At what age should you start diciplining kids with a smacked bottom/hand when they are naughty or causing dang

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Im not talking about beating. Just a sharp tap really to let them know. I had this when i was little, did me no harm at all and it taught me right from wrong!! I think you only need to look at kids today and what they are doing to see that there is something amis. Bring back corporal punishment in schools i say!! And national service!!

Answer 1

I'd say don't at all... find some other method that doesn't involve hitting your kid. Just because it didn't mess you up does not mean it won't mess them up, and hitting your kid can develop into beating...

And who knows, maybe if you do this and it does work, your kid will grow up and decide that getting hit did them no harm, and they'll beat their children...

Answer 2

Smacking? erm not sure. I have always found the naughty step routine works well. I think that smacking is a quick fix that has no substance for the long term. We have smacked our children at times and seriously regretted it afterwards. I would only suggest it as a last resort, eg.. if the child was putting themself in serious danger (or someone else).

Answer 3

I agree with Calan ...find a better way...use communication skills rather than violence to teach your kids right from wrong.

I think you will find that most kids that 'go out and stab each other' come from household where violence is common place.

By smacking children all you are teaching them is it's ok to hurt someone to get what you want, or get them to behave in a certain way.

The only time I agree with a short sharp smack would be if they were about to put a fork in an electric socket or do something that would otherwise cause them/others pain if they went ahead.

If you can't find ways to teach children right from wrong without resorting to violence then YOU need parenting classes.

National service officers never directly beat the men if they didn't do the right thing...they used physical punishments in the form of exercise teaching certain behaviour results in negative consequences...not the same thing as smacking a child.

p.s. I see myself as a very strict parent...my kids don't get away with misbehaving at all...they are polite and I can take them anywhere without worrying they will misbehave.

Discipline doesn't have to mean smacking!

Answer 4

My daughter began to need a smack age 2.  She started to misbehave a couple of months before her 2nd birthday, but it became naughty enough for a smack at 2.  If you do the discipline properly at 2, life will be easier for you in a few years!  Experience taught me that!

Answer 5

I'd say around two just to let them know that they need to listen to you and be obediant in order to keep them safe.

If you set good discipline habits early it makes life easier as they start to get older and get up to all sorts!

Answer 6

Mine would get a tap on the hand at 8 months for taking off their hat and sunglasses. It was the height of hot weather and we are australian and the sun is very harsh. on top of that they were bald and had blue eyes that need protection. It did not hurt them but they understood to stop. They did not cry which was the point. I did not want to hurt just teach and there is the difference..

to the thumbs down people. Is it better they burn??? Australia has one of the highest rates of skin cancer, rather teach my child to leave on hats and sunglasses than kill them with cancer

Answer 7

well I am glad that it worked for you to get hit and slapped. For myself though... I see parents that spank and dont' spank. I can tell you that there are misbehaved kids in both groups. I have seen also great kids in both groups. I am afraid that your 'only spanked kids are good kids, and the rotten kids we see today are not spanked' theory is a little biased. It has nothing to do with spanking, hitting or slapping. It has to do with many factors in the home.

Answer 8

At 18 months a quick slap, at most two swats, to their bare rear. At Two years they are old enough for a "real spanking"

I agree with you. I am a pro-spanking parent, and believe that a lot of us younger parents are going back to traditional discipline, including spanking. We are, as you point out, just sick and tired of all the spoiled brats. The no-spanking social experiment that came out of the Dr. Spock era has been an utter failure.

As both a Mom and a Teacher I would like to bring back corporal punishment in the schools. They  had it in the schools I went to (even into high school)---but it was a private-Catholic school-.  I believe they still have corporal punishment  in both the grade school and high school I attended..

As a teacher (second grade), I  like it because I think there needs to be an ultimate thermonuclear punishment. It does not have to used often (should not be used often), but just having it there as a possibillity does wonders.

In most schools we are limited to detentions, loss of recesses, chewing them out, suspensions and calling parents (which typically does not do much)--so just having paddling available makes discipline easier--I know,

I taught in a school that still did occasionally paddle, and two that didn't---big difference and I think a lot of  of that can be attributed to the lack of corporal punishment.

In school spankings there need to be some common sense rules. Like I think any paddling should be approved by the principal,and for both the teacher and the kid's protection--there should always be a witness.

However, I really don't like the idea of the parents having to approve of the spanking--it would be better not to even have corporal punishment--it is unfair that some kids would get paddled and others, who had done the same misbehavior, would not be.

Answer 9

Les wrote: "around 2 you probably need to - they dont call it the terrible 2s for nothing!"

Do you know why they call it the terrible 2s? It starts when they're 2 and doesn't end until they're 22. :=)

Answer 10

around 2yrs...a small tap on the hand just to let them know what's right & what's wrong...plus - i agree with the last sentence!!

Answer 11

New Labour wont let us chastize our Kids........ and they wont do it either.

Wonder why they all think they can all stab each other and get away with it.....?

Answer 12

age 2. they are just starting to know good and bad behavior at that age, so i think the training should start then.

Answer 13

My parents tell me that they began tapping me on the hand as soon as I began to walk. Then they adjusted their forms of punishment based on my age and my maturity level. I don't think all kids benefit from the same disciplinary tactics.  If the kid responds well to a simple and firm "no", then leave it at that. If not, combine the firm "no" with a tap on the hand. Just start disciplining the child with tapping as soon as they begin to walk,   but begin teaching the child "no" as soon as they begin to crawl.

Answer 14

around 2 you probably need to -  they dont call it the terrible 2s for nothing!

Answer 15

Everyone to their own about disciplining their own children, every child is different.

I have prefered not to smack my children and they have grown up fine. They are good people when inside and outside the house and in school. They are not disrespectful or unruly as some people would make out. People actually comment on how nice and polite they are. Teachers comment they wish they had a full class like my daughters.

I have disciplined them through talking to them and helping them understand their own actions. Believe it or not the behaviour of the children usually comes through the behaviour of their parents. If children do not have firm boudaries they do not know when to stop unacceptable behaviour. If we say something is wrong then change our minds how will they ever learn what is right from wrong. Children accept shouting when it occurs regularly, talking calm gets a much better reaction. All I need to do now is raise an eyebrow and my girls know I am not happy about something.

I am not at the end of the road yet - my girls are 11 and 13, but I don't intend on raising my hands at all.

I have studied child development and learning for the past 8 years, what the books say actually works. So don't dismiss talking instead of smaking because it happened to you and you coped OK. Our parents didn't really know better, even with a 2 year old talking works.

Good Luck, try and stay calm

Answer 16

I would say try watching something like super nanny, she doesn't belive in that.

I don't either, my dad has never raised a hand to me, i respect him for it. My mum has so i dont respect her for it. if she wacks me then il just ''tap'' her back, B/c it's not nce atall.

You need to take time to sit them out. If they have done something wrong and then make them suffer that way, or take something they really love away for a week ( there telly, fav. toy. )

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