At what age should you start worrying about not being married or having a kid yet? ?

Question

I am 27 and am beginning to have doubts that I will ever marry or have kids and I really want both. When should I be seriously concerned. At what age should I get a therapist to help me through this. I'm not sure if I am more scared of commitment or an actual wedding because I really hate weddings.

Answer 1

for men it seems to be individual you're lucky you can reproduce until the day you die (not that you would want too) As for marriage Ive met guys at 18 that were ready and guys that were 60 and not I think it more about when your ready. Maybe your getting ready now or ready to start looking for an appropriate wife and thats why its on your mind. when you meet  the one youll know

Answer 2

I don't think there IS an age. It's more a matter of maturity and finding out about yourself and what you want in life - which, at your age, you should be in the midst of already! Do you date? Why do you date - as in, just for fun, or looking for someone to spend your life with?

I got married at 28, and my husband was 38. He thought he wouldn't get married at his age, either, but we found one another!

Answer 3

People typically don't get married these days until well into their 30's, so relax there is plenty of time.

Answer 4

Marriage and kids are not for everyone. There is no magic age when you should be married or starting a family. When you start feeling like you WANT to be married and have kids, that's when it's right.

I'm 28, and my fiance is 27. We're getting married in February, but we've been together for 7 YEARS! Everyone's timing is different.

If you feel like you are ready for marriage and kids, and you're in a relationship, it's time to ask yourself if the person you are with is the person you want to be with in 50 years. If not, maybe it's time to find someone you can see a future with.

If you aren't in a relationship, this would be a good time to really think about what you value in a significant other. "Likes to have fun" isn't gonna cut it in the long run. You need to look for qualities that have real value, like a sense of humor, honesty, compatible lifestyle to yours, similar goals and values. Have your best friends and closest family members introduce you to people. They know you best and want you to be happy. (My sister introduced me to my fiance.)

And don't forget, a tradional wedding isn;t the only option. Lots of people have smaller more intimate ceremonies with just close family then have a big party afterward. that's what we're doing. I feel like the ceremony part is very intimate and personal, and it would be very embarrassing and awkward for me to say my vows in front of 300 people, and fortunately, my fiance feels the same way. :) But when you meet the woman you want to marry, even if she wants the whole big "white wedding", you might just love her enough to overcome your fears and make her dreams come true.

Don't stress about your situation. It'll happen. ;)

Answer 5

I wouldn't worry about it. When the time is right for you and that special someone it will be time. You have your whole life still and a lot of time. I don't think you need a therapist you need a friend to talk too.Maybe that friend will be that special someone too.  And when you do get married you can agree on a simple wedding since you don't care for them like most guys.Good Luck!

Answer 6

There is no right age that things should start falling into place relationship wise. If you never want to get married and have kids, then don't. The only problem with that is if you do want kids, you probably don't want to start having them when you are 50. :)

Oh, and P.S. you don't have to have a wedding. You can go to a courthouse, ya know. :)

Good luck!

Answer 7

i wouldn't worry about when to get married, just when to have a kid. Women bodies work differently than men, and as time goes by, its probably harder for you to have a baby, and after 35 your chances of having a baby with down syndrome or other problems is higher. So i would say 35, just because of the baby issue. Now marriage, that just depends on when you find the right person.

Answer 8

Im a 23 year old college student and I dont ever wanna get marriage.

In the words of Kramer,: "their prisons, man-made prisons"

plus if you ever get a divorce, say goodby to 1/2 your stuff, maybe even your dog.

just live it up before you die, dont be tied down

Answer 9

ur still young enough ur alrite bro. when ur like 40 then u shld worry.

Answer 10

people nowadays don't get married until 35, so until then, don't be worried. enjoy your life! =)

Answer 11

Never!!! There's not such thing as a "right age" to get married or to have kids, and definitely is not a good idea to marry someone just because your getting close to your "deadline".

When you find the right one, you will know, and also the "wedding thing" is not really a problem, at least not something to worry about right now. How can you know now that she won't be crazy about weddings or even "hate" them as much as you?

When you are with the right person and you both want to take the next step (marriage), then you can discuss what way to "celebrate" that decision is better, and in a healthy relationship there's always commitment, you can give up in some things and so can she, till both parts can get to an agreement.

Are you in a relationship right now? If so, do you know what your partner thinks about marriage, kids??? Have you talk about it? If not, we'll keep these topics in mind for when you're getting to know better someone.

Marriage should be a personal and couple's decision, based on the relationship itself, not an age issue.

Answer 12

Take your time your still young.  Maybe start worrying at age 35.

You won't need a therapist, you have alot of time ahead of you

I think you'll change your mind when it's your wedding your actually going to.

Answer 13

35. especially for women.  

Answer 14

Well if you are worried about it now, then this is the age.  I mean, it's all in your perspective.  If commitment and marriage scare you then you obviously aren't ready for either. I highly doubt it's because you just don't like weddings, a wedding is A LOT different from a marriage.

Just give it time.  When the right person comes along, the idea of committing to them, and spending your life with them, just won't seem so scary.  REALLY!

When you find the person you are meant to be with, it will happen.  You will WANT to marry them because you won't want to let them go!

Since you want both a marriage and kids eventually, you just have to find that person that makes you see that commitment isn't scary, it's exciting.

My best advice is to not look for that person.  If you are looking for "the one" you will see whatever it is you want to see in whoever comes along at the right time.  Then you won't really see who that person really is, you will just see what you want them to be it be "the one" for you.  If you just let things happen naturally, you will be pleasantly surprised, even if it takes some time.

Good Luck!