BUT he wont stop begging for love...how should I stop him?

Question

I had met him before & then it was a long distance + serious relationship & looked like it would end with a marriage.Then I dumped him because some of his habbits were absolutly unacceptable to me. I told him about my concern from the beggining and he said he would change. BUT he lieyed and stayed the SAME! Anyway. SO NOW it is six months later and still I get at least one e mail from him everyday. He says he is sorry and sends loves and all that, but I know he will stay the person that he is. That is not a problem for me because I loved him and I still do and I rather not see my love with bad habbits; thus I rather not marry him.

Oh and I have not replied a single e mail of him in the past six months. But he wont stop begging...how should I stop him? I would love your openion on this.

Answer 1

You're doing the right thing. Like you said, you were honest with him from the beginning. He just needs to get over it or change which he won't do, like it would matter at this point anyway.A little tough love wont hurt him.

Answer 2

For Gods sake let the poor sod have his way, he will soon get fed up and start chasing someone else, nothing like someone being beyond reach to fan the flames of lust.

Answer 3

If he smokes cigarettes - there is no hope for him.  You would not even be able to kiss without feeling sick.

Answer 4

well, personally, i would tell him maybe it would be better off just being friends. but tell him the limits to your relationship with him. For example, tell him that nothing serious will happen between you two, and make sure that he is not sending you an email EVERY day!!

hope this helps!!

=D

Answer 5

You cant make people do things, but if you don't want any more e-mails from him then put him on ignore. If not then I'm afraid your just going to have to ignore it. People are just how they are, you cant change people. They may act differently for a while to make you happy, but eventually their true side will reemerge. If he wants you bad enough he will change. If he wont then you'll just have to move on. I know that may be upsetting but you have to think about yourself in a time like this. Is it in your best interest to be with someone who has unacceptable qualities about them and are unwilling to, not change, but co-mold them self into a relations ship thats about the needs and wants of 2 people not 1

Answer 6

three things, 1) he's not communicating enough, 2) He may need more space, and 3) Just give it time.  It sounds like your having the usual problems - you both are prob. young, and just need allloooott more time to filter some things out, hang around and be a friend and it will prob. work out - the habits thing will go away or improve with time and growth as a person - in a few years i'm sure you will see that things will change and improve if given the length and expanse to cultivate - but keep healthy ties : ) good luck : )

Answer 7

Is this Kate? Is this Prince William you're speaking of?

Respod to his emails with a picture of you looking really gross-don't shave your armpits, let your hair get greasy, take a picture of you eating a big bowl of ice cream!

Oh wait, if your from brittain, I didn't mean to offend anyone-I know you don't all shave your pits.

Maybe he's got the wrong email address....