My family, whom I'm very close to insist I need a baby shower; however they all live 20 hours away! None of them have the money nor the time to travel out here to attend a shower.
My hubby & I have sat down and talked about it. We don't need a baby shower for any financial reasons, we don't need people to buy us things for the baby. Since he is well paid we are more than capable of suppling all that our baby needs on our own.
So since we don't need gifts the primary reason for us wanting a baby shower is to celebrate our little miracle.
All that said, here comes the problem...
I only recently moved here (about 7 months ago), I am a housewife to a solider in the US army and I have no friends, no acquantainces, no no-one since I moved here. The only people I see since I moved here, besides my hubby, are his friends, co-workers, & their wives. (My hubby has lived out here for almost 2 years.) I don't know any of my hubby's friends or their wives that well and honestly I don't like any of the wives. Not that they aren't nice people, I'm sure, its just that I have absolutely nothing in common with any of the wives so most visits with them are near unbarable for me. I often find myself sitting and socializing with the husbands instead, I get along with the guys much better, lol. I'm not close with any of the men, I've only met a few of them and never met any of them more than once. However I do feel more comfortable with the men than I do the women so..
So we thought about having a co-ed baby shower. But then the realization that most men don't consider celebrating a pregnancy or a baby to be very fun or interesting sat in. After talking about it, we realized many of the men would not want to attend.
So determined to find a way to celebrate this, my hubby & I started talking about what we could do to make it more fun for men and women. We thought about making it more of a bbq in the backyard or holding it at a resturant/bar. If we did a bbq then we could tell the men to just bring their own beer and a pack of diapers. Or if we did it in a resturant then we could have more male-friendly games.
Anyway, even if we could figure out away to make it comfortable for both men and women there's one last problem: everything I'm reading online (I've gone to like 8 different sites) says that the mother-to-be is not supposed to throw her own baby shower. I guess its considered poor ediquette? But if I don't throw my own shower then there is no one else who would! My family is half way across the country, all busy with their own lives. I planned my sister's shower online, did e-vites and helped her register. However she doesn't have the time to do that for me. And no one here is even close enough that they would offer, no one is close enough that I would feel comfortable asking them to do it.
I'm so upset by this. The only two people who attended our wedding was my hubby's best friend's wife (since his best friend was overseas) and her sister. I feel so disconnected from my family and I'm lonely sitting at home alone all the time. Now I'm pregnant, and so happy about it. I just want to celebrate this wonderful little life! But I really don't see how that is going to happen...
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