So I have been dating this man for 2 years and we are engaged. I have no children but he has 2 daughters from two daughters from two other women. The 1st child is 11 years old and he does not have a relationship with her but pays child support. The 2nd child is 4 years old and we currently have physical custody of her because her mother has got caught up with drugs. She calls me mommy but knows she has 2 mommys. The reason he does not know his 1st daughter is because this is the way the mother wanted it, my fiancé and her broke up before their child was 1 yrs old and moved to another state. Since then the mother has moved on and married with another child and her and her current husband has been “dad†to her. Her mother and her got into an argument recently and the mother blurted out to her that he (current husband) is not her “real dadâ€Â. So we were in court on Friday for his 2nd child and won custody of her on that sameday my fiancé received a letter from his 1st childs mother stating she finally told her daughter the truth about her dad and now she wants to meet him and had all sorts of questions and is excited that she has a sister. My fiancé is thrilled that he is now welcome in his daughters life. He told me that if it comes down to it he will drop everything and ride his motorcycle to visit her. My problem with that is if I am suppose to be his future wife that is raising his other daughter and he doesn’t want to make it a family trip? I haven’t said anything to him about the way I feel yet because I don’t want him to think I am getting in between things. But am I being selfish for wanting to go and letting the 2 daughters meet? I know he will be staying the night, since it is 2 states away. I don’t know what the baby’s mama’s intentions is and if she is still with her husband. They have not scheduled a meeting yet, but am I wrong or selfish for feeling this way? I feel like I have invested so much time and love with the child that lives with us and giving her a “normal life. I feel like now this is just too much for me to handle, with the other baby mama situation and all. We have been engaged for a year and this is suppose to be a happy time for us, planning our wedding but everything has been on hold since the custody battle. I feel like running away from it all…..Please help…send me some advice….ASAP before I make an irrational dicision. Thanks!!
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