Bad high school image, need help changing it?

Question

I'm a 10th grader in high school who is generally a very outgoing person and has many good friends. Although, my life is really in bad shape right now as one of my "friends" is ruining my life. He's telling every single person that I am g*y (I'm really not), and he still yet has more friends than me. It's probably because he dresses cooler in a sense. I'm a pretty average guy, I also play #1 tennis for my hs team, he makes fun of me a lot about this and immediately calls me g*y and what not.

This is ruining my image as many other people are also catching on and are starting call me the g*y kid. In reality though, I'm 6 foot tall, 135 pounds, and a pretty strong , good-looking guy. There's nothing about my outer appearance to even make fun of really. He's using me playing tennis as a target. I don't know what to do at all. Even if I stop being friends with him, he has the exact same school schedule as me so there is no escaping from this torture. I'm also a straight A student in almost all AP classes. He can ask me for answers on homework, but he doesn't know how to be a good friend. I feel really bad too cause I had great friends where I used to live, I've been living in this city for only about a year now.

Anyways, I really need advice on how to deal with this.

Answer 1

I am really sorry this guy is being such a jerk.

As cliched as this is, you really should go see a school counselor, he/she can help you with this, or at least help you in possibly changing classes. Find some people that are still your true friends and stick with them, if they're really good friends they'll correct people for calling you g*y, and you can do this too. Say something like, "Sorry, you're mistaken. I'm not g*y, that's just a vicious rumor that this guy is spreading about me."

On the lighter side, I bet he's just jealous of your tennis skills and good looks :]

Answer 2

Beat him up!

Answer 3

Make sure next time the a*****e calls you g*y in front of a bunch of people, you drop your backpack, look him in the eye and say 'what did you call me?' in a low deep voice. If he says i called you g*y, then say, well that means I have to shove my foot up your AZZ. and proceed to kick the snot out of him. Is it brutish? yes, but that way NO ONE will call you g*y again. What is the price? a couple of bruises and 3 days vacation off school.

Good luck, and remember, if your losing, kick him in the crotch.

Answer 4

ignore him. and obviously he isn't your friend cuz friends don't say stuff like that bout each other. just be your self. if people stop being your friend cuz they think your g*y, their loss cuz you sound like a great guy.

Answer 5

You are on your way in the perfect way.  Your friend is jealous and calling you that for fear that they will call him that.  After all, he is copying you, right.  Just be CONFIDENT, don't let rumors affect you.  You are who you are, if being g*y is part of it, embrace it.  If it is not, then no harm done.  Your self esteem is not for sale, barter, or up for his opinion.  You are you, he can't change that.  The only thing he can hope to attempt is to change perception.  If you don't allow it, it can't happen.  Be strong.  He's a dweeb.  High school is temporary, as torturous as it is.  Dump him as a "friend", he is no such thing.  No conversation, nothing.  End.

Answer 6

I think a good old fashioned threat/*** kicking is in order. I don't normally advocate violence, but for some people it's the only language they understand, and it's more acceptable for a guy to behave like this anyway. You're a tall, talented guy and he's jealous and wants to make you look bad, just tell him where to go. Be brave.

Answer 7

Start dating a girl and make him look stupid.

Just because he has a bunch of friends doesn't mean he's cooler.

The people around him are just following his lead.

And people in 10th grade saying stuff like "Your g*y" are probably immature, low lifes, and he could be saying that because he might be really g*y himself.  

Answer 8

You have so many things in your life to give you confidence - good grades, good at a sport, tall, not obese, advanced classes - dude, you have got it going on!

On the other hand, you feel you need the approval of people who believe rumors and of an emotional bully...  Don't think so!

Best thing you can do is stay true to yourself and gradually, gradually real friends will come to you.  Don't spend a lot of time deflecting his bad karma and negative talk.  That will give it too much attention.  Be yourself and take the high road.

Answer 9

look you should totally dump him as a friend. You sound like a pretty good looking guy so to help with the g*y thing maby try getting a girlfriend, or just ignore him. don't talk to him or give him any of your homework ansers. and don't let him making fun of you make you want to quit tennis. besides he's probably just jelling cause your so good at tennis!!!

Answer 10

that doesn't sound like a very good friend, stop hanging out with him and your life might seem easier, even if he doesn't stop right away.  Confront him and tell him calmly and nicely that it hurts your feelings.  And dont let him ruin your life ;-).

Good luck!!

Hannah <3

Answer 11

make fun of it

if you take it seriously

everyone will think youre getting offensive because its true

and by letting them know that it gets to you makes them

like it even more and gives them more of a reason to call

you that.

so just laugh it off

idk maybe even throw in that he just calls you g*y

cuz he wishes you were to keep him company<3

Answer 12

Tell him

-To p**s off

-To stop fantasizing

-To shut the **** up, or you'll kick his ***.

Ugh.

I hate kids like that.

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Answer 13

Dude, my heart goes out to you. I'm a sophomore as well and have gone through a lot of what you're dealing with.

For starters, tennis = hot. Look at Roger Federer. There's nothing g*y about tennis. And congrats on being #1 while you're only a sophomore. That's pretty huge.

Going along the lines of that, I bet he's just jealous of your good looks and athletic ability.

And I completely understand where you're coming from with the 'friend-when-he-needs-me' thing. I went through that for six years. It was hard to break it off with her because I was so attached. Long story short, she moved on to "better" friends, and I was left behind. That was all in eighth grade, though, and I've made better friends than she ever was.

So you need to let him know (privately) that he's being a total dickface. Because there might be a slight chance he's kidding and doesn't know it hurts you as bad as it does. Probably not, but it's worth a try. And if that doesn't work, start something with him in front of a couple friends. Nothing major, just tell him off a little. If he doesn't get the hint, and you dislike him that much, and you have no other option, I'd say fight him. But only as a last resort. And if you fight him, make sure you have a good chance of winning. Or else people will continue to call you g*y for losing. Sucks but it's true.

Honestly, though, the best piece of advice I can give you is to ignore it. Or at least make it look like you are. You show him a weak spot, and he'll know right where to punch. So keep your chin up and act like it doesn't bother you.

Oh, and, get a hot girlfriend. Hehe. ;D