My girl and I have not been seeing eye to eye. She wants a baby so badly even when hurried to get somewhere she'll stop at the sight of any really young child and get emotional. (while of course baby talking and so on with said kid) Personally, I have no want or need for a child. We're both setting up our lives right now, getting where we want to be. I've said we should wait, she of course disagrees!
The dilemma comes in our sexual lives. If I grab a condom before the moment, or suggest we use some form of birth control she has a FIT! The deed still goes on, but if BC use is there she's totally not into it and hurries the situation. I get completely worried about not using any birth control. So much so that I don't enjoy the moment for the "wait and worry" period between menstrual cycles! Having an unwanted pregnancy is not something I look forward to. She sits in probably 16 hours of hope everyday that it's "her" time. Any bodily changes she goes through I notice right away and have a tendency to ask about any symptoms. I love the girl dearly, but this situation is exhausting. Not only to us both but obviously the relationship is suffering.
On a side note: I'm 28, she's 26. Living together in our own place.
Any suggestions out there to resolve the situation? What can be done? and of great importance...How do we have this discussion peacefully?! (past attempts at fixing things have resulted in fuming shouting matches and hurt feelings!) I'm at a loss right now as this problem is causing stress that of course affects every other relationship issue that comes up.
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