Baby Shower for Second Child?

Question

One of my close girlfriends wants to throw me a baby shower for our second child. Our first born is 2 1/2 years old and just out of diapers. We don't know the s*x of the baby, we didn't with the first either. I didn't want to hurt her feelings but I told her if we did anything I would like to have it really small, maybe not a shower, just a day of shopping or a spa day. I was thinking maybe 4-5 close friends....Any ideas on how not to upset anyone? I feel uncomfortable with anyone buying anything.

Answer 1

Consider having a Blessingway - where your friends come to bless you and your baby on your journey.

You can find more information here:

http://www.naturalbirthandbabycare.com/b...

and the book Blessingways can be found here http://www.blessingway.net/  or look for another book called "mother rising"

If you are uncomfortable with anyone buying anything, invite seven friends along, and ask them all to pledge a meal to you for the first four weeks of your new baby's life ... one friend for each day.  Or suggest a babysitting roster to care for your 2 1/2 year old a few hours a week tp give you a chance to catch up on some rest, or suggest they help with the housework.  There are many gifts that friends can nurture with that has more value than any store bought gifts.

Answer 2

You should just tell her you don't want to do anything really big for this baby and all you want to do is go out for a day with friend before the baby comes i am sure she will have no problem at all

Answer 3

I think you're absolutely right. Tell her exactly what you told us- that you feel it is inappropriate to ask people to buy more gifts, but that you would love to have a girl's day- and if your close friends want to buy you a gift, they will probably do it with or without a party!

Answer 4

I dont think people vvill be too upset, after all your the one having the baby so its your decision hovv you vvant to do things. I think a day of shopping and a spa day sounds like a really good idea! The vvhole point is just to have a good time and some people dont even have shovvers.

Answer 5

Just tell them what you told her that was not rude.

Answer 6

This baby needs things, just like baby # 1 needed things. Let your friend have the shower for you.

Answer 7

I personally think it is tacky when woman have more than one baby shower...sorry to say. Maybe just have a "mommy's day out"

Answer 8

Instead of a shower, why not have a get-together?  Have a brunch or luncheon (pot-luck or go out somewhere) and have it specifically say on the invite "NO GIFTS".  If your girlfriend doesn't like that idea, suggest having people donate $$ to a children's foundation or children's hospital in your area.  They could make the donations in your baby's name (ie. Baby Smith).

And thank her very much for the thought...while not in line with you, she's being very thoughtful...  :-)

Answer 9

I don't think there is anything wrong with another shower. Why do I say this? If someone doesn't want to come, they don't have to. I have a HUGE family on my husband's side, all Cuban women who love food & babies. So they would throw me a shower for everyone baby, & all babies in the family because its just what they would love to do. They're buying stuff for a baby, not the mother. I would never reject someone's kind gesture in throwing me a shower because I cared what OTHERS thought. Good luck with your new babe!

Answer 10

I would just say that. Tell them you have everything from your 1st baby, no need for a large party.

Maybe you can do a day at the spa then a potluck dinner with a few close friends?

Answer 11

Oh honey, I'd be dying for a baby shower! lol In my opinion, the second baby deserves it's own special shower too. I say let your friends throw you a shower - they'll have fun with it. But if you REALLY don't want one, just say so and suggest your idea. They are your friends, I'm sure they won't get mad. Although, if I was your friend, I'd probably say 'okay no shower' and go ahead and throw you a surprise one anyway lol But that's just me!