Autism girl....?

Question

So i am in 7th grade, and this girl in my class(which is new to my school) has autism. She kinda does like strange things,and she has strange hand movements and somtimes she takes to herself yada yada yada..So some kids in my class like make fun of her and "take advantage" of her. Like they know she doesnt like telitubbies b/c she is told not to like it b/c its for babys, so people on purpose tell her "Do you like tellibtubbies?? Why not its so cool! "or like they know that when she is nervous and frustrated she does this wierd this where she mover her pelvis (like elvis lol jk..), so people tell her stuff like " youre cheating" when she isnt, but it makes her "frustrated" then they laugh at her wen she does that.We are all in a private school, and she is in it too (this isnt a special needs school) and she comes to skool with a helper, but this all happens when the helper isnt around.It makes me feel bad that every1 does this,what should i do to make them stop?w/o tellin her helper???

Answer 1

It is horrible that people would make fun of her I have met people with disorders and how do you think they feel when people make fun of them? anyway just be nice to her you don't have to be her best friend or friend at all but don't make fun of her

Answer 2

Tell the reg. Teacher that way not talking to the Helper

Good Luck & Happy Valentines Day

Answer 3

Wow.....Thank you for befriending her! I wish my son had a friend like  you!

It sounds like you've made a great first step in turning the class around.

Please, Please, PLEASE...tell your parents & ask them to help you talk to the principal and the aide in private, so that they know exactly what is going on and can do something about it without you being embarrassed.

At my son's school, they've set up several awareness days, and set up thigs so that when his aide needed to step out that someone was watching carefully to be sure that he wasn't being harrassed. They also moved his seat so that it was easier to supervise what was going on & harder for him to be teased.

If the school knows about the harassment & doesn't do anything to stop it, they can be sued big time...they have to protect all of their students from this kind of abuse.

Answer 4

I really must commend you, because at your age, all I ever thought about was myself.  You show maturity and compassion.  Gosh, I really hope my kids turn out like you.

I can sort of picture the abuse going on.  I bet it's the "cool" kids that are messing with her, right?  As a parent of a child in Special Ed, I want to tell you that you should march right up to the teacher or the the girl's aide and tell them exactly what's going on.  However, as a woman that was once an insecure and shy 7th grader, I know you can't do that.

Here is what you could do that is somewhere in between.  Is there some way to tell someone in authority anonymously?  Like in a letter?  You could make carbon copies (what we used to call 'em, back in the day!), one for the teacher, one to the headmaster, one to the parents.  Put them in separate envelopes and address them to the school.  Like this:

Headmaster

c/o my school academy

your town, your state 12345

and

Parents of Jane No Teletubbies

c/o my school academy

your town, your state 12345

etc, etc

Ask your parents to help you.  I think they'll be proud of you.  I sure am.

Answer 5

I must answer your question with a question:

How would you feel if you were that girl? How would you feel if you didn't have the ability to speak up and tell someone and no one helped communicate the problem for you.

Life has taught me many things, more often than not the right thing to do may not be the easiest path, but it is the right thing.

Do the right thing!  Help her out, tell someone, the aide or the teacher, or a school counselor.  Don't let it continue - how damaged will your reputation be if you let it continue, can you respect yourself?

Answer 6

You need to talk to the principal and tell him. This is not right. My little brother has autism and if anyone made fun of him like this I would punch them I would be so angry.

Your school needs autism awareness training and perhaps your local autism society could provide it.

The principal can keep an eye out for it.

Also, if you really want to help her, tell her helper. She should not be allowed to be the butt of jokes. You would not like and would the bullies.

If you were in her shoes or she was your child, what would you want the person in your shoes to do, ignore it or tell someone so it can be resolved.

My little brother had some trouble and we provided autism training at the school so the kids helped him more and made friends with him. Also the aide kept an eye out for bullies.

Tell someone. If you don't want to tell the school, tell your parents and ask them to tell the school.

Bullying is bad for everyone, including the bully. He might live a very sad life at home and that is why he bullies. If you let someone know he too might get some help.

You have to tell, it is what you would want someone to do if she were your daughter or sister.

Answer 7

Alot of parents put thier children in a private school cuz of less children they think it will be less stress on them. You do need to talk to someone maybe you can call her helper and talk to her after school and tell her some of the thing you have seen. It is nice to know there are some people that still respect other people out there. They are trying to stress her out and make her stim for thier enjoyment. Think of what you would want done if this was you.... I hate this, I knwo one day my son will be goign through it.

Answer 8

I agree with the first two answerers.  Be the leader that you sound like, set the example for the other students.  Without telling her aide, you can tell a teacher that you trust or a counsellor, but it is important that you let an adult know.  Thank you for caring.  When I was your age, my brother who was special needs passed away.  A lot of kids who didn't really know me or know him made fun of him, and I really appreciated my friends who stood up for him.  Thank you for caring.  Who knows, maybe someday you will find that teaching special ed is your calling.  I teach special education and love it.

Answer 9

You absolutely need to tell either the helper, the teacher or someone at the school you trust. You don't have to say who is doing this to her, just that you have seen it happen and that it upsets you. It is NOT your responsibility to tell the other kids to stop nor to take on the burden of trying to tell this girl what is going on. If she is autistic she just doesn't get it, her social cues are off. Please tell an adult. What these students are doing is cruel and would be considered bullying. This girl already has enough strikes against her and your help could make a huge difference.

What if this were your sister ?

Good luck !

Answer 10

she herself should go to public school since private schools dont have special ed classes

Answer 11

You need to have a talk with her and explain to her in words she can understand that what the other kids are doing is wrong.If this does not work please go to someone at school or her parents and explain to them what is going on.Please continue to be her friend and please don't make fun of her.You seem like a very mature young lady and I applaud you for this.You see my son has a form of autism and the same thing happens to him and I wish he had a friend like you.

Answer 12

you cant make them stop ,but you can do nice things for her and talk with her before they get started so it might make them decide to be nice to her as well if not just let the helper know so she can make arrangements when shes not there to make sure the girl isnt in this mess,,btw

thank you so much for caring and Im very proud of you for wanting to be helpfull, the world would be so much nicer with more people like you around keep up the good work!!