Autistic 6 year old, punishment for bad behaviour!?

Question

my 6 year old autistic son has been really naughty this last week (he has aspergers so is of able autism), how do i punish his behaviour e.g bullying his baby brother, swearing, etc. please dont say naughty step as the parent of any autistic child will know, that doesnt work

Answer 1

well if your name is anything to go by you dont sound like a very good mum...who would be bored of being a mum???!!! i dont think its meant to work like that

Answer 2

I babysit a 6 year old autistic little boy. When ever it is time for him to go, he doesnt want to put his clothes on and he runs and starts playing around and doesnt listen. What i do is stop what im doing, turn off the tv, and hold him with a slight grip, not hard im not trying to hurt him, but i look into his eyes and tell him to stop. He usually does, and when he cooperates then i turn the tv back on for being good.

Answer 3

As a parent with rather the same problems,  find that taking a away there favorite toy or dvd etc... is the best method as they find that losing there most pride perssion is a sign of that they have been naughty and that they have been told of for there actions. Another common method is to ignore them when they are trying to get your attension, however when you feel that they are doing something that is good reward him with praise. Another method you could try if you think he could understand it is to use like a star chart that rewards his behavior with stars when he gets so many in a week you could reward him with a trp to the park or a pack of sweets etc.. You could then continue you it when he is doing well to a month full of stars and have a special day out or toy or something. Hope this give you a few ideas and the best of luck with it. xx

Answer 4

Ok if he bullies his baby brother put him in time out right away! Swearing is to hard to take out of an autistic child as you know it id hard for them to learn to stop. Also autistic children will be better if you are just pateint (don't mind my spelling). It will be a challenge to stop him from being naughty but he will be better.

Answer 5

Autistic children need consistency.  I would advise making him a rather rigid schedule, so that he knows what's coming and when.

You might want to think about making a list of House Rules, so that it's perfectly clear what's acceptable and what's not....and write down what the consequences are for breaking each rule!

Good luck!

Answer 6

maybe consvigate toys or games whenn badly behaved

something of this kind

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Answer 7

talk to him about the way he behaved an explain that it is not OK then give him chores to do and explain that it is part of learning to "help" mommy and not make things harder for her if that dosn't work "time outs?"

Answer 8

All i know is, if i had my xbox 360 taken off me i would be heartbroken, maybe take something off him?

Answer 9

my son is 9 and he used to act up

he was diagnosed with aspergers when he was 4

what i used to do when he misbehaved was to implement  things that HE didnt like

for example i would make him look me in the eye

after a while that ceased to be unpleasent to him (and helped him with more normal eye contact too than before) so the sanction would then become something else that he didnt like

Answer 10

Deprive him of the things that he likes.

Answer 11

I also have a 6 year old boy with autism. If you want some real advice my email is [e-mail]. I am always trying to connect with other parents who share the same unique situation.

Answer 12

You have my sympathy, being a parent is hard enough without them being on the autistic spectrum.

Its easy for me to say not being in your situation, but sometimes being really proactive, can work. For example having a schedule for him when he knows what he is doing all the time - it doesn't have to be big things but some that he can manage on his own.

try to ignore the swearing and try to redirect the behaviour you can't ignore.

one of the most important things is to get help, as in some-one to have him for a period of time, to give you a break and then maybe some-one to have your smaller son so your six year old has quality time with you.

Children are very demanding but children who are on the autism spectrum are much more so and a very tired Mum can happen very quickly so please please look after yourself.

Answer 13

First of all I would like to say congratulations and good job!  I work in the school system and so many parents of autistic children have their children living in a bubble.  It is much easier that way but taking the harder route although more difficult for you will make for a much more enriched life for him.  I would talk to your child's teacher and find out how they are dealing with negative actions at school.  If at all possible you want to keep consequences the same at school and at home.  Also, they may be using ABA therapy at school which causes for ignoring bad behavior completely.

Answer 14

I recommend what we always called "The Berenstain Bears Plan" (because they had a book about improving their manners that used something similar):  make up a simple list of unacceptable behaviors and specific consequences.  The consequences should all be active, not passive.  For example:

negative action:  being mean/bullying

consequence:  fix the books on one messy bookshelf

negative action:  swearing

consequence:  run one lap around the backyard

negative action:  talking back to parents

consequence:  cleaning one bathroom sink

The action and consequence don't really need to be related and they don't need to be things he hates (in fact our son is delighted when his consequence is to clean a toilet; go figure); they just need to be things that can be done immediately whenever necessary.  This tells him that he has to stop what he is doing, takes him away from the circumstances under which he is doing it, and makes him spend time doing something positive.

It's been working pretty well with our son (and our other children).

Answer 15

Ignore the swearing, with ASD you will be battling that one for a while, and bullying the brother must be stopped by sending the child to a different room.