Ballroom dancing?my bf is saying it's just work?

Question

he's part time dance instructor but m jealous when he dances with others

Answer 1

I hope this doesn't sound rude but.....you've just got to get over that hun!

He's an instructor, that is what he does.  And, especially in ballroom dancing, he's going to HAVE to be touching and get close to other girls.  You have to get used to that.

All you are doing by getting jealous is putting more stress on the relationship than there needs to be.  You're thinking to much and it's causing you to see things that aren't really there.

Don't jump to conclusions unless there's a reason too.

If you care about him you'll trust him and believe him when he says it's just work.

Answer 2

Don't worry about it, its his job and when he gets home from work hes all yours. Just hang in there and you will get used to it, if you don't it might hurt the relationship.

Answer 3

It should be just work for him and if he is professional about it he shouldn't be giving or accepting mixed signals. Ballroom dancing involves physical contact. Get used to the idea because he (hopefully) already have, long time ago. He's probably not even noticing that there is a human body next to him.

Ask him to explain it to his students that they should be calling at an appropriate time. What are they calling about anyway? If it's about a scheduling a lesson then get used to it too - this is how it's done: you call your instructor to schedule a lesson. But normal people call between 10 am and 8 pm.

Answer 4

I'm assuming this is how he makes a living. If so, it is likely "just work." Ballroom dancing, especially at higher levels, requires body to body contact for certain dances. He is a professional and should be behaving as such.

If he is working out of a studio, there should be no reason for clients to be calling him directly. However, if he is self-employed or does privates, he's going to need to speak with his clients to set up lessons.

If women are consistently calling at 3:00 a.m., he needs to set boundaries with his clients, clearly explaining what his hours are - or he could put them on his business cards. If it is just one person doing this, he should speak with them about it.

You need to ask yourself some questions - does he have any sort of history of behaving badly? Has he given you any reason to really not trust him? If the answers are no, odds are you have no reason to be jealous.  

I hope this helps - good luck!

Answer 5

3 am is a little extreme.  Does he have very few clients or something, that he has to put up with that?  I would say even if he does he ought to tell whomever is calling him that the wee small hours of the morning is great to dance to but not a time to call.  Other calls--that's the biz, babe, get used to it.

Otherwise, get over the jealousy.  This is what he does.  You don't say whether YOU dance with him or not, and that's an important thing.  There are studios (and teachers) out there encouraging instructors to lead their students on as it were.  If he's involved in one of these dubiously ethical studios, then I would suggest he find work quickly elsewhere.