Baby on the way and 4 other children?

Question

I am expecting a baby in 2 months and my other children were all premature so i have been told that they want me to have a Cesarean in 3-4 weeks. When will i have to go into hospital to be ready for it? I am a bit worried because i will need someone to look after my children but my husband is fighting out in iraq. My parents are in america and so they probably wont be able to have them is their a nurse that will be able to look after them or something? Thank you

Answer 1

DO U HAVE ANY CLOSE FRIENDS R SOME 1 U CAN TRUST? UR MOTHER CAN"T COME 2 HELP? CAUSE I WAS GOING THOUGH THAT SAME THING & MY MOTHER, SISTER,2 BROTHERS, COUSIN, ALL STATE IN DA SAME CITY. AND MY GRANDMOTHER CAME FROM GA. 2 BABY SIT. CAUSE U GOING 2 NEED SOME 1 THERE WHEN U GO IN DA HOSPITAL & AFTER DA C SETION. CAUSE U MIGHT NOT B ABLE 2 COOK 4 THEM. I HAD TWINS & IT WAS h**l 4 ABOUT A WEEK TRING 2 GET AROUND WITH THEM STITCHES, BUT I HAD MY 15 YR OLD SON 2 HELP AROUND DA HOUSE.

Answer 2

Stop having kids!!!!

Answer 3

Do you have any friends that could watch the children when you are in the hospital? That's your best bet. If not is there a way to contact your husbands chain of command to get him a red cross message so that he can come home and help you out. The should be able to let him come home for a couple days at least?

Answer 4

contact a local church...I am sure there is a family who will help you.  

Answer 5

you usually have a cesarean a week to ten days before baby is due (iv had 2) your in hospital about 3 days

is there not a friend or neighbour or other relative to have kids- if not then they may have to g into temp foster care arranged with social services , your kids will be bought in to see you and as soon as you home you wil have your kids back , this is a last option tho

can your mum not fly out and stay a few weeks , i now flights are pricey but you need her ,

alternativly tell the hospital you cannot stay in due to other kids and you want to try a normal birth , this is your wish and unless it puts you or baby in danger they have to agree

Answer 6

Hi, I don't know what country you are in, I am in australia. Here, there are social workers with the Dept of Human Services who would be able to place your children in loving homes until you can come home. After you come home, there is more support available, with helping to clean your house, or what ever you need. Enjoy your new bub.

Answer 7

Shut up MacP thats extremely rude,

yes hunni your local midwife will be able to offer you a service where someone comes round and helps you, ask her/him when you see them next.

Good luck i have 5 kids myself so i really feel for you

Answer 8

You wont get a nurse from a hospital to look after them, unless you find someone, they may sort out fostercare for you! good luck!

Answer 9

hmm im not sure have you got a close friend you can trust to look after the kids or someone else in the family like and aunt or uncle or maybe your husbands parents and i realy don't think hospitals offer the service to look after the kids because they can't have 4 kids running around wild in a hospital (not saying there wild)  

Answer 10

have your trusted friend over to your house or a neighbor.  

Answer 11

Sadly the hospitals do not offer this kind of service. I am afraid you will have to arrange someone to look after them. My sister was in this position and the hospital told her that if she couldnt find someone they would call social services (my sister went into labour early and need a section also) because it is a major surgery the kids will need to be taken care of elsewhere. Perhaps ask a neighbour? good luck!