Baby mama drama should i go or should i stay ?

Question

i love my bf of 1 yr. we have a 2 mo old baby together. i also have a child by my x husband (he is not in the pic) so i have no baby daddy drama. unfortunately my bf has 2 other baby mamas from his past relationships. my bf is a realy good dad.and he does everything to set boundaries with the babys mamas.but that wasnt always the case with one baby mama they use to text eachother talk on the phone when i wasnt around she knew all his business and he cheated on one of his other x girlfriends with her.he has also lied to me about stuff with her so i wouldnt get mad and leave him .there has been so much drama with this girl now she keeps his son away from him because he wont get back with her.(i found the text of her trying to get back with him)she lied to me about stuff they did together and then gets caught in her own lies. my bf says he will get a restraining order against her to keep her out of his life.and that he will use a middle man to pick up and drop off his son. my bf really tries NOW and has all these plans to keep her out of his life but this change only came along since she started keeping his son away from him..my bf wants to marry me hes always asking me and tells me to have faith that everything will be fine. i love him so much and he shows me love like ive never had we also have a kid together but i just cant handle the fact that these woman will forever be in our lives.i wish he could just have his kids and the moms could go away.but thats not reality.i dont think i can do this.sometimes i just feel like baby mama #3. i think the drama will only continue.i don t need that in my life neithier do my kids.

Answer 1

he should go to the courts for visitation rights and explain to the courts that she is threatening to keep his child away from him. It is very possible to set up something through the courts for an appropriate place to meet to give the child to the father/mother or maybe even a person, preferably someone who is neutral and not part of the situation. like a friend or relative. He can request her to stop texting or calling about anything that does not involve the child's well being. He can just delete the texts as well without responding if it does not concern the child.  

Answer 2

You sound unsure of this relationship. You have other children also, so it may be time to step up and do what's best for them.  They didn't ask for all of this so respect their future and put yourself on the back burner for a while.  

Answer 3

For one, why did you get yourself involved with a guy like that?

Now you have two kids with different fathers, with one not in the picture.

It is your responsibility as a mother to get rid of these men and better yourself, not only for you, but for your kids.

What about when they are older and you are still having baby-father drama, with baby-daddy number 5?

Come on girl, you can do this on your own and if you meet a nice guy, go ahead, date him.

But for now, keep your kids number one in your life.

Answer 4

It sounds to me th@ u would be making a mistake by leaving him now  (after all U knew about his history b4 u became his baby's mama) Every 1 has a past and it's down to u to make a future ...unless he gives u a reason to leave him then I think u should make evrey effort not to sercome to ur exspectations (I mean by leaving him then u will just be #3) Also u will have let the ***** win and u aint gonna let know 1 come between u and ur man....stick with it, 4give forget and move on....And hun ur hormones are all over the place and now would be the wrong time to make your mind up

Another thing if he is doing all these changes now after she has basically given him the ultimatum , then surely this tells u how much he is willing to give up to be with u!!

Answer 5

If u don't want the drama be done.  If u leave this guy for another, that guy could be baby daddy #3 and see things the way u see them now...

Answer 6

Well, the mothers of his other two children will always be in the picture. If that's not something you can deal with then you should probably leave him.