Aussie to marry a Filipino, are my expectations to much/rude??

Question

my fiances family dont rsvp for anything they just turn up unannounced.

with ours sons christening they didnt turn up to church ceremony just the reception afterwards. i dont want them to do the same at our wedding, is it rude of me to only allow those who attend the wedding ceremony to attend the reception??

Answer 1

It's not rude just unrealistic. You know they will show up and remember these are people you will have to deal with for many years to come. Do you really want to start off on the wrong foot. Have you discussed this with your fiance? Maybe he could talk to his family and ask them to attend and be punctual because it will mean the world to him that they attend.

Answer 2

It's not rude, it's done all the time.  However, how are you going to stop them if the show up - and you know they will.  You need to plan for some serious ugliness.

Answer 3

These are your fiance's family...HE needs to law it down for them. if they want to attend, and be counted so they will get a meal they need to RSVP or no go for them!

it's not rude of YOU, it's incredible rude of THEM to not RSVP! it's very important for you to know how much food to have prepared.

that is just common sense. to put you out like that is beyond rude.

they sound horrible. my advice is move FAR FAR away from these monster-in-laws..i smell trouble.