Bad responses to male house people?

Question

This question is one of the reasons that I think men need liberation:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AnJYmvZGctYAll1_f2z8pUMYxgt.;_ylv=3?qid=20080728155233AAlb102

Referring to a man being a house husband/stay to home parent, the answers disgusted me with their negativity and hositility.

People go on about women being liberated, but clearly people are far more derrogative of a man who wants to be the stay at home person.

I see controversy from two sides. On one hand there would be women that believe in liberation yet believe that men should still be opressed in this way. Then the men on the site that always talk about men's rights being ignored, yet there is no contribution except negative to this question. Are mens rights only valuable if they tie in with what's a 'man'?

Answer 1

It goes against the grain of most way men think but I wouldn't look down at a stay at home dad. But, I do think any woman that brings in more income than there husband secretly hates that he gets to spend all day with the kids while she works. But, thats just an idea no fact to it. Oh an I have had a friend or 2 where the wife made more an believe me they are reminded constantly of that fact.

Answer 2

Please also note that the negative responses came from well-known antis.

I do think a lot of MRAs here tend to deride men who live like this as "feminized." Do they really need that kind of division?

Answer 3

My dad was a house husband- he and my mum swapped the roles pretty equally.  One would go out and work, while the other stayed home- and then they swapped, depending on who could bring in the greater income.  I always thought it was wonderful- My parents showed me in the best possible way how an equal partnership works.

Edit: In no way would I describe my father as "feminised".   Being a man never stopped him from cooking and cleaning (and he's a great cook- they both are). And now that the kids are out of the house, and they both work, they both do their own share of cleaning and cooking.

Answer 4

Yes it's quite pathetic. People really show their true colours on here sometimes don't they? It's interesting that some female 'house people' go on about how much work they do around the house, but when describing a male 'house person' they just say he'll sit around and gossip all day. Lol. Is that really what THEY do then? :-)

Answer 5

It was the way the guy was coming off; like he was begging; I'm a woman and even I don't beg. Further more he made no mention that proved otherwise.

Answer 6

Men are oppressed? That's hardly likely. Men's right are valuable and have always been, the last time I checked they didn't have to earn it, it was something they were born with. Where as women had to fight for and are still fighting for it, in this very day and age.

Answer 7

Our choices seem to be limited to one, work from school to retirement age, I'm not complaining, life's not meant to be easy.

What I don't get is why feminists/women, who seem to have all these different choices and safety nets in place to catch them should anything go wrong, are complaining about oppression?.

EDIT to C.R. Its not misinformation, its well known that women have control of their reproductive systems, can choose to be a sahm married, a sahm single, a single or married professional, employers pay if a proffessional wants to have children AND be a professional, should she opt out of a marriage the laws are in her favour, there's even childcare in schools now?  We are ironing out everything for you and you are still crying victim.

These elderly women you speak of will be the last of their kind I'm sure.

Answer 8

I think that because you are a man that its escaped your notice that anything dealing with children is low-status (like taking care of your own offspring  - efforts not recognised with a paycheque).  In the working world, where people get a salary to work with other people's children - say at daycare facilities - its low status and very lowly paid work.

"But california this is exactly my point. It comes up in women that are housewives - just because you are a stay at home mum does NOT mke you a brainless drone."

That may well be true but its immaterial.  ANYTHING ASSOCIATED WITH CHILDREN is sneered upon because there is no money in it!

You guys need to read more.  Sociologists have written about this phenomena at great length.

*Eohan,  elderly woman constitute the poorest segment of society.  Where are you getting your misinformation from?