Becoming a dad?

Question

i found out i was pregnant a month ago.since then its been really hard to talk to the father,my boyfriend about the baby and he tries to avoid it as much as he can.he says hes gonna get used to it but it seems like he hasnt made any progress at all.how can i help my him come to terms with becoming a father and be ok with it before the baby is born?

Answer 1

bribe him with a lot of s*x and money and drugs

Answer 2

it took my daughters father until i was about 4 months to be ok with it, it will happen. after about 4 months i just started talking about it more and showed him pictures they had given me

Answer 3

My boyfriend was really sketchy about it too.. I almost thought about just leaving him because he didn't seem to be very understanding. I guess it's just a lot harder for men, because they see parenthood as losing their whole lives.. they view it the same way they do marriage.. they're afraid they'll lose all of their freedom.  About a month after we found out we were having a little one.. he got happy about it.  He actually (on free will) bought the first baby item.  He went to the mall and came back with it.. it wasn't until then that I realized he was pretty excited.

Answer 4

Once he sees the baby it will change his mind. Sometimes its hard for 1st time dads as they can only see he changes in your body but dont understand the joy and happiness a child can bring. Expose him to some friends with small babies and let him see how tender and sweet they are and he will come around. If not he will miss the great gift god gave us all and that is to be a parent.

Answer 5

it's scary for men they feel a lot of responsibilty as being the man and father caring for another being they don't have the maternal   instinct that our hormones bring us.

Answer 6

Have you had an ultrasound yet? Make sure he is with you when you do..... my bet is his heart will melt and he will be very excited all of a sudden.....

My dh found the reality hard until he could see for himself.

Seeing is believing.

Congratulations.

Answer 7

I only knew my husband for about a month before I got pregnant.  He was happy, and danced around for days.  Wait until your husband goes with you to an ultrasound, or get a picture of it for him, he'll start to come around.  That was my reaction, I didn't want to be pregnant!

Answer 8

just be patient and supportive, it usually takes men a while to come to terms with the responsibilities of a new baby.

Answer 9

I truly believe in this saying-

A mother becomes a mother when she becomes pregnant.

A father becomes a father when he sees his child.

The thought of being a father right now might scare him,

I think you should just give him time.

congrats!

Answer 10

I'm a dad there is  nothing in this world  like the children  love them and always will  shoot i saw my son come out wow what a feeling i had it was beautiful just to hold them when they r so small j

ust love them