Babying Kids....?

Question

Has anyone ever babied their kids as a punishment?

I mean like really cracked down. Spoon feeding them, putting them to bed early, calling them baby names, pinching their cheeks and treat them exactly how you would treat a baby minus the crib, diapers and bubble bath?

I was wondering how it worked out for you. In what situation did you have to do this?

I am just asking because I have a 13 yr. old and she constantly acts like she's a baby. I know she seeks attetion, but this is getting old. Should I show her what babies really go through?

Please tell me if you did this with your child and how did it work? Also, any ideas on HOW to baby her?

Answer 1

If she needs attention then give her attention but in some other way because that just seems strange. Besides if she wants attention, treating her like a baby isnt going to solve your problem. It might make the problem worse.

Answer 2

That's humiliating to do that to a child.  Your daughter is a teenager and you should at least respect her the tiniest bit enough not to humiliate her even if it's in front of you, she would never forgive you for it.  

When you say act like a baby, what do you mean?  Does she actually cry, whine, want a bottle things like that?  That could be a sign of a bigger problem going on, and perhaps you should seek counseling for all of you and herself.  If you just mean throwing fits, she's 13, this is what they do, and if she is seeking more attention, perhaps you should give it to her  (without her having to act like a baby, or ask for it) instead of wanting to hurt her feelings by showing her what "babies go through".

Answer 3

It really bugs me when my children play with their food and stuff, I think it is rude and gross, so one day my daughter was being a real bugger and playing with her food during breakfast....I had asked her stop and she just wouldn't, so I figured during lunch, she behave..well she wasn't, so I I warned if that if she didn't start behaving she was going to get into trouble, and she didn't start behaving, so I picked her up, put her in a high chair, got her a sippy cup, and spoon fed her...needless to say, she hated it and now she never plays with her food! I have no advice on how to baby your daughter....sorry

Answer 4

no i dont baby my kids. if they are acting up i ignore them or if they are being very naughty i send them to the corner for how old they are if they are 6 6 min.

Answer 5

gosh ... brilliant idea

Answer 6

if you are having some sort of behavioral problem with your kid, and you cant seem to resolve it without humiliating her, then, get some professional help.  What you want to do is one of those things that will follow that kid for the rest of her life, and mess her up even more than she already is.  Sit her down and actually talk to her.  Find out what it is she needs from you.  Maybe something has happened to her at school and she doesnt know how to deal with it.  You spoon feeding her isnt going to make anything better.   Tell her you want to be there for her, but that her behavior isnt acceptable.  If she feels like she can talk to you, then you can explain the consequences of her whining and babyish behavior.  My daughter is 8, and she knows, when I tell her, somethings getting taken away if she doesnt knock off the whining, well, she stops.  And then she actually starts to talk, and ask, and present logical reasons why she wants something, not just the crying and tantrums.  And if I say no after that, then she is done.  Talk to you kid, and actually listen.

Answer 7

no thats just weird you should respect your daughter not belittle her.

Answer 8

ok I presonally think you should ignore her when she does that and she'll most likely stop acting like that because we all know shes doing it for attetion so try ignoring her and telling her that when she starts acting 13 you'll be willing to pay more attetion

Answer 9

If you are giving her attention,  then it sounds like the 'mistaken goal' of her misbehavior isn't attention, it may be inadequacy.  If you find she does a lot of "I can't"s, this may be the case.  

Inadequacy is often looked at as attention seeking behavior, but it is in fact different as the child may believe they actually can't do something.  The most effective way I have found with this is to simply say, very enthusiastically and maybe with a shoulder squeeze & eye contact, "You can do it, I know you can" and walk away from the situation.  It's definately a tough one and all the attention in the world won't address it.

If that doesn't sound like your daughter she may be atention seeking, and once a week isn't enough time.  A simple daily 5 minute undivided attention session can go a LONG way with attention seeking children.

I hope this helps and best of luck with you daughter!!!

Answer 10

I think is an awful idea.

If my 11yr old is acting childish and not responsible then I don't give her rewards of acting mature. She loses her privileges and stuff like that. I don't treat her like a baby.

Honestly you are thinking of spooning feeding your 13yr old & putting her in diapers? I'd say I'm concerned about you then her.

Next time she wants to do something a 13yr old wants to do like 'Go to the movies with friends'. Then just tell her "I am sorry. Remember when I asked you to help me with the laundry and you sat down whining? If you are not mature enough to help around the house then you can't go to the movies today."

If she whines again take it up a notch. Tell her since she is so whiny she needs to go take a nap.  

If things get bad enough start Home Boot Camp. Take away EVERYTHING out of her room leaving just her bed, dresser, desk and clothes in her closet. Even take away her door.

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