don't pay a specific amount weekly/monthly rent to my dad, I do help out when he needs it, and he helps me out when I need it.  His business has been struggling as he works for himself and works been slow due to the economy so neither of us is making very much right now, but we basically share whatever money we do have, and work together to make ends meet, and to make sure rent is paid each month, and we have food on the table, etc.

again, i don't see anything wrong with it.  I've known friends that moved out when they were 18 and all they did IMO was trade one family for another... Stayed in a rented room (no private entrance, had to walk through main house, share kitchen, etc.).  Doesn't make sense to me at all...  Within a year or 2 they were both living back at home...  I don't want to deal with roommates, and I don't want to live by myself as that would be really lonely.  I would luv to eventually find a guy to marry and start my own family but until then what's wrong with staying with the family I already do have????