Attitude problem?

Question

I get frustrated when playing with people who don't know how to play volleyball. Don't take it as though i yell and scream, and tell them they suck, i just kind of stop saying, "Nice try, you'll get it next time", etc. Because they always take it as though they aren't good enough when i say that, and they get mad at me. Then they mess up, and i don't know what to do anymore. I don't get mad when someone looks like they are trying really hard, and say sorry, and that kind of stuff. Does that make me have an attitude problem? Serious answers only please. I need help!

Answer 1

I commend you for recognizing that you MAY have an attitude problem. I can't say for sure, because I don't know you. It sounds like you're an extemely competitive person, which could be the reason for your frustration when other people s***w up. This is not necessarily a bad thing if you put everything into context......are you playing rec league with these individuals? If you are, let them be. Chances are they are playing because they enjoy it, not because they love it. If you're playing on a school team and some of the individuals aren't at your talent level, than you have to suck it up. A team is only as good as there weakest player. It's your job to support your teammates regardless of personal feelings. Help them learn. Sometimes players can be a better coach than the coach because they're peers. Resist the temptation to do too much when playing with people like that. I coached a girl that had this attitude and she was sooooo competitive. I loved the fact that she tried hard and wanted to play every ball. What I didn't appreciate is the fact that she would play balls she had no business playing just because she didn't trust her teammates to make the play. This just resulted in those players expecting her to play the ball and the team didn't fair well because of it. Talk to your coach and explain the situation, chances are they've already noticed this. It'll be good for them to know how you feel exactly or they might think that you do have a bad attitude.

A team that plays as individuals is a team that accomplishes nothing!

Answer 2

I am not saying that you do this.  Maybe it is perceived this way by your teammates.

I had a player that finally around mid season would tell her teammates the "nice try, etc."  She started the year yelling at anyone that made a mistake in her eyes.  (I can not tell you how many times I pulled her off the court for that.)  The problem is that no one believed her when she said "nice try."  One of the reasons was her attitude at the start of the season.  The other reason is that I really think she did not mean it.  She was saying "nice try" and thinking "you stink."  You could read it in her face and her tone.  And the rolling of her eyes and tossing her head back.  (And she wondered why no one liked her.)

Make sure that if you are telling the players "nice try," make sure you MEAN it.  And congratulate them if they make a good shot too.  The team is only as good as the weakest players.  You can only hide your weakest players some of the time.

Answer 3

you just shouldnt say anything at all because everyone has good points and everyone has bad points.  there bad points are volleyball

and your good point must be volleyball and dont get mad at them because you probably mess up once in awhile so when it happens just think this is a game its just for fun trust me i know what you r talking about i been through it and you dont have an attitude problem you just need to think is this worth getting frustrated over?