Avoiding someone?

Question

one of my best friends in the worl is having a birthday party on thursday. I cant miss it. but this girl who used to be one of my really really close friends is going to be there. we got into a fight right after school got out. it was my fault i said i was sorry and all that other stuff but she just wanted me to like gravel for her forgivness. and idont gravel my appologies are sincere andmost of the time you get one otherwise it means nothing to me. but anyway lets just say we dont talk or look at eachother. what should i do at the party when i see her. and i am there for the party not her i dont want a fight to start at my friends party its her day. so yes, right now i do think avoiding her would be best, but how without it looking rude? is there anything else i could do? and what do i do if she talks to me?

Answer 1

Well, maybe you should tell her that you're at the party for your best friend not to make peace or distort piece with this person. I would say ignore her, but that always seems to go wrong. I know how you feel...just try to hang around people in which she is not included. Try to talk to other people why your at the party...keep yourself occupied that way your mind's not on that situation...it's on whatever you're doing. Plus if you are talking to someone else or involved with something she's not going to come up and start talking to you and what not. Well, whatever you do...try not to make things too dramatic at the party. You're there for your best friend :-)

Answer 2

Just pretend she is your friend for the party and punch her in the face the next day.

Answer 3

say hello to her and pretend like nothing happened, atleast for the party, you dont have to be super friendly, but be curtious and avoid conflict at all costs.

Answer 4

I say just be really friendly. And try to talk to her. For the sake of your friend whose party it is you guys should at least talk a little.

Answer 5

i would just e-mail or message her on myspace before the party saying something like this:

hey. i heard you're invited to _____'s party. i know we've had problems in the past, but i think we should call a truce, so we don't ruin her day on her. i'm not saying we should pick it up being best friends again, but i don't want us hating each-other, either.

Answer 6

If your friend is too childish to accept your appology, than so be it. Don't let her get in the way of your fun.  If you see each other at the party, just talk casually. If she tries to start something, be the bigger person and walk away and ignore her.

Answer 7

If you say that you have apologized than it means you have forgiven your friend. And if you say that your apologies are sincere, then it means that you are truly sorry and have no more hard feelings. Definitely go to your friend's birthday. If you see this ex-friend of yours, just say Hi. That's all you need to do. This might help you to avoid an awkward situation and having to ignore her during the whole party.  It will take a lot of wasted energy for you to purposely ignore someone.  If she talks to you, talk back.  You said you sincerely apologized, that should mean you are over it.  Why would you spend your time actively ignoring her.  Just get over it and be the better person.

Answer 8

the best thing to do is to be the bigger person, be friendly, you dont have to be her friend. just simply stay away from her but don't give her dirty looks or anything. if she talks to you, dont let her make you mad and just don't even make eye contact

you don't want to ruin your friends birthday and you don't want to make things awkward either

Answer 9

Just be civial if she talks to you  be nice and talk to her..if she starts trying to fight just tell her you are not going to argue/fight with her today because its your friends day

Answer 10

Be civil say hi when you pass by her.But no matter what happens between the two of you fight the urge to feed her,her teeth because if will only cause bad feelings between you and your other friend.

Answer 11

Well good for you with not wanting to ruin ur friends party!!! :]

I wouldn't avoid her, but i wouldn't be the first to approach her either. if u must associate with her be friendly, use ur manners but don't act like nothing happened. Ask her how her summer was, or if she's excited for school. Things like that. If she wants to talk to you let her approach you.

Answer 12

tell her it was noting personal but say she's a concieted beeotch

Answer 13

you're right you shouldn't ruin your friends day just because of a fight with an old friend. if you see her, give her a polite smile and keep walking. you don't have to be best friends, just be civil for a day. :]

Answer 14

Hey, its not like its her party and you don't want to hurt your friend and enjoy the party and treat everyone equally if there are games but try making a possible excuse if she is trying to trap you. anyways enjoy the party.

Answer 15

go anyway. why should she stop you. you've apologized, if she doesn't want to accept it it's on her. its not her party anyway.

go with another friend to keep you company incase everyone joins her side and starts acting s****..

smile be polite and wave at everyone. including her. if she doesn't wave hi back. well then too bad.