Attracting the wrong women? How to end it?

Question

People tell me on yahoo answers that I am attracting the wrong women. Most of them like me because they know I am a good guy with a nice funny personality. I am not needy or anything like that. I call like 1-3 times a week. Open doors and all that and it is not fake on my end. It is like they cant handle a good man like I am a unicorn or something lol.

Most of the women that come to me have been done wrong by guys in the past. That is all that is available around here. All of the ones I want to pursue are taken. I dont try to force a relationship on a woman.

All of the women who did me wrong also went to church and was raised by single mothers. Maybe the single mother thing is the problem. Some women dont know how a good relationship can function. I dont get it lol. This is why I am bowing out. My parents told me imma die old and lonely but I say it is better to feel lonely than to be cheated on. At lest no more chick flick movie dates. Lol

Answer 1

What are you looking for in a girl? A lot goes into that question. Every girl you meet is going to offer you something, and you need to know which girl will offer exactly what you need to be happy. Single mothers, past relationship problems, all the good girls being "taken"...those are all excuses. They are excuses you made because you picked the wrong girls. People are multidimensional, a girl could very well have been a party girl, raised by a single mother, who just got out of a bad relationship where she was hurt...and yet she could still be the perfect girl for you. What matters isn't the circumstances around a girl, but how she learned and reacted to those circumstances. Her reaction to her environment and her actions are what define her. Sometimes it takes bad experiences to make a girl who she is. What you need to do is understand what you need before you can even begin looking for the right girl. When you know this, and you find her, your biggest priority should be understanding her. You need to know what makes her smile, you have to sympathize with her pains and share her happiness. When you find a girl that can bring you peace,  and you can give her the same in return,  then you will stop thinking the way you do. I'm not going to lie, finding this girl will probably take a long time, but if you are honest to yourself and the people you meet, it will happen. And then of course theres men like me. If you are like me then you know that theres no woman in the world that could bring you peace. You know that you don't have a soul mate and you will pretty much be single for the rest of your life. If you are like me then I advise you this: drink up and enjoy yourself. The single life isn't as bad as people make it out to be.

Answer 2

you'll never know if she is the right girl for you... until, you found out to yourself that you can be the happiest man on earth by simply appreciating for what she can give & offer to you... ask your self if you notice to her that she's willing to change or improve just to make you feel secured by her love... not because she is raised by her mother alone or had a past relationship w/ bad experience is the test to know if she is capable by cheating a guy...

Answer 3

You attract what is going on within you. So the question is why are you?

After some reflection do the following:

Everyday, starting tonight, right before you go to bed go to a mirror and look deep into the pupils of your eyes(not at your eyes) and tell your Self 3 times "I love you unconditionally, and I honor who you are and what you are".

Also do the same process as soon as you wake up.

Your Life will have shifted within 30 days.

It works!

Answer 4

ok.. So create a list with the patterns you know already.

    (I am going to get lots of thumb downs but owell)

Women to avoid:

1) Women who where used and abused and have problems with guys

2) Hypocrites, church goers during the day party animals at night.

3) Women who do not have a good relationship with there dad's

That's about it from the personnel experiences you listed.

But there are some things you can do:

1) Don't pick up women at bar's.

2) open doors and stuff ok as long as you don't do it all the time. Let her open the door for you once and awhile she isn't a child or a weakling but a functioning human being.

3) Start a hobby, socialize at more intellectual events if you want to meet someone.

4) If you pity a women don't get with her. And try not to talk about her ex or any of that stuff. She is with you and it is time to move forward.