At what point do you accept the fact that someone is going to be an absentee grandfather?

Question

My father lives out of state and has had very little to do with my nine month old son, his only grandchild. He has seen him twice, which both times involved me driving several hours and him barely taking an interest (other then snapping a couple of pictures of my brother holding my son). He hardly ever calls, never writes me back when I send pictures and talks about himself and my brother (who has always been the favorite child).

He called me for the first time in a month last night because he was worried that he hadn't heard from my older brother in almost a week....and made no mention of my son's well-being.

What do you think...bring it up or accept the fact that he is just going to be a absentee grandfather?

Answer 1

well I can relate...my husband's father has yet to meet me let alone our 4 month old daughter and we have been married for 2 years, together for 3.  Pretty sad but then again he was an absentee father so why would care about his grandchild?  I have decided my daughter is better off surrounded by those that do love her and are interested in knowing her.  It's his loss!!

Answer 2

Mention it to him once or twice, then accept it.  Good thing your son is so young.  If hes not going to take more interest, better now than later.  Your son can forget about him.