Bed wetting almost 4 year old?

Question

My daughter will be 4 in October and has been potty trained during the day since she was just over 2. However, she still wets the bed a lot. She was wearing pull-ups until recently but I got the feeling she was just going in them when she woke up in the morning instead of getting up to go to the toilet. So about 3 weeks ago I ran out of pull-ups and told her she would have to go without. She was dry for 8 days (after me taking her to the toilet when I went to bed) but since then she's been wet about every other night. Sometimes its in the morning, but sometimes its in the middle of the night. Last night I took her at about 9:30 and she wet the bed at 3 o'clock. She doesn't have a drink after dinner at 5:30 and goes to bed at 7:00.

My question is do you think I should put her back in pull-ups or should I persevere and deal with the wet beds?

Answer 1

i went through this too. i wouldnt buy any more pullups, unless going on a long car trip. my daughter did that too. when she'd have a few accidents after doing so well, i'd buy her pullups again, and i think she would just be lazy cuz she knew they were absorbant! lol. she has to get used to underwear. dont pressure her, just stay calm and say, well next time we'll use the big girl potty and not have accidents, right? and if it's at night, she should grow out of it. maybe she has a weak bladder. it happens.  

Answer 2

I wouldn't worry about getting a 4 year old to "stregnthen her vaginal muscles"...that's a start. There is one fail safe cure for this issue...TIME.

Save yourself the hassle and your daughter the frustration. Tell her not to worry about it. She will grow out of it. How many 16 year olds are there that wet the bed at night? Wet beds are not nice for anyone, plus you can then run the risk of encouraging moulds etc growing in the wet mattress. Take it easy...take your time, don't stress. It's no big deal. Importantly, make sure your daughter knows that it's just a part of growing up. The problem will fix itself.

Answer 3

My daughter is almost four and she only stopped wearing pull ups to bed at night about six months ago.

There were a lot of accidents, but what really helped was making her bed twice.  I would put on a matress protecter a set of sheets and then another matress protector and her favourite set of sheets.  She hated having to have her favourite sheets taken off the bed, but it was convenient in the middle of the night, I just had to strip the first layer off and then remake it with clean sheets the next day.

I also put a night light in the bathroom and in her bedroom so that when she got up in the night and needed to go she could find her way easily and she wasn't "scared" because it wasn't dark.

It's up to you what you want to do about going back to the pull ups or dealing with the wet beds.  If she was dry for 8 days, I do think she could do it again there's just something stopping her.  Fear or unability to reconize that she needs to pee when she's half asleep.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Put her back in Pull-Ups... Don't let her suffer through a wet bed for something that is completely out of her control.

At the age of four, the body's mechanisms for controlling the bladder while sleeping aren't always fully developed. From hormone production that lowers urine output to receptors in the bladder that communicate with the spinal cord and brian to signal a need to pee, they just aren't done growing.

Bedwetting, or better put, Nocturnal Enuresis is a common "problem" of children from potty training into grade school. Most children grow out of it before the leave elementary school. So no worries, just give her Pull-Ups and teach her how to clean herself up in the morning.

Cheers!

Answer 5

I think it is normal and you should cope with the wet beds.  As a nanny in the 90s I encountered kids who had accidents when they were 5 or 6.  About once a week.

Answer 6

i say she is doing it because she just doesn't want to get out of bed i went through a similar experience with my daughter who also 4 and she did well for a long time but i just put one of those bed protectors on her bed and washed her sheets all of the time and when she would do it i would swat her 1 time on her butt each time and tell her we don't pee in our underwear you are a big girl you pee in the potty and after a while she got use to it and i made sure that the bathroom light stayed on all through the night so she could see if she did get up and then some nights if i woke up in the middle of the night i would check on her and most of the time wake her and have her go to the bathroom so you should try a few of those things they should work but seriously don't go back to pull ups cause that would be like taking a step backwards because i took the same approach on both of my kids and i have a 2 1/2 year old boy also and niether of them wet the bed anymore

Answer 7

Myh sister had this problem until she was eight, my suggenstion (this solved her bed wetting issues) is to have her practice clenching her vaginal muscles before she goes to bed. In a few weeks her problem should clear up. Good Luck :)

Answer 8

It's up to you.  I don't think using one or the other will help or hurt your cause.  Some girls will wet the bed for a long time.  Perhaps you should try waking her up at midnight each night to use the restroom until she begins to be able to wake up on her own to use the restroom, or be able to hold it all night long.   If she just can't hold it for that long anyway, maybe you should look into training her to be able to wake up each night and use the restroom even if she doesn't feel the need to go.  Just a suggestion.

Answer 9

Shes only 4, don't stress too much. If she's out of pull ups now don't go back unless the laundry gets too much or you are getting angry.

After months of trying to get my 41/2 year old  out of pull ups and loads of wet beds, she noticed her best friend didn't have pull ups, and declared she didn't want them either. Not one wet bed since. Sometimes, these things are totally ramdom!

Answer 10

My daughter is also 4 in October and still not ready to go without nappies at night. She has been going to the potty/toilet since she was 2 years old. A few weeks ago I forgot to put a nappy on her at night and she wet the bed. I am going to try her without nappies at night at the end of the year when the whether is warmer (I am in Australia) and hope it works. I hope she will be out of nappies completely by the time shes 5 and not wetting the bed.

I don't really know what you should do, I guess persevering would be the best thing as she would eventually understand that being wet isn't right (if that makes sense) personally I never liked pull-ups because my daughter just thinks they're nappies therefore she doesn't get up to go to the toilet as she thinks 'I have a nappy on, I don't need to go to the toilet' Maybe just have a few pull-ups or nappies around for every now and then when you (and her) need a good night sleep. Best of luck with it all. :-)

Answer 11

put her in diapers! she will notice that her friends dont have them and not want to wear the. dont worry its normal