Baby dumped in my lap........Almost killed by bmom,ON PURPOSE b4 he was 3 wks old..?

Question

She was 16.Family,including her,said"take him,take him,YOU can do this.It's meant to be!"I tried to raise two step-kids who had no mom.Wasn't that I didn't love em or didn't try.I got too much bs from family..THEIRS.I was too strict.I was too hard on em.I wasn't their mom.That sort of thing.The one who listened to me got educated.The one who listened to THEM got pregnant.Thus this poor,dumped baby in my lap.

Hubby swore to help me,is NO help.Never so much as changed a diaper.Now too lazy to work more often than not.Losing everything here.Bmom is strung out on drugs,doesn't want him. No idea who the Dad was.Can't care for this child by myself, can I?Everyone's bailed but ME! I had him 2.5 yrs.God knows I don't want to lose him but I don't know what to do.Faced with being a single mom.I wanted him to have a FAMILY.That's why I agreed.Now I'll be all he has and I don't think that's enough!!Shouldn't have done it, RIGHT, but PLEASE don't beat me up for that now.Can I do this alone??

Answer 1

wow thats a tough question... it is not your responsibility to raise the family children.  if there have been no papers signed, you dont HAVE to do anything.  I'm sure if you really wanted to though, you would have the power to provide a stable home for the baby... we are capable of doing anything we want to.  if you decide to keep the baby, get legal rights, and get child support.  make the mother help you find the father, and since you obviously love the baby, you will do what is right and you will work it out.  be smart about it - follow your heart, and take all the help you can get.

Answer 2

Sometimes, life is so overwhelming, it causes people to not be able to be parents.  What a shame that BMom is like that and your partner isn't helping.  I'd love to give this little guy a home!  I'm an adoptive mother of 1 and natural mother of a 19 year old.  Home study approved, and lawyer in place, please contact me.  It can be an open adoption, where you could visit, or if location is a problem, pictures, phone calls and more.  Please contact me.

Answer 3

this little guy is lucky to have someone that loves him as much as you do...stay strong for him and yourself.....you can do this...

Answer 4

attach me as your contact me   there are support groups out there to help you, contact the salvation army, a local church, good luck praying for you

Answer 5

First of all, don't give up on the baby, this is not the baby's fault.

At least try, call your local Family Services for help they also have counseling to help you out. And if you still can't take care and raise this baby on your own, Family Services will also help you out, What your doing I think is really awesome,

Good Luck to you,

Answer 6

I would contact a lawyer.

Answer 7

You can do this....I belive in you.....but most importantly so does this little guy!!!

Tell yourself you can do it till you belive it!

Best of luck :-)

Answer 8

If I was you I would raise him, it doesn't matter if you are a single parent or not...........if you are able to do it, then Do It!!!!!

I would take anyone's child if they dropped it off to me, It would be better than killing it.......

I would take the child if you were not able to handle the responsibility..........

Take Care and Good Luck............

Answer 9

Yes of coarse you can, thousands of women do it everyday......and yes some of them alone.

Answer 10

It sounds like your about at the end of your rope. Two & a half year olds can be tough on the head, and no support makes it that much worse sometimes.

I bet that lil guy sure loves you alot. When no one else was there to care & love him, you were. I bet you are the world to him. You've been there to change his diapers, kiss his boo boo's... everything. And not once did you ever expect anything in return did you?

Bmom is strung out on drugs, & hubby is no support. You can do it on your own, if you want to. There's going to be rough days, when you want to just throw the towel in, and walk away from it all. I don't blame you one bit. I have toddlers at home, and I tell you, there's days I want to...and I gave birth to them.

What do you want? Your perfectly within your rights to walk away. He's not yours, you never legally adopted him. But you're going to miss him arn't you? Think of the times when he wraps those little arms around your neck in a big hug.

It's not easy. You two are a family now, and you have been for two & a half years. Do what your heart tells you. If you need someone to talk to feel free to email me.

Answer 11

Sorry, that sounds tough. Well if you think you are so financially/physically drained that you will soon be homeless or not be able to afford anything for your kids- then the best option is to give the baby  up to a group home or some kind of orphanage- it is better to live growing up in a government program than to grow up with nothing to eat :?

Answer 12

Please do not give up on this little fella like everyone else did

You are the hero here, dont let him down PLEASE

Answer 13

you can do anything you want to do..!

[poor kids]  :-(

Answer 14

After I got separated I was scared to be a single mom too. Then I realized that I had been doing EVERYTHING on my own since day one anyway, so there was nothing to fear. I'm not saying it won't be hard but it can be done. You just have to learn to trust yourself. You can do it!!!

Answer 15

yes you can

Answer 16

I wouldn't say you shouldn't have done it. You did a very noble thing, and that child is going to have a good life because of you. And even with kids that are yours or not yours, husbands are not always the most help.

I do think you can do this alone. But try and work on your marriage as much as you can. And don't look at the child as the thing that hurt your marriage. A baby is a blessing!

Good luck!

Answer 17

why did u get into this?