Baby Daddy?

Question

I fell for a man 3 years ago. We had a wonderful romance. I got psycho chick. He develped a life changing illness. I did not want to let go of the relationship. He changed his number and never called again. We met face to face this weekend and spent the whole night talking about what happened and cathcing up on our current lives. He is dying and wants to have another child with me. I have been praying for a husband and a family non stop for a few months. He wants to give me a child. His clock is ticking too. But he cant promise me a future with him. Should i take him on as a baby daddy? Is this the answer to my prayer?

Answer 1

Do whatever you feel is right, just think about it though what if you have a baby from him and he passes on, your child will be left without a father. what do you mean he wants to have "another child with me", you guys already have a child together or what? well hope this helps and good luck with your decision......

Answer 2

You are decreasing the odds of getting a husband and family in the future if you do this. You are intentionally creating  "baggage", bringing a kid into the world without a dad.   Get over the romantic stuff and think practically.

I'll probably get harangued for writing this by the romantic types.

Answer 3

First of all it's been years and no calls or anything from this guy-don't do it! if you want a baby that bad either wait or get a sperm donor.Don't you think it's weird he wants a baby with you after all this time?

Answer 4

First off, it's hard to raise a child as a single parent.  Also, before you decide to sleep w/him and make another baby, I would definitely have him tested to make sure that he cannot pass his illness to both you and the baby.

Be 100% sure before you take the next step.

Answer 5

will he marry you? he may not offer you a long future, but at least the baby will have a real family, not just a mother who was in love with a man who was dying and needed to fullfil his need for generativity.

good luck with your situation.

Answer 6

No.  He dropped you before, he'll drop you again.

Answer 7

Well since you said you prayed about it, I'll give you my oppinion. No. Honey, God doesn't work that way. I don't know your guy, I don't know you. But God, I know. He doesn't bring people we're not married to (ahem?) in our lives who are pretty sure they're dying and then want us to make illegitimate babies with them so we can raise them up without their father. God values the role of a father in a child's life. While sometimes he may allow them to be taken from us, he doesn't set us up with the situation, you understand? So if you're asking if this is an answer to prayer- most emphatically and undeniably (which may be the problem) NO. Sorry honey. You need to have patience.

Answer 8

That is so sad.... if you really love him and want another piece of him if he dies, well yeah... I love children. Well, i wish you my best and hope that he gets better. This could be one of his final wishes.

Answer 9

ummm. sound like this guy might have aids to wanna knock you up after  3 years

Answer 10

Do what your heart tells you.