BULLYING HELP! please READ!?

Question

my 13yr old daughter was recently getting bullied by a group of boys at her school. she was ill for a few days and while she was ill, she told me bou it. i immediantly rang up the school and they took it seriously. all the boys in the year found out about this and constantly kept coming up to her brother (she was stiill sick) and sayying " why didu grass up on (name) ".

she is too embarresed to go back to school as all the boys hate her and think she is a snitch, she cries every night and even says stuff about killing herself ! help ##1 any advice for me or my daughter !

Answer 1

Im 15 and in high school now and I dont exactly know what it is that they are telling her but my mom always told(and tells)me that who ever bothers me not to stay quiet! To talk back to them about the same thing! For example: I have acne and if someone ever made fun of me, to tell them: "At least they will go away but your uglyness will stay forever(Even if they were cute!)"

And if they call me ugly to tell them "Dont you have a mirror in your house?? Go look in it!! Your uglyer than me!!

These are stages in life that come and go always look ahead and hold your head up high and pray to God for those kids who bother her! Hes the one who can do it all! Ask with faith and youll see the result! And to you as a mother pray for your daughter aswell! I will pray for her too!! Tell her not to feel bad when they call her a snitch!! Have an answer ready instead of feeling bad! Tell them "To bad if you cant trust in your mother because mine is my best friend!! And if all goes bad tell her not to feel afraid to talk to her counsler i had to go a couple of times before my mom had to go straighten them out!! (And tell her not to feel bad because you just called the school! Mine actually pulled the girl out of my class and talked to her personally and after we went and talked to the counsler about it!! And that was the end of the problem!! After that the kids also called me a snitch but in about a week it went away!

   Good luck!! God bless!

Answer 2

My daughter went through the same thing in elementry school, but with GIRLS and BOYS. I was so upset that they were hurting my little girl.

I got her some counsling and we ended up switching schools because it was getting really hard on her. Every day a kid would come up to her and smash her agansit a locker. And I was sick of it.

But if switching schools isn't an option, then I suggest you talk with your daughter. Let her know she';s beautiful inside and out and that when people bang on her that she should say "I didn't know I was a snitch, thanks for telling me, now I know." and walk away. OR she could say "You can think that if you want, but I think I'm a nice person and I'm not gonna put up with this BS anymore!".

Even if the teasing conutnies, contunie to talk to your daughter and make sure she knows that you are her everything and you would hate it if she killed herself.

Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 3

You can try and maybe give her a fresh start or have her friends help her out. she will have to deal with it one day but she should be told just to ignore them I have to do that all the time, so it gets harder for them to do it when they get no reaction.

Answer 4

There is nothing you can do about it. She just needs to get over it and ignore the boys. If worst comes to worst you can take her to a theripest.

Answer 5

This is a tough situation. I'm glad she talked to you about it. And maybe you should talk to the school counselor about this with your daughter and try to work something out with the school about a program about on bulling. As for how they found out she was the one who told, it sounds like the school handled it wrong. I actually had to pull my daughter from a school because of these issues. The school refused to work with us on it. And the situation got a lot worse. She had a high school boy telling her he was gonna wait til she was 16 and get her pregnant wither she wanted it or not. And always grabbing at her the school said kids will be kids, she was in The 6th grade. The school she goes to now has a program they do that talks about bulling and the way to handle it. They allow no bullying and they are very through on not letting kids know who turned one in.

Answer 6

Maybe sending her to a differnet school? If not,

try telling your daughter that she made the right decision telling you about the bullying or they would have just kept doing it and she would be upset anwyays. tell her to just ignore them. they are so bored with there own lives that they have to bully your daughter. tell her to just stick with her freinds and ignore the rest. tell her highschool is coming up and she can have a new beginning. she isnt a snitch she was just depressed. good luck and i'm sure she'll be fine.

Answer 7

bullying is such an issue these days

does she have friends to back her u?

have you taught her that she is not to be mean but is allowed to defend herself?

is her brother going to help her

get her help about the sucide problems she needs a professional

and stay on the school they are obligated to give your daughter a safe place to be

good luck

Answer 8

I'm 13 too. i have had a lot of trouble with bullies also

my mom didn't do anything for me. i wish she would have called because the principle wouldn't do anything for me, even when all my friends went with me. it finally got so bad because i would cry infront of them and so they made fun of me even more. it got so bad that I had to move school districts. I learned the hard way that if i had ignored them that life would have been easier.

Answer 9

You need to have the school set up a meeting with there parents. I bet there parents don't know everything that is going on. Don't have the kids at the meeting. Talk to the parents let them now how you feel and how its making your daughter feel. Don't put down there kids. If that don't work try to have a no bulling rule at the school. I hope that helps and good luck.