BLACK WOMEN: Don't be to admit it. Don't we act a little ghetto sometimes?

Question

No, I am not trying to offend you. I am just as black as you! But, admit it. We act a little less than mannerful sometimes.

At the grocery store today, a black woman in the self check out line asked to use the card of the woman in front of her. The woman gave it to her. This is the second time I have seen this happen. Both times were black women asking to use someone elses card. Now, it could have been their first time in THAT store, but it takes like two mins to fill out that form to get a card. I think both women in both times I saw them were just being 'ghetto'.

I want to use another example. OPRAH. Remember that guy who wrote that book he said was true, turns out he lied? It was in OP's book club? Well when word got out... she RAN THAT MAN over the coals like he was a criminal. I have no problem with Op standing up for herself and saying this man lied....but geez for an hour, on national tv.... GHETTO MUCH?

I am just saying that we have tendencies! Agree or not?

Answer 1

True. But I've met some non-ghetto black women. The type that get rejected from "black society" for acting "too white". If you ask me... thats one case where rejection is Gods protection.

YOU KNOW ITS TRUE!! Ghetto blacks are basically the black version of white trailer park trash. There is nothing to be gained by staying in their circle. If they reject you BE HAPPY.

Answer 2

Now how is that ghetto?  You got to explain that to me.  I'm just from Detroit........

Answer 3

i guess so...

Answer 4

Admitting to that would be something that is not true. I never act ghetto.

Answer 5

Well I have been pretty effin embarassed to be white on many occasions, so I guess I can see where you're coming from.  But I don't really think what you're describing is black-specific.  I think it's just embarassing when you see someone doing stuff like that and you think people might lump you in with them.

I know your question addressed black women - hope it's not annoying that I'm not black.

Answer 6

It isn't your fault black queens. Our disposition in Babylon and our being raped of knowledge of ourselves are the causes for taboo like lifestyles. Answer this

Is it a coincidence that we have to struggle to survive?

A Coincidence that we didn't fight each other as slaves but do now?

A Coincidence that we can't get jobs in THEIR America but we were in THEIR houses as slaves?

A Coincidence that rap music was harmful when it had a message against the gov't unruly behavior, but in rap's current state it is only "harmful" when THEY drop an "N" bomb or call OUR queens nappy headed hoe's?

NO THEY KNOW WHAT THEY'RE DOING AND THEY KNOW YOU WON'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT

Answer 7

Actually, no. My family is Ethiopian & I am literally a 1st generation African-American but my black girlfriends can act ghetto, I don't think there's anything wrong w/ it, it's just cultural.

Answer 8

Nope, you and the women you know have these tendencies. But for me personally I don’t. I’m not saying I act “white”, but I do everything in my power not to portray myself as that stereotypical “ghetto black woman”. Now, about the discount card in the store, I’ve seen many people (black, white, Hispanic, Asian) use someone else’s card because they don’t have a card of their own. Just because you don’t have a card it doesn’t mean you have ghetto tendencies.

And the reason why Oprah “ran that guy over the coals” is because she went to bat for him and defended the legitimacy of the novel “Little pieces of me” (if I’m not mistaken) only to find out he was lying about the whole thing. I think I would be pissed off about this also. She couldn’t believe he was untruthful, and her whole show that day was dedicated to having him exposed. She put her good name on the line only to find out he was false. So no Aundine, to answer your question, not all of us have “Ghetto Tendencies” and you should be ashamed of yourself for even postings such a question

And I'm not even sure if this is a black woman posing this question. You could be some troll with nothing else better too do.

Answer 9

I'm not totally sure what you mean by "ghetto." In the first examples it seems to correlate with cheap or miserly, while later on it seems to mean excessively argumentative.

These are just negative traits, exhibited by all races. If you want to use the term ghetto, fine, but why not just say "miserly" or "argumentative" instead of trying to fit all these behaviors under one umbrella term which associates negative traits with the black race?

This sounds like the kind of thing you could casually say to a friend, but it has no actual evidence backing it, it's just your conjecture.

Answer 10

I guess it depends on the black woman.  I'm mixed with black and white.  I was raised in a white community with white parents.  I don't at all act like your stereotypical black woman.  And I don't look like one either.  Most people don't know what I am until they ask.  

I don't want to go so far as to speak my views on what you've described above.  I have my own opinions, but they don't apply to all black women.  Not all of any race is one thing.

edit:  Yeah sure, you grew up in a white community too, and that's why you thumbed me down.  You're jealous because you know darn well that I'm not ghetto.  AND if you were raised with class you wouldn't have any ghetto in you in the first place for you to "slip up a bit".  That's your problem.

Answer 11

If one doesn't act ghetto one is subject to the scrutiny of those who do.  It's all in the company you keep.  I'm assimilated and westernized.  When I'm around those who are not ( which is not by choice) I get accused of "failing to keep it real".  All  assimilated people of color experience this. Thumbs up for Mike T. on this one.