Bad Baby's Daddy? What are my options?

Question

Hi, my babies father is no good for my baby. He is a constant liar. I found out he's been in Jail 3 times for fighting. He told me not to acknowledge his 2 year old neice because he was mad at her mother.

He lies about everything, from why he got fired (can't keep a job) to how much money he put in gas. It's frivilous childish lies. When i broke up with him he called my brother in law and said he wanted nothing to do with my baby.

Anyways- i don't want child support (he's not good for it anyway) but i also don't want him to have any rights, no visitation, nothing.

I was told to not put his name on the birth certificate, but is there anything else I can do? I don't want him playing games with my child or teaching him to fight. (He thinks it's awesome to kick people's windows in or shove men in the shopping line)

What are my options?

Answer 1

well - it doesnt sound great but i was in a similar situation and i told my guy after i found out he cheated lied and said he didnt want anything to do with us and then would play games and threatened to take my baby away - Anyways i told him that i miscarried and he didnt even have anything to worry about and ive been doing it on my own ever since. I don't call him i dont see him i avoid him at all costs and i intend to keep it that way...

My lawyer also told me that in addition to not putting his name on the bc you also should NEVER let him take the baby for visits. He said something about the father not legally having to give the baby back. And also he said i didnt have to tell him about appointments or when the baby is born.

Good luck.  

Answer 2

yes its true that if his name isnt on the birth certificate then he has no rights and i wud go and get an injuction out on him that means if he comes any where near you he cud get arrested just ecnore him and change your number if hes causing u horrible phone calls good luck hunnie i knw hw u feel i have been in the same boat as u with violence as well

Answer 3

great guy to have s*x with!  

get him to sign over his parental rights, and make sure he has no visitation with the kid.

Answer 4

well first of all... I am sorry. I know what its like to have a crappy ex. Im not sure if keeping his name off the birth certificate will do much if he wants to be a part of the childs life. Your main concern is that baby. Just try your best to work with him (its the only way to make things workable) Good luck... it will all work out!

Answer 5

Kick him to the curb or you will have many many years of unhappiness. He is a total Looooser !

Answer 6

NTO MUCH YOU CAN DO UNLESS HE'S ABUSIVE TO THE CHILD, THE ONLY WAY U CAN KEEP HIM FORM THE BABY IS BEING ABLE TO PROVE HE UNFIT, EVEN IF U DONT PUT HIM ON THE B.C HE CAN REQUEST A DNA TEST TO GET RIGHTS

Answer 7

Oh Honey, good luck.  If he wants to keep his parental rights theres not a whole lot you can do.  I'm going through the same thing.  I'm due on Sept. 20 and I left my babies father for cheating and being abusive when I was 7 months.  He has only now started calling and only because my due date is approaching.  I am not gonna tell him when I go into labor and I'm giving my baby my last name.  He lost parental rights to his other 2 kids and I'm still trying to figure out what I'm gonna do.  I hope all goes well for you girl.  Men can be such b******s!!

Answer 8

Unfortunately in most states he has the right to take you to court for visitation. In which they will establish child support regardless of whether you want it or not. Most courts see child support as the child right and not the the mothers! Meaning in all likely hood if he were to take you to court and he did not pay the child support the child could go to court against the father when they turn 18. Most states do not take not paying child support lightly ether. Which could be used to your advantage to have things against him! As for now I would keep a journal of all his actions. That way if he takes you to court for visitation you have more than just your word of his behavior. Also keep as many witnesses to his actions as possible. Let the judge know of is rap sheet. Next if they award him visitation keep track of all visit and wright down anything suspicious. If he is really not wanting anything to do with this child and he is like you say, I have a feeling you will be ok. He most likely will not do these things. However not having him as father will hurt you if you ever need state assistance. The state can refuse medicaid , food stamps and cash assistance if you do not tell them the fathers name! Most states want to force fathers to be responsible for the child and will not give  assistance if you do not allow them to pursue him. The best thing you can do is what your friend told you to do in leaving his name off the birth certificate.  Hope you don't ever need aid and hope he doesn't take you to court!