Att: Parents!! Would you let your daughter go away for a weekend with her BF?

Question

My boyfriend has something plan ( I have no idea what) but he wants to ask my parents if I can go away for two days. My bf is 24 and I am 21 so we are both adults but my parents are a bit conservative. I have never asked before but I'm like 100% sure they will say no. My parents do love my bf.. they have a lot of respect but I feel that If he were to ask then my parents will think that we are sexual since we feel comfortable spending the night together. We been together close to a year now.

What do you parents think? Would you let your daughter go?

Answer 1

If my daughter was 21, yeah.  I might not be happy about it, but at 21 you are an adult and responsible for making your own decisions.  

Now, if my daughter were under 18, or even 18 but still in school, I would say h**l no.

Answer 2

I know you probably still live with your parents,

but past the age of 18 you can kind of make decisions for yourself. you can ask, and they'll respect you for it, but you can make your own decision.

Answer 3

I hope my daughter is still willing to ask when she gets to your age! Just the fact that you are asking this shows that you are responsible, so I would let you go if I were your parents. I think it would be best if you and your bf were there together to ask about this or maybe if he were to ask alone. It would show respect in my opinion. Good luck and have fun if you do decide to go.  

Answer 4

If you parents trust him, your adults and you've known for a while I don't see why they would say no.

Answer 5

I wouldn't really want her to go, but I'd like to think I would respect her decision as an adult.  When I was 21, I think I would have just done it without asking, so I think you are a very respectful daughter.  :o)

It's a tough thing being a parent, they want you to make the very best choices, even though ALL of us choose with our heart instead of our brain sometimes.  I would say go with your gut on this one,

Answer 6

At that age, they have no control over you.  If you don't want to ask, just tell them you are going out of town for a couple of days.  Good luck.

Answer 7

Your parents should let you guys go. Its been almost a year like you said, and Im definite that your parents have built enough trust and know him very well. I wonder what he has planned ? I really like surprises myself.

But to sum it up yes you guys should definitely go!  

Answer 8

honestly youre 21. who the frigg cares? do what you want girl. go and have fun. and if your parents say no wat are you going to do? NOT go? come on live a little!!!

Answer 9

your 21.. you can do whatever you want to do.. it not up to your parents...

Answer 10

if u were 21 and 24..yeahhh!! and since u are an adult, u dont technically have to get their permission. your actually old enough to get married!! just say, im 21, i cud just go myself, but im asking u cuz i respect u. er something like that!! ♥

Answer 11

if she was 21 there is nothing i could do about it, and i wouldn't care either way she would be an ADULT!! i think it's silly that he has to ask you are both adults that it s bit ridiculous.

Answer 12

If your living with your parents and absolutely can't live on your own financially then I would say don't do it if it's going to cause them to kick you out or something, but if your on your own or could be if you wanted to ... then go and have fun,, your 21 for  goodness sakes

Answer 13

Once my daughter is over 18, I have no say in the matter. And at 21...I may offer my opinion, but ultimately, it would be her decision on whether or not to go. At some point, we as parents, have to trust that we raised our kids well enough to make the right choices for themselves.

Answer 14

If my daughter was 21, I would be fine with it. At that age she doesn't need to ask my permission. Even at 18 I would fine with it. Whether I don't let them go or not, if my daughter wanted to have s*x, they'd find a way.

Plus, I wouldn't have a problem with it. You're adults. s*x is natural.

Answer 15

i wouldnt matter, if ur 21 ur parents cant say no or yes it really doesnt matter if ur 21 they have no controll over u. make your own choices, ur an adult

Answer 16

In my mind, once a child is 21, there is no "letting" them do anything. 21 is an adult and as an adult a 21 year old does not need permission to do anything.

Answer 17

You are over 18, you are now legally an adult. I think you can make your own decisions, and the only way to do that is to be out on your own. Maybe he wants to take you apartment hunting for a few days, lol!

Seriously, you can make your own mind up about it. It is time for you to grow up. Seriously.

All he needs to ask your parents about is asking your father for your hand in marriage, and only out of respect for your father.You should or should not marry him according to your own desires, NOT by what your parents say.

Answer 18

No. I wouldn't.

Many people here are mentioning your adulthood, but they aren't probing into the main question:

Are you independent?

If you still rely on them for financial support and other forms of advice, then what they say is VERY important.

Another important fact is that you're NOT married, and when young, unmarried couples go away and spend the night together, they roll the dice with these consequences:

(note that, of course, the vacation itself is always a lot of fun)

1. Nothing!

2. Unwanted Babies!

So tell me... ARE you sexual? If not, are you potentially going to be influenced by somebody you care about very much to become sexual? Do your parents care if the answer to both questions is No?

I wouldn't. I woiuldn't let my daughter go on a trip like that. Not readily by any means.

Answer 19

you have to ask your bf what he is exactly planning to do.  because it would be hard to ask your parents.  and i wouldnt underestimate your parents.  is they love your bf, they can trust you to be responsible.  just assure your parents you are not being sexual as well, when you are telling them.  find out your bf's exact plans then tell them to your parents.  and when you do go away, call your parents every few hours to let them know what you are doing.  

Answer 20

You've been an adult for three years now.  I see no reason to not let you go.  Don't even phrase it as a question to them.

Just say, "I'll be out of town from Monday-Thursday. Here's where you can reach me in the event of an emergency."

Answer 21

Do u still live with your parents? And/or are they still supporting you? I wouldn't if either of those were the case. Out of respect I don't think my child should even ask.

But if your out on your own- go for it!  

Answer 22

you are 21.

unless you are living under your parents house it is your call.

im pretty sure that my parents would let me go and im 18

btw my parents are extremely conservative....  

Answer 23

at 21 you can pretty much do what you want

Answer 24

I wouldn't be happy about her going, but she's 22 so I couldn't stop her. I don't know how you would tell your parents, but I wish you all the luck in the world.

Do you live with them? If not, why would you feel you need to ask permission? Again, best of luck to you.

Answer 25

Well if it becomes an issue sit down and talk privately to your parents and explain to them that you know and understand their values and you are capable of making responsible decisions.  Let them know that they need to trust that they have done a good job and that you need to start making your own choices.

If they still say no I would say go ahead and go anyway you are an adult after all, but I'm getting the idea that you live with your parents...and you do have to keep in mind you have to go back there after your get away.  GOOD LUCK!

Answer 26

Not until shes 46 and then only with supervision.

Answer 27

I would not let my daughter go, if I had one.  Since you are not engaged at this point it would look bad.  There are a lot of parents who would let you go but if you feel yours would be upset I wouldn't ask.  Wait a while for the right time.

Answer 28

You're over 18 honey.

You can go away with him on the weekend whether they approve or not.  Honestly, just let them know that you're going and get out of town!  Have some fun!

Answer 29

I was going to say if you were like 16-17 or younger nottt really.

But your 21 stand your ground.

they can't control you forever.

Answer 30

Im not a parent but my parents let me go to another country with my boyfriend when i was 17.. You parents have no say in it now that your 21.. why cant you just say hay im going away the weekend of ____ for 2 nights with _____..

Your 21... you are an adult now and shouldnt even have to tell your parents...

Answer 31

Its not up to your parents. You are a grown up and can make your decisions. Your parents legally stopped being resposible and able to decide for you when you turned 18.