Baby's father required to know about birth?

Question

Im 37 weeks and I left my babys father when I was 6 months. He was cheating and abusive towards me. Am I required to let him know when I am giving birth? He has ignored me up untin 2 weeks ago. Now hes called (I let v-mail get it) Once saying he loves me. Always asking me to call back. I dont want to talk to him. Its too hard. Im still trying to move on and that will make it worse.

Answer 1

i spoke to a lawyer about this the other week. He told me that I was not required to tell the father ANYTHING! not about appointments, birth, development. Nothing. So i don't plan to. You don't have to either... UNLESS he takes you to court and gets an order that says you have to do such. It will help your custody case that he is a felon and you left for abuse possibly. Depends on what he did. BUT its not going to stop him from being able to see his child if he so chooses to fight for this right. If you don't want him involved STOP talking to him PERIOD! A lot of guys don't really care about the baby. Just stop accepting phone calls and there is a good chance he may move on completely.  

Answer 2

I'm sorry for your problem! I'm almost 39 weeks and having a problem with my babys father as well..

It is not required to tell him but since it is his baby, you should atleast let him know that his baby will be born soon. And you should let him be there during the birth reguardless of him cheating on you, because still that is his baby and i'm sure he would love to be there to see his baby being born, those are moments he can never get back once its gone.

Goodluck.

Answer 3

No, you are not required to let him know about the birth.  However, he can always petition the courts to establish paternity and for visitation rights.

Answer 4

You don't have to, but think about what will happen when your child starts asking questions. If he truly is physically abusive you may want to just write your child a letter about it's father including his b-day and full name and birth state. You don't have to go back to him to have him be involved in this child's life and be prepared to go to court. He knows you are pregnant and it stands to reason that he will find out when and where you gave birth. He does have the right to take you to court to get rights to his child. Not telling him would look bad in court

Answer 5

I hear what you are saying but unfortunately its not about you anymore.  That baby has two parents and he has the right to be there when his baby is born.  No one said that you have to get back with him but that child is innocent. If he is going to take on the responsibly of being a father, don't discourage him.  You will need all the financial help that you can get and the baby deserves all the love.  The child deserves to have both parents.  Don't stop them from bonding.  I know its hard for you, being hurt the way you have but this is for your child.

Answer 6

NO you are not required to tell him anything.  Move on and raise your beautiful baby in a non abusive home. You and your baby deserve nothing less than a happy and safe life.

Answer 7

h**l, no.  U don't have to tell him JACK.

Answer 8

I know you are angry with him, but try to turn off that part for a minute. You do not have to tell him, but be VERY sure you never want him in the child's life. Because these next few months will be pivotal. The longer he is disconnected from the baby, the less likely he will become so later. Is that fair to the baby who might want to know her/his father?

And what about child support? Are you certain of your ability to support the child on your own?

Obviously, the other factor is the "abuse" you mentioned. I don't know what that was. Certainly, if he could represent a risk to the baby, that totally changes what I wrote above.

If you are determined to not have him in your OR the baby's life, you might want to talk to an attorney and find out what you need to do to protect yourself legally, from him trying to get any claims on the baby's time in the future through the courts. Things like the birth certificate come to mind... do you put his name on it as the father or not. Talk a lawyer.

Answer 9

No, you're not required to tell him.

Answer 10

I don't know if it is the same where you stay but here in TN in order for the father to be listed on the birth certificate the father must be present to sign the birth certificate. But if the Past is bad do not go back to it. Move forward no matter how hard it is. I have three children by the same dead beat dad and I kept giving him the benefit of a doubt and he will never change so I had to move on. They say if your children see you going through a rough and not so happy relationship then they will follow in your foot steps and that is what made me move on so my children can see me doing better so they will want better. I was with my children's father for 8 years and I am not going to tell you that it was easy for me because it is not but I put up this brave and strong role for my children and that is what keeps me going. What ever you decide to do Good Luck!!!!! I wish the best.