Bachelor/ette party after elopement?

Question

My fiance and I are eloping on Tuesday. Does this mean we forgo our bachelor and bachelorette parties? Does the fact that we will already be married change things for the actual parties? I've heard so many horror stories about men going wild at their bachelor parties it makes me wonder what the deal should be for our parties....or if we even have them if we are not a bachelor/bachelorette anymore. I'd rather just go to a strip club with him!! :-)

Thank you in advance :-)

Answer 1

If you trust him enough to marry him, you can trust him enough to go out and get drunk with his friends. And I don't see why you can't go out after the wedding for a bachelor/bachelorette gathering. The whole point is to celebrate the end of your single days and it's not like there's an expiration date on that. Go out with your friends, enjoy the night and go on with your married life. P.S. you can have a Jack and Jill bachelor party with all your  friends going to a strip club in one big group.  

Answer 2

Sounds like you have a fun relationship!  Don't stress about not getting to have a bachelor/bachelorette party- you seem like you're in a healthy, trusting relationship, so it's not like you'll never get another girls'/guys' night out again.  Maybe if you're open to it, plan a wild co-ed strip club night to celebrate your elopement, maybe a few weeks from now.  Best of luck!

Answer 3

If you elope, you are giving up all the pre-wedding parties. However, if you want to go out and have a post elopement party with your friends, why not? Go out and have a great time!

Answer 4

The whole point of Bachelor/ette parties is to celebrate that last night as a single person.  You are no longer single, so there is no reason to have these parties.  

If you want, get all your friends together and do something as a group to celebrate your marriage.

Answer 5

You could do a night out celebration all together!

Or go out separate with the guys.girls but I wouldn't consider then bachelor parties since its not your last "single" night any longer.  

Answer 6

well obviously you won't be a bachelorette so you can't have a bachelorette party.  I don't have blonde hair anymore so I can't throw myself a blonde party, get it?  if you want to have a sort of reception after you elope with all  your friends and maybe family, that's different, but the idea of splitting up and you going with yr girlz and him going with his friends to separate places or on separate nights is only something you would do before you're married.  I mean married couples should have their own friends and time apart and all, but not as a celebration of your wedding.

Answer 7

In my opinion, you can do what you want. As the others said, it won't "technically" be a bachelor/ette party, you can still have a night out with each of your friends. At this day in age, anything goes.  

Answer 8

If your friends want to throw you both one, GO FOR IT!

Especially since you are up for both of you going to a strip club.

Answer 9

Dont have them at all unless your not having strippers.Never understood why people want a stripper at their party.Pointless.The only man I want dancing dirty on me is my man.