Baby's gramma won't come to my house to see her?

Question

My beautiful daughter is over 10 weeks old now, and it's amazing how much she has changed since she was born! I'm upset because my boyfriend's mom refuses to come to my house to visit her. We have been over to HER house a few times since she was born, and I think it's her turn to come to MY house, especially since I'm sleep -deprived and completely run-down (I haven't slept more than 2 hours at a time since the baby was born!). My boyfriend has told her she is more than welcome to come over to see the baby, but she won't come over. Instead, she complains to him that she never gets to see the baby!! WTF? She says that she can't come over to my house because of the stairs. Well, while I was pregnant, she has come to my house (to get the car from her son)...so why all of a sudden she can't come over? I think it's because she feels that as THE grandmother, she has the right to request that we take the baby to her. I don't think so! My mother passed away a few years ago, she my bf's mom is the only grandmother she is going to have. Because of her pettiness, she is missing out, and so is my daughter! I'm not going to give in to her. How should I handle this situation?

Answer 1

I get this all of the time. I hardly visit my family or my husband's family. We get grief all the time, but, they all know where we live, and if they can't make their way here, then it's their problem, not mine. Same goes for you, you can't be expected to visit there every time, tell her that you will not visit her until she starts making it more even.

Answer 2

Hi my mom passed away 2006 so my baby now that I'm carrying will not have a grandma from my side either only his side. I understand as I really think that eventually she will come over to see her. she should know what your going through. she is just being rude. so don't give in.GL

Answer 3

Hi!

Maybe she is a little bit afraid from a new responsibility - grandmother! Maybe she can't get over that son have his own family and in your house she feels like a visitor - baby visitor, 'cause your house - your rules. But in her house she's a mistress and she can feel more comfortably. Try to explain what do you feel about it and what does it means.

Answer 4

Oh, well, her loss is how I see it.  If u want her to see her grandchild, u either take her over there, or have your boyfriend do it...then u can get a little sleep.

I wouldn't sweat it though.  When your daughter won't go to her because she is strange, she has no one to blame but herself.  One set of grandparents is workin for my baby...plus the rest of my family.

Answer 5

YOU talk to her and tell her that you would like her to come over and visit her granddaughter, if she comes up with any excuses tell her how you feel, you shouldnt have to be running over to her house for her to see the baby, but the biggest mistake is having your boyfriend talk to her instead of talking to her yourself

Answer 6

i think it is only fair for her to come over and see her grandchild sometimes and you take your daughter over her house sometimes. it shouldnt be you taking the baby over her house all the time. she is complaining about your stairs? tell her that you will bring the baby downstairs so she can see her. i think she should get up and visit her grandchild more. good luck