Back to back, I have lost 2 grandmothers and my mother...What can I take to calm my nerves down?

Question

Know of any natural cures/remedies?

Answer 1

I would recommend counseling.  Hospice offers individual and group grief counseling (usually FREE)- even if no one in your family used hospice.

Some herbal cures can be helpful.  But they can interact with other medications that you may take.  They can also complicate some medical conditions.  So you have to research very carefully.  Personally I never take anyones word for things like this.  I do extensive research before running out and buying anything.

Good luck

Answer 2

Sorry for your losses, I also lost my mom ,sister and good friend all within a two year period.

Try some yoga and breathing exercises, they really will help, it may take a bit of getting use to doing them but give it some time.

Allow yourself to grieve but try not to get caught up in your grief,it can be hard not to.

Prayer and some reading on the subject also helps.

Peace...

Answer 3

Losing someone is very hard on nerves.  Losing three loved ones quickly is a tremendous amount of sorrow.  It's no wonder you are having a rough time.  I extend my sympathies to you.

There are several things you can do, depending on your beliefs.  Meditation may help if you choose to try it.  Or prayer which works wonders for some.  But there are times your mind is overwhelmed with grief and it doesn't seem to work the way you want it to, no matter what your beliefs are.  You just seem to be adrift.

Natural remedies, like St. John's Wort or massage therapy, may help get you through some of the hard times, but there are times that you may need more than they can provide.  A doctor can prescribe some light medication that can take the edge off and allow you to calm down enough to start healing.   It isn't going to happen overnight though.  I hated to hear that it "just takes time".  Mostly we want to get over it and feel some sort of normal again.   It doesn't work that way for many of us.  I felt like it was comparable to being hit in the head by a 2 by 4, then having to go on with my life as before.  Only nothing was the same.  

Keeping busy, especially if you can focus on helping  someone else, is key to restoring some peacefulness inside.   At first you may have no good days, then gradually you will surprise yourself smiling or laughing at something once in awhile.  Later, you notice you had a mostly good day in the middle of working through the sadness.   Finally, the ratio shifts to where you are having more good days than bad.   And eventually you resume a more normal life, though different in ways which  took you some time to adjust to.  

I would  recommend seeing a doctor or alternative-healing  practitioner---whichever you feel better about----and get their recommendations.   There's nothing wrong with taking some light medication for grief until it becomes more manageable.  Just choose the doctor wisely, and don't be afraid to change if something isn't working for you.

I wish you the best and hope easier days are just around the corner.

Answer 4

st. john's wort. can be found in walgreen's or any pharmacy, also valerian.

Answer 5

No way, gotta go to your doc and explain your situation.  They will give you the good stuff...benzos.  You might need to see a counselor as well just to work through it.  That sounds very traumatic, I'm really sorry about your losses.

Answer 6

Lots of deep breathing or rescue remedy.

Answer 7

tinctures/extracts of...

Skullcap - a nervine that help you relax when you are feeling overwhelmed.

Kava Kava - a bit stronger for stronger situations

St. John's wort - mood lifter. best if taken every day as you will notice the effects more over time

use as directed on the bottle

Answer 8

What got me through the back to back loss of my mother and my dear mother-in-law was a combination of breathing, prayer (as guidance, an ongoing conversation with God), being out in nature a lot (lots of long walks, solitary picnics, and mini-retreats or timeouts), journaling, and getting clear on what their deaths meant in terms of my own life.  Chamomile and mint tea are also soothing, and non-addictive.  Rhodiola is also a good, natural anti-depressant.  It has the affect of bringing you back to your center (your inner joy) without harmful side effects.  Find what works for you.  Peace.