Baby Shower?

Question

I've noticed a lot lately that many women have been throwing their own baby showers. I personally think it's a little tacky. In fact, I think throwing any short of gift party for yourself seems kind of tactless to me. What are your feelings on this?

Also, ever since I can remember there was an unspoken rule that a woman only got *one* baby shower (or two if she had separate ones for different sides of the family) and that was during her first pregnancy. I've noticed that a lot of women are having a baby shower with each new pregnancy. What do you think of this?

Answer 1

I agree it is tacky to throw your own baby shower.  I also agree with the unspoken rule ONE BABY SHOWER.  I feel as though I have a baby shower or bridal shower to attend every weekend.

Answer 2

I totally agree, it is rude to throw your own shower, or even be involved in the planning. And I don't understand how the notion that "every baby deserves to be celebrated" translates into a gift-grab for the parents. A baby can be celebrated when it is born. A shower is to help a family get ready to welcome a baby into a home- totally unecessary when there are already three kids in the house! That's what Christnenings and Bris are for- welcoming a baby. Not a shower.

Answer 3

I'm totally in agreement on both points.  I don't think there's anything wrong with being excited about a coming baby and wanting to celebrate it with your family and friends, but I definitely think if you throw the celebration yourself you shouldn't call it a shower and you should specify "no gifts".  Or you could wait until after the birth and have a "welcome home" party for the new baby, which you can throw yourself.

Answer 4

I recently was invited to a second-time-around baby shower (different gender, 3 yrs apart, thrown by coworkers) and I knew that they probably had some things already from the first baby.  I figured that I would just buy something that would have needed to be replaced.  I got them a bottle drying rack that they had on a target wish list.  I didn't feel weird about it since we didn't know them with the first child.  I think its great to celebrate.  I won't be having a baby shower for my second child (If I ever get around to making a 2nd baby).  I got way too much stuff at the party and didn't even use it all.  Plus, now I know what is really essential when a baby comes into the world.  

Don't get all upset about it.  Doesn't do your heart good to get bent out of shape - just accept it and be kind to the new (again) mom.

Answer 5

I do agree that it's tacky to throw one for yourself. However, I'm on the fence about the multiple shower thing. If your children have a big age gap between them or are a different gender then I think it's fine to have another shower. If not then a "Welcome to the World" party when the baby is born should suffice.

Answer 6

I agree that it is tacky to throw yourself a shower.  But, if someone offers to throw a shower for your 2nd, 3rd,  ect. baby then I say go for it.  Every baby deserves to be celebrated.  It is up to each guest invited whether they want to attend and what gift to give if any!

Answer 7

Throwing a baby shower for yourself is asking for gifts and that's tacky.  I personally don't think anything is wrong with having a "meet the baby" party though : )

Baby showers are more for the parents to be to get items they may need.. It's not about Celebrating a baby.

Answer 8

i agree that you shouldnt throw your own shower. I am pregnant with my second and having a shower. I had my son early so i never got a baby shower the first time around. we are also having a girl this time around so we will be needing alot of things since we cant reuse our first borns baby clothes and blankets etc.

Answer 9

I do agree that you should not be throwing your own shower. But I don't think there is anything wrong with having more then one shower. Every child is a new blessing and deserves to be treated as such.