Baby Help? Teen :(?!?!?

Question

Ok i just found out today im 4 months pregnant.

Get this im only 16 :(

My mom died when i turned 14

I guess ever since she died i dont really know what to do in life?

Shes usually there for me but now i dont have anyone to help me

Please :(

My dads the type thats real protective :(

If i tell him i know i will be in soo much trouble!!

This is all my fault and i know soo please dont remind me im already upset enough

Ive been crying all morning

Struggled to sleep last night..

Wanted to run away but dont think thats a good idea

My bf doesnt even no?

how am i going to get threw this??

My family what do i say??

I just need some answers here..

Answer 1

omg!! how horrible it breaks my heart to read this...look just talk to your boyfriend, tell him your pregnant and im hoping he will help you! and from there take your boyfriend and talk to your dad and family, your dad cant do anything to you since your pregnant, get some help from someone like an aunt or grandmother, you might not have you mom with you to help you but she is looking after you and she will be with you ever step you will take, talk to you aunt or something so that way you could become a good mom to you bundle of joy!! dont be say sad! babies feel ur pain, be happy! and continue with school//u want the best education so you can give a good life to ur child!! good luck honey!

Answer 2

You should think about telling your dad yes he will probably be mad and all but who else can you depend on?

Trust me you will get threw this but you should decide what you want to do, abortion, adoption, or keep the baby.  I know in some states you can go to a private hospital and talk to a doctor there about your options, and the hospital won't even ask for your name or your parents if you don't want them to know.  

If you love your bf you should talk to him about it he might have something to say.

Answer 3

I can't imagine going through a pregnancy at any age without my mom. Do you have another woman in your life like an aunt or older cousin who can help you out? You're going to have to tell your dad eventually. If you're 4 months along it won't be long until you start to show and he'll find out anyway. Running away won't solve any of your problems, it'll only make you more alone. You need to tell your boyfriend, also. As the father he has a right to know, and he can help you out.

Don't worry, you'll get through it. You dad will probably be upset at first, but he'll get over it and then help you.  

Answer 4

tell you boyfriend ASAP. then maybe tell his parents... find some support and then tell you dad. ... but dont wait too long.

good luck

Answer 5

I'm sorry bout your mom and your dad. No it's not just your fault, it's yours and your bf's so dont go so hard on yourself. Try to talk to your dad or you could write a letter that might be a little easier. Congrats that your prego!Just relax I'm sure everything will be ok, tell your dad soon so he can help you with all the doctor stuff. E-mail me sometime and let me know how everything goes. Good Luck!

Answer 6

I t will be ok. You need to talk to your dad, he may be upset at first but he will not hate you. This is something that will make you grow up very fast, but if handled in the right way can be a blessing for you. There is a lot of help out there with daycare, healthystart insurance and foodstamps if needed. also wic can help with formula. You really need to see a doctor and talk to your dad.

Answer 7

well i know that you feel down and stuff but you have to tell them cause if they find out by someone else you will be in even bigger trouble! tell them and then decide what you want to do with the baby and then do it.

pregnancy is one of the hardest things to deal with in life and especially when you have no one to be there for you! but first sit down and think why were you having s*x in the first place when you are so freakin young?

Answer 8

Many girls have been in your situation,and we have made it through. You know running away will not make the situation better and telling your dad and BF is not going to be as bad as you think. We tend to beat ourselves up more then others do. Your dad might be disappointed but love always prevails over and he will give his support after he processes everything.

BF needs to know, so he and his parents can figure out what role they are going to play. You need to know right away if they are going to help or not. It's better emotionally for you.

I think your going to do just fine, you have to stop beating yourself up over this. Its not a mistake. You have to be a strong mother soon enough. Telling the people around you is going to be the warm up for motherhood. Please try not to get upset too much, your baby can feel your emotions, so listen to music you love, think positive, read and relax....

You can not turn back time and make it different.. so don't think about the what if's... start thinking about the future and just prepare your mind to think about positive thoughts....

Answer 9

I am so sorry about your mother. all you can do is be truthful to your dad and your boyfriend and then try to figure out what is best for you and this baby. Its not going to be easy but i hope that your father is supportive in whatever you choose. I was 17 when I found out I was pregnant with my son and my dad did not take it well at all but who knows how your dad reacts its different for everyone. Just know that even if your dad does get extremely mad its not because he doesn't care for you hes probably just upset about your decisions. I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 10

Don't worry!! I was 16 as well when i got pregnant with my daughter, and yes your dad will be sad, and disapointed maybe even mad, but he loves you and will learn to accept it. It is rough being a teen mom, whether the dad is involved or not. But I'm sure you can do it!! If you need to talk to someone who has gone through this before, feel free to message me on yahoo, my id is the_fog_mog

Answer 11

i really feel for you sweet heart. i was a teen mum and i know how hard it is.. you need support from your family now and need to tell dad. yes he'll be upset at first but it is to late to have a termination, so he will have to deal.... i dont know what else to say but being a young mum you need to have that tight network of people around you. tell you dad he might be good about it, my dad was the first to tell me he'd stick by me no matter what

Answer 12

Oh honey, well youve got a blessing on your hands. Your going to have to grow up, that will come with time though. Im sorry about your mom, I know you need her. I also understand about a protective dad but you need to tell him, so he is going to get mad but he is also going to help you. Youll get yelled at but in the end he will be happy to help you and will try his best to be the mom in your life. Wait a while to tell your bf, like in a week, so you know how to tell him correctly. Then, go and tell his parents. You can do it. Start attending a nice church, there will hopefully be tons of nice ladies there who have been there before. Also try if there is in your town a place to help girls in your situation. Pray, GOD WILL HELP YOU!

Email me whenever you need :D Ill help you:D

Answer 13

First, don't run away! Tell you dad and make sure he knows that you are already having a tough time and he doesn't need to get mad cause you're already sad enough. Tell your bf NOW! How did you go 4 months without a period and not know that you were pregnant? Anyways, talk to someone older, maybe your school counselor and get advice from them. They will probably help you out. I know it would be kinda awkward to talk to a school counselor, but it might help. If you can go to Planned Parenthood and talk to them, that will help you also. Good luck!!!!!!!!