BABY AND BACHELOREtte party?????? advice...?

Question

so my best friends bachelorette party is going on when my baby will be about 2-3 weeks old. The one person planning it asked me if i could get a babysitter for a couple hours. I am going to be exclusively breastfeeding and they say do not give a bottle until after 4 weeks so he has to come with me plus he is a newborn and i want him with me...

am i right or am i wrong? I mean this is my best friend but my baby is more important than anything. I told the girl that if he starts to get fussy that i will leave or take him outside etc....?? what would you guys do?

the party will be at the girl who is throwing its place and we will just be ordering pizza and having spa girls come in to do facials, etc....

Answer 1

I would take your baby with you, tell them you don't want to get a babysitter and that your baby will be sleeping the whole time anyway. At that age they mostly sleep unless they're hungry or wet.  

Answer 2

My kids ALWAYS come before my friends and because they are my friends they understand 100% as should yours.

If this party is going to be a relaxing spa type setting with the girls just hanging out I would ask if I can take my baby with me if she says no then problem solved and you didn't miss the party because you choose your baby you missed it cause she said no. If she says yes then you get the best of both worlds.

However if its gonna be like a girls gone wild I would not bring my baby at all. In addition you are right about the bottle, My son was nursing great until his weight dropped and  I had to supplement the bottle and after that he refused the breast and would only take the bottle. :(

Answer 3

You should take your baby with you! I would leave if he got fussy. Your best friend should understand. At least you showed up instead of not going at all.  

Answer 4

Take him in a sling and most people won't notice or care.  Just make sure he doesn't get too warm inside in the sling---it counts as a layer of clothing.  Do not compromise what's best for YOUR baby just to please some one who cannot have his (or your) best interest at heart.

Answer 5

Your baby comes first to one nigt of partying with your friends.  That is a very selfish request of your friend regarding the babysitter.  My goodness....this is your little baby.  Take your baby with you or take your girlfriend out another night down the road.  You KNOW what the right thing is to do.  And congratulations on your beautiful baby!

Answer 6

If your friend was having a bachelorette party at a smokey bar or strip club I would say NO way to bringing your baby.  However, most 2 week old babies aren't fussy.  They nurse alot and sleep.  Personally, there is zero way I would let someone baby sit my 2 week old.  Family could maybe watch my 2 month old.

I would tell your pal that you would love to come her party, but that you cannot get a sitter for your baby until your baby is quite a bit older.  Tell her you do not want to inconvience her in anyway though, so if she wants to just have lunch with you and baby later you totally understand.  If your pal wants you there cool, if she's worried about a baby there then don't go.

A room full of women though?  Most people probably aren't going to care, but keep in mind that if everyone is drinking you probably won't be able to get a facial b/c you may not have a sober pal to hold the baby.  As the bride to be.  It's her party.  But tell the person throwing the party too.

If she lives close to you and your hubby (or someone you are comfy with) can watch the baby for an hour you can always feed and visit for an hour and then come home.  

Good Luck and either way just be happy!!!

Answer 7

You take your baby with you!!  It shouldn't even be a question, your girlfriend will understand when she becomes a Mother.

Answer 8

talk to your friend about it, let her know you would love to come, but it is too soon to leave your baby. If she doesn't mind the baby being there take him. If she doesn't want him there then tell her you wish you could be there. I would just take my baby, just don't drink.

Answer 9

If it's a spa day and not a drinking night- by all means, bring baby!  I'm sure the other ladies will love to spend time with baby!!

Answer 10

honestly, I understand your position, but a baby does not belong at a bachelorette party.  this is you friends night.  I would either make plans to go in between feedings, pump and get a babysitter, or tell your friend you are really sorry you can't make it and you would love to take her out in a couple of weeks.  she should understand.

edit:  I doubt she would say you CAN'T bring the baby, but the host already kind of hinted as to what she wants.  it is really etiquette and you don't want to steal the show from your friend.