Bad Mannered Boyfriend

Question

I have been dating a guy for about 3 months and have never seen such horrid manners in my life! He is constantly touching himself, playing with it (mostly around the house)! Then he will pull his hands out of his pants and grab the remote! The inside of his pants are a resting place for his hands and his hands are always moving and playing with "it." Next, it's as though he has something against eating utensils. He will eat vegetables (on his plate) with his fingers! Just picks it up with his fingers and eats! Then he smacks when he eats! It is so freaking annoying! To the point where I will turn up the TV or talk so I can't hear him smack! I think I am going to blow up on him soon so I need serious advice on how to address these issues!

Answer 1

If he hasn't stopped fiddling with the monkey by now, he probably won't anytime soon.

Tell him it bothers you and if he keeps doing it, and it's such a large issue, find someone else.

Answer 2

If he corrected his habits would you still want him?  If so then have a heart to heart discussion.  If he will be more cleanly for you, find a way to reward him!

If he just won't change and you can't live like that then just part as friends.

Don't talk to him angrily though.  That will end it right there.  

Answer 3

My co worker smacks his food....and moans while eating.....and talks to himself about how good the food is. he is ssssssssssooooooooooo friking GROSS!!! you need to just be honest with him, i like what the other girl said about p***s flavored food. he may honestly not realize what he is doing, or this may ba a long time, hard habit to break him of. i wouldnt stand for that c**p though it's way too gross!

Answer 4

Ask him if he likes his food "p***s flavored" .... and then just say " I mean you are touching and playing with "it" all day and then eat with your hands, you must really like it..." may be it'll make him think twice about doing both. If he's making all that noise when eating mimic him to show him how gross it sounds.

Answer 5

You have to tell him how you feel.  If he doesn't stop this behaviour then you need to end it with him because if it already drives you crazy after 3 months imagine how you will feel later on!

Answer 6

I broke up with a guy like this. Try to talk to him about it first. The problem with my ex is that he didn't see anything wrong with it and refused to stop. If your boyfriend is willing to change, then great! Some people, though, are very set in their habits. Remind him that little boys do what he does. Not grown men.

Answer 7

This is gross. Why did you get so involved with him before you had taken enough time to see whether his personal behavior was disgusting? How can you bear to kiss him or have s*x?

If you would rather listen to the TV or your own voice just to avoid hearing him, you should end the relationship and look for a man with decent manners.

Answer 8

Be Honest! say Did you ever realize that you yada,yada,yada...

It drives me crazy

Answer 9

Just tell him.... isn't a realationship about communication???

So... Go Communicate!

Tell him you think it's bad manners to be constantly touching yourself around you. He needs to learn how to be a gentlemen. He's human, not the beast from beauty and the beast. Use a fork. and use it properly.

You can go about being honest or you can show him/teach him how to use utensils properly. it's possible that he may not know how.

Also... why don't you walk around with your hands in your pants around the house for a day... see if he notices... if he does, he'll say something... then you say well you do the same thing

Answer 10

Speak with him directly about your concerns, but don't be nasty.  Give him a chance to change.  He may not even realize his behaviors are irritating to you.

However, if you speak with him directly and there is resistance or no evidence of change, then move on.  Remember, these behaviors are, at this point, HABITS, and habits are very difficult to break.  Watch for evidence of changing.

I spent time with a guy who played with it all the time too, to the point that he had worn spots on his pants.  I feel for you.  Gross.

Answer 11

Are you this hard up for a boyfriend?  Do you fear being alone?  I would rather not have anyone in my life than to have someone like this that I can call "my boyfriend".  What will your family think when you introduce him to them (if you do)?  They will think your values have gone down the tubes and wonder where they had gone wrong.  I don't want to sound nasty, but time is precious and he is not living up to your standards.  Move on!

Answer 12

is he *******?!

dump him! get a white, well-mannered boyfriend!

Answer 13

I, myself, HATE smacking, period! It would make me wanna strangle him. & with the playing, he needs to wash his hands. He seems ill-mannered.