Becoming a surrogate Mom in Indiana?

Question

I love being pregnant and my handles it well. I have 2 kids close in age (3 and 19 months) and I am starting to get baby fever but I am so not ready for a 3rd. I decided I would LOVE to be a surrogate mother. It would be so awesome to give a couple (even if its a g*y couple) the wonderful gift of a baby. It would mean so much to me!

Well after some researching online I found out that Indiana's law for surrogacy is

"Indiana law declares surrogacy contracts unenforceable as against public policy."

I contacted a place that does surrogacy and the woman told me that it means that if I became a surrogate mother in the state of Indiana no matter what the contract said between me and the intended parents. If something were to happen no court would uphold the contract. Its pretty much useless. So the company wouldnt let me become a surrogate.

Does anyone have any more information on this? Am I out of luck?

Answer 1

No, you're not out of luck.  You can find a private attorney to handle the transaction once you've found a couple to be a surrogate for and have agreed in basis on the financial side.  Where these fall apart is when you use your egg instead of the couple's donor egg.  At that point they don't have much legal room.  So make certain to at least offer egg donation on their part as being acceptable.

Answer 2

Please try to remember that babies are not like other gifts, they are not inanimate objects but actually PEOPLE.  People do not like for their mothers to give them away it is a horrible feeling that lasts all your life.

Why you would intentionlly inflict this pain on an innocent child, without even thinking about the child but some strange "g*y couple" that you don't even know...

Is very sad.

Answer 3

I would say no

Answer 4

You need to be sure that this is what you realy want to do.

Answer 5

There is an attorney somewhere around Monrovia, Indiana that handles surrogacy work.  You can find him online. I would recommend contacting him to get more info on surrogacy in Indiana.  I don't know him personally, but I know he does a lot of advertising.  I think his name is Stephen Litz.

Answer 6

My suggestion is that you really ponder this before commiting to anything. Are you willing to use your own eggs? Have you thought about what you would do if you actually came to see the child as "yours" since you carried and gave birth to him or her? I too love being preg for the most part and I spit em out like it is nothing, but, huge huge but, I also love them far before their birth and not because they are linked to me by DNA. I love them because it is my body that is nurturing them and giving them life. Surrogacy is very much like adoption, even if using donor eggs. You may very well feel a bond with the child and then you will feel a loss. Are you 100% certain, with no doubt that you will be able to turn off your maternal feelings and love enough to give the child your body helped create to it's "rightful" parents?

All I am saying is that a decision of this magnitude requires deep soul searching. I would hate for anyone to have to deal with the emotional loss if they were unprepared or unwilling.

Answer 7

Quote: "It might be hard to be pregnant for 9 months and then turn the baby over to another couple..but it would mean a lot to make them happy."

It might mean a lot, but that doesn't mean it's enough. Not for you, and not for the child.

Being pregnant and then giving your child away has lasting repercussions for both mom and baby.

Answer 8

I'm sorry but I'm just not sure how carrying a child to full term and then giving it as a gift is going to cure your "baby fever".  

You will not get to raise this child, hold this child, cuddle this child.  The baby will be gone forever.

I don't think you get any baby showers when you are a surrogate.

And the hormones you feel when you have a baby  the ones meant for bonding and all that good stuff, they will still be there.  Your baby will be gone and he or she will call someone else mommy.

Answer 9

No, do not give up that easy, if you're really determined to do it. You seem have a goal. So pursue it. Because there are millions of people need a baby.

Answer 10

Surrogate moms are wonderful, selfless people. I think what you want to do is an extremely honorable thing. Surrogacy contracts are a tough subject - you didn't mention whose eggs you would be using?

I hope you pursue this. It's such an amazing thing to do for a couple - and extremely admirable. If you find a couple you are comfortable with, even if you don't have a formal contract you could still go ahead with it if you could rely on their word without a doubt. I'm sure it would be hard to hand over the baby you've carried - but it would feel so incredible to know that you've made a couple into a family. I think what you're doing is great.

Answer 11

u could just use an illinois address...its not that bad ......i do it to prevent out of state tuition fee's ..... wellll its not the most honest thing but that law is not fair either