Becoming my true self-or not?

Question

I feel selfish and confused

I have so many role models that I want to be like.

One is a friend I had. She always had this awesome sense of style and I have wanted to be like that...wearing what I really want to wear.

But since she did it naturally second nature...I feel like I don't have right to do it! Am I right?

Just because I'm conciously thinking that I want to be different should I not do it?

I also know someone else who I'd like to be like...she is sweet and sensitive and feminine while I am a tomboy.

I know that's what I'm like naturally...but...can I change into someone more like her without giving up who I really am?

I know who I want to be.

But I feel like...If I try and become her than I'll be turning my back on my self NOW.

The problem is...I'm not a great person at the moment.

If I had an outlook on life like my friend and a quirky sense of style I think I'd be happier and more of who I want to be!

I'm confused about this.

Can I conciously change myself?

Answer 1

You didn't give your age, but it sounds like teenage angst. You are still becoming. It won't be until your thirties that you really know where your going or what you will be and then, of course, its too late.  

Answer 2

if your happy the way you are then why should you change? If you would rather be how your friends are then do that.

Answer 3

If you are desiring to be someone different than who you are, it's o.k. to change. Often we desire to be like somebody else, but we feel that if we change our own lives to be more like someone we admire, that people will ridicule and call us copycats, etc...

Just love yourself and be who you want to be to the world... Don't worry about what other people think. If your friend is worthy of a certain style for her life, then so are you.

You go right ahead and be a butterfly if you wish...